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19 Surprising Things That Happen When You Get Engaged

A lot of weird stuff goes down before the wedding.

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2. You have an in-depth discussion with your partner about the correct protocol for sharing the news.

Personal phone calls? WhatsApp messages? A Facebook status that somehow avoids being smug, sick-making, or featuring the phrase #soblessed?


6. Your mum starts planning her outfit almost immediately.

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Barely a day after the proposal she’s already tried on every knee-length dress in John Lewis and created a 30-strong shortlist of hats to fret over.

7. You discover that you and your partner definitely don’t have EVERYTHING in common when it comes to wedding plans.


This comes to light when one of you starts enthusing about a big white wedding for 200 people, while the other reveals their dream of 10 guests and a pub lunch. Awkward.

8. People start asking for intricate details of your wedding before you’ve even decided what year you're having it in.

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They REALLY want to know which hotel to book and what the parking situation is going to be like.


9. You're introduced to the wild world of wedding costs.

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As a rough rule, estimate how much a band/photographer/caterer will cost, double that price, and you're there.

11. You find out through Google searches that you were actually meant to start planning your wedding three years ago.

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Never look at a "wedding timeline" online unless you want to give yourself a heart attack.

12. Suddenly your inbox is bombarded after you accidentally sign up to loads of wedding websites.

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You thought you were just signing up to receive details of a venue, but actually you’ll be receiving updates on confetti and wedding diets for the rest of your life.


15. At least one parent will lose their mind.


Often the mother of the bride, who will start sending texts at 7am saying she has been experimenting with the best method of napkin-folding, despite your wedding being 11 months away.

16. Wedding blogs replace YouTube videos as your internet wormhole of choice.

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Until you literally can’t look at another string of homemade bunting or floral centrepiece EVER AGAIN.


19. … But the outpouring of joy from your friends and family is really touching.

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It’s lovely to realise people are so genuinely happy for you, and it makes all the stress of wedding planning worthwhile.