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17 Rom-Com Men People Realized Weren't Romantic At All And Actually Total Trash

We were supposed to be rooting for these guys?!

We asked the BuzzFeed Community to share which rom-com leading men they realized were actually trash, and they made some pretty fair points. See for yourself:

Warning: Some submissions include discussions of sexual assault.

1. Sam Coulson in Never Been Kissed, when he hit on Josie even though he thought she was A MINOR.

Sam telling Josie men will be lining around the block for her when she's "his age," and that he shouldn't be telling her that because he's her teacher.
20th Century Fox

2. Blane McDonough in Pretty in Pink, when he didn't want his friends to know he was dating Andie because her family was poor.

Andie demanding that Blane admit that he's embarrassed to be seen with her, and Blane claiming that she doesn't understand, and that it has nothing to do with her.

"Andie, you could've done way better."


3. Everett Stone in The Family Stone, when he let Meredith get bullied by his family.

20th Century Fox

"I know that Meredith was supposed to be cold and unlikable, but imagine how you'd feel as an outsider having Christmas with your boyfriend’s family, and there were so many of them too! They weren’t welcoming toward her, and he did nothing to try to make her feel more comfortable."


4. Eric Messer in Life as We Know It, when he was a jerk to Holly for no reason.

Messer asking, "Am I late?" to his date with Holly and Holly responding, "Um, just an hour."
Warner Bros.

"I get that he was supposed to be a little awful so we could understand why Holly didn't pursue a relationship with him, but his actions throughout most of the movie were pretty terrible, right up until he conveniently became better for the sake of plot, with no real reason why."


5. Joe Fox in You've Got Mail, when he knew Kathleen was Shopgirl but continued to treat her badly.

Warner Bros.

"Like, he figures it out pretty early on in the film that his online pen pal is the woman he's putting out of business. But not only does he not tell her he knows, he continues to be a jerk to her when they run into each other. His feelings for her didn't even stop him from putting her out of business and making her close her bookstore."


6. Tom in 500 Days of Summer, when he wouldn't accept that Summer didn't want a relationship.

Summer telling Tom that she like's him but just doesn't want a relationship, and Tom completely flying off the handle.
Fox Searchlight

"He tried to victimize himself every chance he got, built her up in his head, and then made her the villain of his story for not living up to his fantasy. Honestly, Summer deserved better!"


7. Danny Zuko in Grease, when he tried to force himself on Sandy.

Danny forcing himself on top of Sandy in the car and Sandy screaming at him to get off of her.

"There's specifically a scene where she doesn't want to have sex and he tries to talk her into it anyway."


8. Chris Brander in Just Friends, when he tried to pull the "friend zone" card over and over again.

Jamie asking Chris why he keeps messing with her head, and him responding: "you've been torturing me since the sixth grade!"
New Line Cinema



9. Dex in Something Borrowed, when he constantly cheated on Darcy with Rachel, aka her best friend.

Dex and Rachel waking up in bed together, Darcy leaving a voicemail saying she thinks Dex is cheating, and Dex assuring Rachel he'll tell her he was with his friend Marcus.
Warner Bros.

"The movie really tried to make Darcy shallow and unlikable...and although she may have been, that wasn't able to justify Dex and Rachel cheating on her with each other."


10. Noah Calhoun in The Notebook, when he manipulated Allie into going out with him, among many, MANY other things.

New Line Cinema

"Such an asshole. Shall I count the ways? Manipulation, threatening suicide, not taking no for an answer, playing mind games, boinking an engaged woman, verbal abuse, gaslighting..."


11. Nick Young in Crazy Rich Asians, when he lied by omission to Rachel about his wealth and status right up until she was about to meet his parents.

Nick responding, "We're comfortable" when Rachel asks him if his family is rich.
Warner Bros.

"That's a red flag, but an even bigger one is that he never really stood up for her to his family. He saw what they were doing and saying, and never did anything."


12. Michael O'Neal in My Best Friend's Wedding, when he convinced Kimmy to drop out of college so she could follow him around for his job.

Jules telling Michael that Kimmy's making a huge sacrifice, while Michael brushes it off.
TriStar Pictures

"I think she even mentioned wanting to finish school to him and he just dismissed it."


13. Steve Edison in The Wedding Planner, when he pursued Mary even though he's already engaged, and she's the one planning his wedding.

Steve and Mary leaning in to kiss.
Columbia Pictures

14. Jake Perry in Sweet Home Alabama, when he refused to divorce Melanie out of pride.

Buena Vista Pictures

"I was mad that she chose him over her fiancé, who was really sweet."


15. Agent Eric Matthews in Miss Congeniality, when he chose to show interest in Gracie by being a total dick to her.

Eric telling Gracie she should go some "shaping exercises" and slapping her ass.
Warner Bros. Pictures


16. Aaron Samuels in Mean Girls, when he flip-flopped between Cady and Regina.

Aaron kissing Regina, and then Aaron kissing Cady.

"He also admitted to Cady that Regina was awful but justified why it was OK for him to date her, yet judged Cady for being friends with her."


17. And finally, Zack Siler in She's All That, when he didn't tell Laney about the gross bet he made with his friends until he was exposed.

Laney asking Zack, "am I a bet?" And Zack responding, "yes".
Miramax Films

"The moment he had the feels for Laney, Zack should have revealed his true intentions. And on top of it, Zack allowed his ex-girlfriend to bully Laney pretty much the entire length of the movie."


Submissions have been edited for length/clarity.

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