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23 Things LGBT People Wish They'd Actually Learned In Sex Ed

We're here, we're queer, and FFS we really want inclusive sex ed.

1. When it comes to your sexuality and gender, there's literally nothing wrong with you.

2. There is no "right" way to have sex.

3. You can decide what it means to "lose your virginity."

4. Mainstream porn might make you feel fetishized.

5. But porn might also be where you see something that resembles the kind of sex you want to have for the first time.

6. Having a health care provider who's affirming of LGBT people makes a huge difference.

7. And the same goes for mental health services.

8. Psst! Asexuality exists!

9. Not everyone identifies with their assigned sex at birth.

10. Bisexuality is real.

11. You can be queer and transgender/non-binary/gender-nonconforming.

12. Who you have and haven't had sexual or romantic experiences with has no bearing on your sexuality.

13. Dental dams are a thing.

14. So is PrEP.

15. Consent isn't just for straight people.

16. You can be born this way/grown this way/some combo/neither/all — it doesn't matter.

17. There's no deadline to "figure out" the deal with your sexuality or your gender identity.

18. And you're not under any obligation to come out to everyone (or even anyone).

19. But if you do want to come out, just prepare yourself.

20. You should go to the gynecologist even if you're not having sex with a penis that's attached to a flesh-and-blood person.

21. You deserve to have a healthy body image, regardless of gender, size, or ability.

22. Sexual trauma is real, and you deserve support, care, and advocacy.

23. You can label yourself as anything you want, and you don't have to choose a label at all.