Sarah Jessica Parker Says Carrie Wasn't A Bad Friend And I Found Receipts

    She wasn't all bad!

    Shyla Watson
    by Shyla Watson

    BuzzFeed Staff

    ICYMI, yesterday was the 20th anniversary of Sex and the City, a show that told me that 1. I'm a Charlotte and 2. I could never live in Manhattan.

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    To acknowledge this momentous occasion, writers at The Cut shared the moments from the show that stuck out to them the most, one of which was when Carrie was a pretty shitty friend to Miranda.

    For anyone that doesn't remember, Miranda injures herself after getting out of the shower and, unable to move, calls Carrie for help. Not wanting to miss her meeting, Carrie sends her boyfriend Aidan instead, who then helps a naked and mortified Miranda off the floor and to the hospital.

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    Carrie brings Miranda some bagels the next day, but instead of apologizing for not coming, she dives right into her drama with Aidan. Miranda, being the gem that she is, calls Carrie out on her bullshit, and tells her it's not okay to send her boyfriend in her place (or to bring bagels without cream cheese!).

    Anywayyyyy, after Sarah Jessica Parker saw this criticism, she defended Carrie and commented on the Instagram post calling that moment "the worst example," and insisting that there are "so many moments when Carrie is good, generous, reliable, loving, present, and supportive."

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    Now, I'm not going to lie. After re-bingeing the series as an adult, I recognize that Carrie is problematic AF. Like, truly. But, to be fair, they were all kind of a mess. So, in defense of Ms. Carrie Bradshaw, here are six moments where Carrie is good, generous, reliable, loving, present, and supportive of Miranda:

    Good: That time she tried to warn Miranda about an asshole.

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    In Season 3's "Frenemies," Miranda goes on a date with one of Carrie's exes. Carrie tries to warn her that "he's an asshole," but Miranda goes out with him anyway. Obviously, he did turn out to be an asshole and Carrie had been right all along. But, at least she tried to warn her. That's just being a good friend.

    Reliable: That time Miranda gave birth.

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    So, I hate to make this about Carrie when, if anyone during this episode (the Season 4 finale) should be praised, it's Miranda. Butttttt, when Carrie gets the call that Miranda's in labor, she leaves her date with Big and goes straight to the hospital. It was Big's last day in NY before he moved across the country, but Carrie made the sacrifice and showed up for Miranda when she needed her most. PLUS, Carrie stayed calm when Miranda's water broke all over her new Louboutins, and we know how that girl feels about her shoes.

    Generous: That time she set Miranda up with Skipper.

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    What's more generous than playing matchmaker? In the pilot, Carrie sets Miranda up with her friend Skipper. And, unlike when my friends try to set me up, it actually works out! Miranda and Skipper date off and on for the first couple of seasons. Who knew Carrie was such an Emma?

    Loving: That time she agreed to be Brady's godmother.

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    In Season 5's "Unoriginal Sin," Miranda asks Carrie to be Brady's godmother. Carrie is pretty nervous about the responsibility and almost backs out, but when Miranda tells her it's what she truly wants, she agrees out of love for Miranda.

    Present: That time Miranda was alone during the holidays.

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    In Sex and the City: The Movie, Miranda and Steve are separated and their son Brady spends the holidays with Steve. All alone on NYE and feeling lonely, Miranda calls Carrie, but insists that she's fine alone and that Carrie doesn't need to come over. But, Carrie could tell that Miranda was having a hard time and travels IN THE SNOW to surprise her. They stay up until the wee hours of the morning talking and drinking champagne. FRIENDSHIP!

    Supportive: That time Miranda's mother died.

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    In the very next episode after Bagel-gate (aka, S4's "My Motherboard, My Self"), Miranda's mother dies and Carrie is the first person she calls. Carrie sort of flails for most of the episode not knowing how to show Miranda that she's there for her, but in the final moments, when Miranda is crying and having a panic attack at the funeral, Carrie steps in to walk with her behind her mother's casket. It's a small gesture, but it means the world to Miranda and helps her make it through the day.

    Can you think of any other moments when Carrie was a good friend? Or, do you feel strongly that she wasn't? Tell me in the comments!

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