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    16 Things It's Okay To Not Have Figured Out By Your Thirties

    Dating, relationships, and human interaction in general. Illustrated by comedian Mo Welch's "Live From Lombard" cartoon series.

    Just because you turn thirty, that doesn't mean you feel like an adult. Like, at all. Comedian Mo Welch illustrates this experience perfectly in her "Live From Lombard" cartoon series.

    BuzzFeed spoke with the self proclaimed "well-adjusted thirtysomething" about the inspiration behind her project:

    BuzzFeed: Okay, so what inspired this Blair character for you?

    Mo Welch: The inspiration came from staying at my moms house in Lombard, IL alone while she and my stepdad were on vacation. I was depressed and all of the beer in their house was from their wedding five years ago, so instead of drinking away my depression for a month or writing stand up jokes, I started drawing these Blair cartoons about how I felt. I felt like I was a melting ice cube, all of the feelings were happening and so the cartoon and long walks in suburbia helped be process my feelings. Anyway, I just draw them all in the morning on sketchbooks I bought from Walgreens and people seem to relate to them.

    BF: Are these all based of real personal experiences?

    MW: A lot of them are but some are just a darker version of my opinion on something, like bridal showers. Anything involving daddy issues or masturbation are from my life (CALL ME).

    BF: Any advice for the other depressed (well-adjusted) thirtysomethings out there?

    MW: It's okay to not have everything figured out. Nobody has it figured out and if they do they are an asshole. It's okay to eat a Pop Tart for dinner once in awhile. It's okay to watch Nicholas Sparks movies alone in the theater on opening night. It's okay to feel or be depressed. I always think of the Frida Kahlo quote that goes as follows: "I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do. I would imagine her an imagine that she must be out there thinking of me too. Well, I hope that if you are out there and read this and know that, yes, it's true I'm here, and I'm just as strange as you."

    Here are a few things it's perfectly okay to not have totally figured out... even in your thirties:

    1. It's alright if you haven't quite mastered cooking for other people, let alone yourself.

    2. It's more than alright to be single and feel some sort of way about it.

    3. You still have plenty of time to master flirting, dating, love – and all other basic human interactions.

    4. It's okay if you don't really understand (or choose to follow) the rules of the "car pool" lanes.

    5. Don't fret over keeping up with every single pop culture fad, or whatever the kids are talking about these days.

    6. Forgive yourself if you still don't understand the concept of personal time management.

    7. Don't panic if you haven't found that perfect hairstyle yet.

    8. It's okay to be confused and overwhelmed by the world of online dating...

    9. ... and the other kind of dating too.

    10. Don't feel the need to follow all those torturous fashion trends.

    11. Forgive yourself if you still shrink a sweater now and then (every singe time).

    12. What is the minimum bathing requirement to still be presentable to society? Who knows.

    13. It's more than alright to be over the wedding thing. Ban weddings.

    14. It's okay to let go of the people in your life that drag you down.

    15. Remember that nobody understand what the heck is going on with their face sometimes. It's not your fault.

    16. This whole "life" thing is tough, it's okay to not have it completely figured out.

    But seriously, what is happening on your face?

    Welch hopes that one day the series will be turned into a table book or animated project, but is "taking it slow with Blaire" for now. Check out more of her work right here.