Coming to terms with your own sexuality is always a complicated and unique experience.
Even more complicated? Figuring out how to properly express that identity.

For some, it's easy: I'm a lesbian. I'm gay. I'm bisexual. I'm queer.


Maybe you feel more comfortable completely kicking said labels to the curb.
So, is there a right answer?
Spoiler alert: Probably not, but let's explore anyway.
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Which label or term do you usually use for yourself?
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vote votesGay
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vote votesLesbian
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vote votesBisexual
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vote votesPansexual
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vote votesAsexual
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vote votesQueer
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vote votesGal Pal
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vote votesStraight/Heterosexual
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vote votesIf sexuality is a spectrum, how can I choose? Unidentifiable like a UFO, baby.
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vote votesHonestly, it depends who I am talking to.
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vote votesNone of these – labels are for food products.
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Do labels add to your identity or limit it?
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vote votesThey are limiting and isolating. I refuse to be confined.
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vote votesThey make me feel less alone! I'm part of a vast community of people with similar experiences.
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When someone tells you they "don't use labels," you feel...
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vote votesUpset. It's a privilege to be able to go sans labels.
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vote votesFine. They are probably just saying that until they find a label that suits them.
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vote votesHappy — that's so progressive of them!
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vote votesNo feelings either way. If you want to use them, do it. If you don't... don't!
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When is it okay to NOT use labels?
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vote votesWhen you don't want to.
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vote votesWhen you aren't sure about which one fits you yet.
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vote votesWhen you're putting leftovers in the fridge.
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vote votesNever — why hide who you are?
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If you DO use labels, have they changed over time?
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vote votesNo, I've always just used the one.
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vote votesOf course; I was figuring things out.
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vote votesNot yet, but if they did change that would be OK!
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It is even worth caring about how other people label themselves?
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vote votesYes! Representation, visibility, and community are still very important to a lot of people.
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vote votesEh, policing people and the way they express their sexuality is a waste of time.