“It’s my biggest frustration that libido is categorized into gender norms,” Levkoff says. “There are so many damaging stereotypes, such as it’s only men that want sex and they want it all the time. And women always want it less, and if they actually want it more than that’s weird and not normal, and they should feel ashamed about it.”
She says it’s not true because there are men who experience lower desire and then feel super ashamed about it because they feel they aren’t “masculine enough,” and there are women who have low desire, but there are also women who have high desire, and that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with them.
Classifying people, and holding them to these ~societal norms~ is only going to make people feel inadequate and do things they aren’t comfortable with, making it harder for people to have successful sexual experiences, she says.