"I was looking for something serious and was using OKCupid, though there were plenty of creeps on there (any online dating app has them). If the guy didn’t use proper grammar, I immediately stopped communicating. I wasn’t expecting perfection, but I wanted to be with someone intelligent, and that gave me a first impression of his intelligence and confidence.
I also took a lot of time developing my profile. If the guy asked questions about things I had featured prominently or highlighted in my profile, I typically walked away. In my opinion, it signaled that he had most likely looked at some pictures and maybe briefly scanned through my profile, but he did not take enough time to *actually* look through it. He probably wasn’t looking for the same thing I was.
I know some people thought my methods were extreme or too judgmental, but I knew the kind of guy I was looking for. I was not interested in settling, and before long, I found my husband without becoming discouraged and without ever feeling unsafe. We have been married for nearly five years now, and he is my person. :-)" —dacpac