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21 Important Reminders For Anyone Who Went Through A Breakup This Year

It won't hurt forever. You've so got this.

If you ended a relationship this year — no matter how long or short it was — here are a few things that you should keep in mind as you head into the brand new year:

1. You are allowed to be as upset as you need to be.

2. There is no right or wrong amount of time in which you ~should~ be moved on by.

3. Just because you're in pain without them doesn't mean the relationship was right for you.

4. And when you feel the urge to get back together (because, you probably will), remember why you broke up.

5. And no, you don't need to stay friends.

6. So spend time with people who make you laugh and feel good about yourself.

7. And channel those emotions in positive ways.

8. Remember, it's not a competition. Stay focused on how YOU'RE doing and the progress that you're making.

9. Getting rid of all the crap they left at your place is always a good idea.

Hanging on to their stuff is comforting, because it's a reminder that the relationship actually happened. But, like trying to stay in contact with them, it only prevents you from moving on.

10. And some social media cleansing will probably do wonders for your well-being.

11. If they happen to move on quickly, know that it says absolutely nothing about you and your self-worth.

12. Maybe don't try to escape your emotions by immediately distracting yourself with someone else.

13. Instead, use this opportunity to focus on and reconnect with yourself.

14. Don't let this experience make you jaded and bitter.

15. Don't blame yourself for everything that went wrong.

16. But you might want to take some time for a personal relationship postmortem.

17. Think about the type of person you want and deserve to be with.

18. Remember: If you can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you can love the right one.

19. Understand that relationships and breakups give you the opportunity to build character and become a better person.

20. Know that you are much stronger than you give yourself credit for.

21. And as much as it hurts now, know that one day you WILL be OK again.