Women Are Sharing The Ways Men Disrespect Them When They Don't Find Them Attractive, And It's Dehumanizing
"I was back to being invisible."
Recently, TikTok user @wutshername asked in a now-deleted TikTok, "What's the most disheartening thing men do when they don't find you attractive, so they don't treat you like a human person?"
However, despite being deleted, the legacy of her question lives on. Women started chiming in with the ways men have blatantly disrespected them because they simply didn't find them attractive. Here are the most upsetting/dehumanizing responses:
@mollyatron said a man who didn't find her attractive put in extra effort to be rude to her when he could've just been civil:
Whenever @majormommyissues talks to men, even if it's not in a flirty or romantic way, they make a point to tell her that they "don't like Black girls," as if that's an OK thing to say in normal conversation:
@landon.harisss sees right through it when men try to play "Mr. Nice Guy" and notice her for 0.2 seconds while they're trying to get with her friends:
@alternegr0 mentioned that on top of blatantly ignoring her when she's with her more "attractive" friends, men will also flirt with her as a joke:
And finally, @biggreddb realized that "men truly only treat women like human beings when they find them attractive" when she lived with two sorority sisters:
To any women out there who have had to deal with this kind of degrading BS — I'm betting there are plenty of you out there — please don't base your value on how these kinds of men have treated you, because the problem is THEM, not YOU. I can guarantee that.
And to the men out there still perpetuating this kind of BS, it's time to realize that women are human beings who deserve respect REGARDLESS of whether you find them attractive. And if you're one of the "good guys" who "doesn't do this" but still lets your other friends get away with it, start calling them out. Otherwise, you're just as bad.
Submissions have been edited for length/clarity.