Whether she will marryThe happiness or the hopeless misery of her whole lifeHow many children she shall bearThe extent to which her physical constitution shall be rendered delicate or heartyAll of the above
The happiness or the hopeless misery of her whole life
Napheys explains that the greatest years of puberty "seal for ever the happiness or the hopeless misery of her whole life. They decide whether she is to become a healthy, helpful, cheerful wife and mother, or a languid, complaining invalid, to whom marriage is a curse, children an affliction, and life itself a burden." But no pressure.
Highly seasoned foodIdleness of bodyTalk of beaux, love, or marriageKeeping late hoursSensational novelsAlcoholIrregular habits of sleepAll of the above
All of the above
Writes Napheys: "Idleness of body, highly-seasoned food, stimulating beverages, such as beer, wine, liqueurs, and, in a less degree, coffee and tea, irregular habits of sleep,—these are the physical causes of premature development." And that's not all! Furthermore: "Late hours, children's parties, sensational novels, 'flashy' papers, love stories, the drama, the ball-room, talk of beaux, love, and marriage—that atmosphere of riper years which is so often and so injudiciously thrown around childhood—all hasten the event which transforms the girl into the woman." In conclusion: Do almost nothing, for doing something could bring about an early puberty.
Poor memory, listlessness, inertiaIncreased irritability and frequent angry outburstsWanton disregard for anyone but themselves and prospective beauxAll of the above
Poor memory, listlessness, inertia
In addition to the physical changes puberty brings, young women also experience the following mental and behavioral changes during puberty: increased interest in seeking solitude, crying, loss of interest in her studies, poor memory, disinclination to mental labor, listlessness, and inertia. OK, some of this actually sounds kinda accurate.
Strong emotions may cause the maiden to succumb to hysteriaFluctuating emotions causes an imbalance of the humors, which leads to ill healthStrong emotions lead to heavier periodsFluctuating emotions can cause intestinal distress, which will drive away beaux
Strong emotions lead to heavier periods
"It is well known, too, that excitement of the emotions, whether of anger, joy, grief, hatred, or love increases the discharge." IT IS WELL KNOWN. Period.
Volatile, highly vulnerableOver-educated, delicateOver-indulged, nervousUnstable, fragile
Napheys explains that hysteria is a disease of the nerves that's more common in young women of the upper classes, whose emotions are over-educated and their constitutions delicate. [sideeye emoji]
Her private shameSelf-abuseSecret bad habitsInverted passions
Secret bad habits
Without naming it explicitly, the author warns that masturbation (aka "secret bad habits") has "disastrous consequences on soul and body" for young women. ?
Loss of memory, distressing nervousnessInsolence, petulant moodsVertigo, nauseaAll of the above
Loss of memory, distressing nervousness
The author explains that masturbation can cause a variety of ill effects, including "bodily weakness, loss of memory, low spirits, distressing nervousness, a capricious appetite, dislike of company and of study, and finally, paralysis, imbecility, or insanity." But prob worth it tbh!
Taking long walks and hot bathsInteracting with young men who are not family relationsReading novels that will excite erotic passionsCooking with or eating spicy foodsAll of the above
Taking long walks and hot baths
To maintain their health each month, Napheys says anyone who's menstruating should avoid all exertion, including long walks, dancing, and shopping. Anyone menstruating should take neither hot baths nor cold baths (though temperate baths are fine). Drinking cold water is also not advisable. Noted.
20–2525–3030–35Most any age is acceptable if both parties find the union agreeable
"Science ... fixes a certain age at which it is wisest for woman to marry," says Napheys. And that's between the ages of 20 and 25, the age at which her body is ready to "perpetuate the species" and her mind is ready to choose a life companion. It is scientifically proven.
Freshly squeezed fruit juices / red meatFresh milk / tea and coffeeCod liver oil / hard cheesesA hearty breakfast / spicy foods
Fresh milk / tea and coffee
"Good fresh milk should be used daily, while tea and coffee should be withheld," says Napheys. Nutrition is important during puberty, when, without proper nourishment, a young woman can become feeble and open to the attacks of disease. Drink milk, avoid feebleness!
OverworkExcessive devotion to social duties and pleasuresCold, damp environsGeneral tendency toward fevers and chillsAll of the above
All of the above
The causes of painful periods are various, the author says. And they include everything from overexertion in work and socializing, to being exposed to the cold, to a constitution generally susceptible to fevers (ague).
With prayer and careful devotion to familial dutiesWith twice-daily warm bathsWith a heated flaxseed poultice and a small amount of an opiate applied to the abdomenWith a tincture that will induce sleep
With a heated flaxseed poultice and a small amount of an opiate applied to the abdomen
According to Napheys: "A large, hot, linseed-meal poultice, over which a dessert-spoonful of laudanum has been sprinkled, or a large mustard-plaster, spread on the lower abdomen, will afford much relief." Doesn't sound too shabby actually.
The author explains that to women, love is everything, and to men, it's merely one of many competing interests. "Love is one thing to a woman, another to a man. To him, said Madame de Staël, it is an episode; to her, it is the whole history of life. A thousand distractions divert man. Fame, riches, power, pleasure, all struggle in his bosom to displace the sentiment of love."