I use the term "bitch" to describe those moments when we treat other women like bitches by acting like bitches. When we choose to take sides against women who have made decisions different from ours, when we blame women for a relationship gone awry, when we talk shit about a scantily dressed woman, we are treating them like bitches and we ourselves are acting like bitches. For all intents and purposes, the term "bitch" here means an unfair way to act towards women and an unfair way to react as a woman.
Although Lincoln was referring to the nation's stance on slavery when he famously said "a house divided itself cannot stand," the phrase speaks very poignantly to what women do to each other on a day to day basis. The more we fight amongst each other, the less time we have together to work toward making our group heard.
We can stop some of those crimes right now. There are things we can do every day to fight the hatred that divides us. Here are six ways we can stop hating and start communicating:
Side note: And what the f*#% is a "good girl" anyway? That's what you say to a dog when it does a trick correctly. You're a woman, not an animal. Figure out the best version of you and strive to be that best version every day. That's all you need to do because no one knows you the way YOU know you.
Another appalling phenomena is when I hear "yeah, I know it was bad of him to react violently, but she probably did something to piss him off." Really? I've heard this in several instances regarding domestic violence. I see no gray area here: there is no action that justifies physical violence against a woman. Why, in this instance where women need to fight back together, why do we shift the blame back toward women?
Whether the cause is deep rooted, like the Adam and Eve story, or pop-cultural, like the demonizing of "homewreckers", this sort of thinking is toxic for womankind. When we make other women the bad guy, we spread hate amongst ourselves and lose hold of that goodwill and solidarity we so desperately need in order to stand up against inequality.