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    In Defense Of The Kim Kardashians And The Marcia Clarks

    If we're Marcia, we should try to be more sexy, we're putting people off. But if we're Kim, we should cover up, we're a disgrace. We cannot win. So this is me defending both.

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    This has been an emotional week for women. Firstly, I was overwhelmed by the amount of posts I saw regarding International Women's Day on Tuesday. So many people I didn't think paid much mind to social issues, raised their voices for equality, strength, and self love. It was so uplifting to think, wow, we have a real community. We have a real sisterhood much like the one I was encouraging in my post last week. It warmed my heart.

    But, then, of course something else happened. Kim Kardashian posted a "nude" selfie on Instagram and it was as if she had filmed herself drowning North in the bathtub. Seriously. That's how extreme the reaction was. Comments like "You're a mother and a wife. You should be ashamed." "You're a whore who will burn in hell." and "Your poor daughter! You are disgusting!"

    Let me preface this by saying that, sure, Kim Kardashian is not my ideal choice for a role model. She's not the first person I'd think of to comment on education or reproductive rights. By no means do I want my daughter to aspire to have her life. But, that's mostly because if I had a Kanye West as a son-in-law I'd probably have to be committed. Kim Kardashian is possibly the most famous woman in America right now - that's a fact. She is in the public eye in a major, major way and she has chosen to openly love her body despite the endless amount of backlash she receives. That, I think, is something to admire and something we should support.

    The fact that this negative commentary was not only coming from the garbage can of anonymous internet comments but from actual female celebrities is disgusting. This is EXACTLY what I was talking about last week. To put it more bluntly this time because frankly I'm mad as hell about this - If you don't have anything nice to say about another woman, shut the fuck up. You are part of the problem. You are the reason women continue to be pitted against each other.

    Kim responded to this backlash first with some snarky tweets (which probably wasn't the best way to go but I can hardly blame her after the avalanche of hate over the last few days) and then with a rather eloquent statement. To me, this is the most important part:

    "I am empowered by my body. I am empowered by my sexuality. I am empowered by feeling comfortable in my skin. I am empowered by showing the world my flaws and not being afraid of what anyone is going to say about me. And I hope that through this platform I have been given, I can encourage the same empowerment for girls and women all over the world."

    When will society accept that being naked is nothing to be ashamed of? We all have bodies, we all should love them. So she's a mother? A wife? A celebrity? So what? I saw someone on Facebook point out that if a normal mom did this we all would have encouraged her for being brave. We have to stop choosing when it's okay to support women's confidence and when it's not. Which brings me to my next emotional experience this week.

    If you have been watching American Crime Story: The People Vs. O.J. Simpson on FX you know that Sarah Paulson has been flawlessly portraying the prosecutor Marcia Clark. I was only three years old during the O.J. trial so this is my first time really understanding all of the ins and outs of the event. In this week's episode, the sexism towards Marcia Clark during this time became devastatingly apparent. From belittling her need to get home early to care for her children to claims that her appearance made her look "like a bitch" - it was incredibly hard to watch.

    This idea that a woman can go to law school, pass the bar, win cases, get assigned to the highest profiled case of the 90's and still be reduced to her looks is utterly heartbreaking. It really got me thinking because yes, this was 20 years ago but these issues are still 100% relevant. It also got me thinking about Kim and this lose/lose situation society has put women in. The Madonna and the Whore. If we're Marcia, we should try to be more sexy, we're putting people off. But if we're Kim, we should cover up, we're a disgrace. We cannot win.

    So this is me defending both. This is me saying, screw the rules! Be who you want to be and support other women for doing the same. It's the only way we can overcome this. Like Kim said, "You be you and let me be me." Happy International Women's WEEK. Yes, I'm making it a week because God damnit, we deserve it.