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    17 Tinder Date Stories That Confirmed My Fear Of Using Dating Apps And 16 That Restored My Faith Just A Tiny Bit

    Kinda wanna download Tinder, but kinda don't...

    In the past, we've asked the BuzzFeed Community to share their online dating horror stories and their online dating success stories. Now we're putting the best (and worst) stories together so you can see the drama as well as the love! So, here are 16 online dating success stories and 17 horrific ones:

    Some of these submissions have been pulled from a Reddit thread started by u/just_brioche

    1. This bill that definitely wasn't going to be split:

    Carrie Bradshaw looking shocked in "Sex and the City"
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    "I had been talking to this guy I met on Tinder for a couple of weeks, and he seemed nice enough. One day, I posted on Snapchat that I was going to get coffee, and he writes back asking to join. I agreed and gave him the name of the place where I was going to be. I sit down, and the waitress takes my order, a caramel latte; he enters, and we say our hellos. Conversation-wise it was fine, nothing too exciting but not horrible. We were both Dominican, so we bonded over that, but he was good-looking, and he knew it, so a lot of the conversation became about him. He orders his coffee and two appetizers. Then another two. And another two. 

    When he gets the last one, he offers me some, but I decline because I have plans after to eat with my friends. So at this point, I have had one coffee, and he's had six appetizers and a coffee. Now this place isn't cheap; my latte was $7, and all the apps they sell are $14+. When the check comes, I take out $10 from my wallet and put it on the table. He looks at me and says, 'Aren't we going to split it?' I start laughing because, of course, he must be kidding since I didn't even have one bite of the apps, and the check is over $100. He's not laughing, so I realize he's not kidding. I tell him I'm not paying since I didn't eat anything. 

    He says, 'So? That was your decision.' At this point, I really don't want to argue, so I just stand and tell him to have a good day. He started yelling in the restaurant, saying all these insults about me and how sad that makes him 'cause I seemed nice and he had high hopes for us. I could hear him still yelling when I was outside."


    elianny1626

    2. And this person whose aunt became their successful wingwoman:

    "After going hard in the Tinder paint off and on for two years, I met my current boyfriend on it by a weird twist of fate. I was at my cousin's bridal party, and a woman I hardly knew kept asking me what was happening in my life. My response was 'I bought cats yesterday' 'cause I actually had.

    "So in a mimosa-drunk state I saddled up to my newly divorced aunt and showed her how to Tinder. Joe [my now-boyfriend] popped up, and she said, 'Can I swipe him for you? He's handsome.' After one year of dating, he's moving in with me and my cats."

    —Katherine Flaherty, Facebook

    3. This date who gave off total Joe from You vibes:

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    "We went out for dinner and hung out at his house afterward. It went pretty well, but I was getting a weird vibe, so I decided to go home. Immediately after I left, I noticed a car following me, so I started getting really nervous. I drove to my friend’s house instead of mine, asking him to wait outside for me. When I arrived, the car was still following me, so I quickly got out of my car and ran into my friend's house. 

    We saw the car drive by, so we thought that we were good, but we heard knocking at the door about five minutes later. My friend opened it while I stood behind him, holding a knife. When he opened it, there stood the guy I had just gone on a date with, holding an earring in his hand. He explained that he was just trying to return it because it looked expensive. Later that night, I realized that I had both earrings in and that this wasn't my earring. I haven't spoken to him since that night, and I haven't used Tinder either."

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    4. And this super smooth pick-up line:

    "I matched with her about a year ago, and we went on a nice first date to Universal City Walk. The karaoke bar was closed, so we went to a beer spot next door. I thought it was a nice first date, but she went on vacation after that night, and we lost touch. We both end up deleting Tinder and rejoining about a year later and eventually match. I've since had life-saving surgery, and you can see the scars in one of my pictures. She messages me, saying, 'Looks like you could use a doctor in your life.' She's a doctor, BTW. I respond, reminding her that we had a date before, and she says, 'Since you've had a second chance at life, would you give me another chance with a second date?' 

    Smoothest pick-up line I had ever heard. Wow! We've been inseparable since. We've traveled to another country together, exchanged house keys, and visited each other's families for Thanksgiving. We're only roughly five months in, but we already know this is serious. As they say, when you know, you know."

    u/avocadoclock

    5. This guy who just couldn't take a hint:

    Marge Simpson saying "Can't you take a hint" in "The Simpsons"
    Fox / Via giphy.com

    "So I match with this guy, and we start chatting a bit. He seemed cool, so I gave him my number, and we decided to go out for coffee the week before Christmas. It was a nice date, but I wasn't super pressed to see him again. So I was super surprised when he asked to see me two days later, right when I was heading home for Christmas. I declined and told him I'd hit him up when I was back in town. Over the holidays, this man kept texting me, asking when I would be back in town so we could go out again, and after one coffee date, I wasn't feeling the desperation. 

    Trying not to be rude, I started texting back less and less and let on that I didn't want to see him again when I did get back. Of course, for some strange reason, this causes him to start friending me on all social media, sending me multiple messages a day on multiple platforms, and even calling me five times in one day, each of which I ignored. Finally, he sends flowers to the school I teach at, which was super creepy because I had never told him the specific school. I was so freaked out and messaged him and told him to leave me alone. 

    Then he proceeds to send me a passive-aggressive message about how he was a good guy and was going to block me on all social media! Like he wasn't the one stalking me?! In any case, he's blocked; I'm glad I didn't meet up with him again, and I haven't met up with anyone from Tinder in a while."

    laurentees

    6. And this date that proved good things come to those who wait:

    "I had left my ex about a year prior and dated a ton. I literally went on a date each night. It was mostly bland, and nothing too exciting came from it. Then I matched with a cute guy from an hour away. We messaged extensively for about a week before meeting up. For our first date, we had dinner, walked around a casino, then saw 50 Shades of Grey. It was a beyond-awesome date. When I got home, I promptly canceled all future dates with others I had planned. 

    After our second date, we moved pretty quickly from that point. We live together and have the world's weirdest cat. We've been together for almost two years and have been engaged for nearly a year."


    u/opinionated-on-all

    7. This comment that literally no one asked for:

    Paige from "Charmed" looking shocked
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    "We talked for a while, and I was really digging this guy. We decided to finally hang out, but he said I had to pick him up since he didn't have a car (that should've been my first clue). I went to pick him up, and the first thing he does when he gets in the car is pat my belly and say, 'A little too much beer, yeah? You're gonna have to lose that if we date.' I kicked him out of the car and went to get ice cream."

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    8. And this person who always wins on Tinder:

    Roc Nation/ Def Jam / Via giphy.com

    "I’ve had a lot of Tinder success. The app always made it easy to spot the guys who were worth getting to know, and easy to tell which guys were there strictly for hookups. I met my last boyfriend on Tinder, and we ended up dating for about nine months. After we broke up, I met my current boyfriend, and we are celebrating our two-year anniversary tonight!"

    magsncheese

    9. This very awkward encounter at work:

    "So, I matched with this guy on Tinder, and he seemed nice. However, something just kept telling me there was something off about him. He kept getting really pushy about meeting up at places I was not comfortable with. I finally decided to unmatch him. Fast-forward about a month, and I'm at work. I happen to be a corrections officer at the regional jail in my area. I am working one of the male units, and an inmate walks up to my desk and says he knows me. After interviewing him, it turns out it's the guy I matched with and decided not to meet. It turns out he is in on kidnapping charges. Needless to say, I changed units and told my supervisors immediately."

    rachelk429

    10. And this super-festive love story:

    "I met my girlfriend on Tinder. We matched on December 23rd last year while I was at my mom's house for Christmas. I jokingly asked he if she would come with me to Christmas Eve Mass the following day with my mom and me, and she agreed! She met me at my house and brought my mom a present. We went to church and came back to the house, where she helped me decorate the tree, and then we watched Home Alone after. Still one of my favorite days. We started dating officially five months later."

    u/foddawg

    11. This guy who thought it was romantic to offer his date drugs:

    "I met up with this guy on Tinder, and we seemed to click. Fast-forward into the date and he disappeared and came back holding a sandwich-sized bag half full of what looked like broken glass. Crack, my Tinder date had crack. I politely declined his offer and then, when I had the opportunity, made an exit."

    heatherb45021465f

    12. And this ultra-cute Tinder wedding:

    Viceland/ Gaycation / Via giphy.com

    "I'm getting married to someone I met on Tinder in October! We've been together almost a year, and I recently moved out of state to live with him. We talked through text for about a week before we met. After meeting, we clicked immediately."

    —Caitlin Mackenzie, Facebook

    13. This guy who was so bored that he fell asleep during the date:

    Walt Disney Pictures / Via giphy.com

    "My first and only date was a Tinder date. This guy was going to take me to see Finding Dory, and he showed up 15 minutes late. I was just asking him questions about himself, but he started answering the questions with information about ME because he had completely stalked my Facebook page beforehand. He then fell asleep during the movie. I decided not to see him again after that date."

    bonniereinsch

    14. And this super-cliché yet super-cute love story:

    "Myself and the Mrs. matched on Tinder about a year and three months ago. We’ve been a cliché since the start: talked all through the night, met for the first time two days later, and haven’t been apart since. It wasn’t long before we did the (again cliché) lesbian thing of moving in together and buying a cat.

    "I love her like crazy and am thrilled whenever our colleagues/mates tell us they want a love like ours. Tinder definitely won this round.

    francescad4a1d9c1c6

    15. This guy who aspired to live like Mr. Grey:

    Universal Pictures / Via giphy.com

    "He took me to see the first 50 Shades of Grey movie, and in the middle of one of the sex scenes, he proceeded to ask, in a loud-enough voice that the entire theater could hear, if I would let him do the same things to me. I could not get out of there fast enough!"

    mnmd25

    16. And this couple that made me believe in love at first sight:

    Barbie seeing Ken for the first time in "Toy Story 3" and looking in love
    Walt Disney Pictures/ Pixar Animation Studios / Via giphy.com

    "My current boyfriend is the most serious relationship I've ever had. We've been dating for almost two years, and I'm his first legitimate girlfriend. 

    We have the best chemistry, but our personalities can be pretty different. He's very laid-back, and I can be a little high maintenance at times, but that's what makes us so great. He helps me realize I don't need to stress about the small stuff, and I help him with things that may stress him out, etc. We're not just best friends but soulmates, and we have already started building a life together. 

    And this is all ironic because we both used to be super skeptical of Tinder and online dating relationships, yet for both of us, it was pretty much love at first sight, and that's something neither of us had before."

    u/yadingus06969

    17. This guy who clearly had the wrong idea of important questions to ask a potential date:

    NBC / Via giphy.com

    "Once, I received a message from a man asking if I would give him a rim job because I looked like the type of girl that does that."

    alyssaloftus28

    18. And this person who took a chance on Tinder and ended up finding true love:

    "He messaged me on Tinder about something in my bio. At the time, I was so sick of Tinder and dating altogether. I replied, thinking, Let's see how far this goes before he turns into a creep. To my shock, we ended up in a really odd but funny conversation, and he asked me out the same night! For our first date, we met up for coffee and a movie. I was really nervous, as I like to have a nice supply of alcohol on dates in case things get awkward. And they were, as we were two strangers sitting in a dark movie theater next to each other in what turned out to be a three-hour movie. But luckily, he asked if I wanted to get a drink afterward, and I happily obliged. We closed down the bar, and I was beaming when I got home. 

    After our second date, he said he would like to see me again but never made plans. So I took the reigns and asked him out. We decided to go for bottomless brunch. Long story short, we got wasted on a Sunday morning and spent the whole day walking around town. We just got back from a trip to the West Coast and celebrated our first anniversary! Just this time last year, I was waiting for him to turn into a fuckboy, and he has proved me wrong every time. He turned me into a mushy cuddle monster, and I can't imagine there ever was a time he was not in my life."

    u/dramatichipmunk

    19. This guy who clearly doesn't know what being chivalrous means:

    "I matched with a guy who asked me for my number after having an innocent conversation about Animal Crossing and weird dreams. He then asked me to "play Animal Crossing while I gag on his huge schlong."

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    20. And this time, Tinder positively changed someone's outlook on online dating:

    NBC / Via giphy.com

    "I had been unsuccessfully dating in LA for a couple of years and didn’t have much luck with other dating apps. A couple of years ago, when Tinder was pretty new in LA, my guy friend told me about this great new dating app. I told him I would check it out.

    "I’m really glad I did. I met my boyfriend within the first week of using Tinder. We have been together for two and half years, and we discuss marriage and our wedding plans all the time. People never believe we met on Tinder, but yes we did!"

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    21. This guy who clearly had much more important matters to attend:

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    "My date asked to meet at noon for a quick lunch. I agreed, and then he ends up showing up at 12:35 p.m., all while messaging me on Tinder (he refused to share phone numbers) that he's on the way. Once he got there, he explained that he was late because he had to pick up his dry cleaning. He also informed me that I had 25 minutes to introduce myself, since he had to leave at 1 p.m. for a workout session with his trainer. He left at exactly 1 p.m., while I was in the middle of telling him a story. He also left me with the bill...one of the worst dates of my life!"

    karamh

    22. And this guy who proved his love by driving hours just to see his crush:

    "We met five years ago on MeetMe. He would drive out to see me at least twice a week (I didn't have my license at the time) in snowstorms that extended the drive time to an hour or two on really bad days. Our first and second date was coffee at Tim Hortons. Our third date was a really horrible movie that we saw in theater and were legitimately the only people there; we made fun of it together the entire time. Now we're engaged, have an apartment together, and a cat. He's the most incredible person in the entire world, and I couldn't imagine life without him."

    u/Throwawayyheeeyy

    23. This date that turned into a cold and lonely winter night:

    Olivia Rodrigo walking alone at night in her "Driver's License" music video
    Geffen/ Interscope / Via giphy.com

    "It was a crisp winter night, and this guy I'd been talking to asked to hang out and maybe go for a walk around the pond behind campus. So I agreed, and he picked me up, parked his car, and started walking. We got halfway around the pond when his phone rings. It's a chick, and I could hear her on the other end saying, 'Are you at the park?' He said yes, and she goes, 'I know you're with another girl. I'm parked next to your jeep. We need to talk.' We get back to the parking lot, and he gets in her car and leaves me alone in the middle of the parking lot! I had to walk back to campus alone at night...never talked to him after that."

    mam463

    24. And this love story that started with a cheesy poem:

    "I met my boyfriend on Tinder, and we've been together for almost nine months! He sent me, 'Roses are red, violets are blue, I'm not a poet, is this a haiku?' Usually, this would be too cheeseball for me to answer, BUT my friend had tried to set me up in person with him just three months prior! He didn't know I knew who he was, so it was kind of hilarious. I asked him if he knew my friend, just to be certain, and he said yeah, he did! She had told me that he was so shy and that she barely knew him because he's her boyfriend's friend, but that he was really sweet and would be perfect for me (we both don't love partying very much; we are both the stay and talk to one person all night types of people).

    He surprisingly asked me on a date the second day we talked on Tinder, but I couldn't go on the day he'd asked for. I made a point to tell him that I wasn't making an excuse, and we should plan for a different day.

    We went to a place called Across the Board Game Cafe for our first date, which is like a little café with full bookshelves of board and card games to choose from. It was perfect because we got to chat lots, but if anything felt awkward or we didn't know what to say, we could focus on the game.

    Fast-forward to now, and he is the best man I know. I have been battling pretty bad depression this year, and he is always there for me. He understands that sometimes I get mad about stupid things, and when I apologize for it, he will always say to me, 'You don't need to be sorry. You're just having one of those days, and that's OK. I love you.'

    I am so thankful for Tinder because it let me meet my best friend. It's a dream come true."

    u/RossElizabethGeller

    25. This date that brought along all his baby mama drama:

    "I met a guy online, and we hit it off on our first date. A couple of weeks later, we had gone on four dates, and he knew where I lived. That's when it started getting weird. He wouldn't return my phone calls, so after a week, I stopped trying. Not long after, I glanced out the window of my house and saw him parked a couple of houses down with another person in the car. I waited to see what he would do, and he drove off an hour later. 

    A couple of days later, he was back, except parked in a different location. I started to get freaked out. There was also a second person in the car that time. They left two hours later. The third time I saw his car outside, I was poised to call the cops. I didn't get a chance because there was a knock on the door. I opened it to a very pregnant girl on my front steps. She began to rant, saying, 'How could I date a guy with a girlfriend?! Did I not have any morals? Who did I think I was, trying to steal her man?'

    I let her go on for a while before I interrupted her, told her I had no idea, and why she was mad at me; I wasn't the one cheating on her. I found out that she forced him to drive to my house and sit outside nine different times. She wanted to see what I looked like and have him confront me and break it off, but he wouldn't go up to my door. I wish them all the best."

    samanthag49b18973b

    26. And this one kiss that changed everything:

    Noah and Allie from "The Notebook" kissing and laughing
    New Line Cinema / Via giphy.com

    "My boyfriend and I met on OkCupid about a year and a half ago! He had one very blurry photo, so I had no clue what he looked like until we met. Our first date (and we both agree on this) was HORRIBLE. I was the most awkward person in the world and acting super shy. I barely said a word for the first three hours. I’ll be honest — I was intimidated, but he still kissed me, and then it all changed. We planned just to be casual, and we did for the first couple of dates, but on the third date, I think we both realized we really liked each other.

    I went away on a cruise for three weeks. The fact that I bought an $80 roaming plan for that time alone (just to talk to him) and the fact that he kept up with texting me every day (despite being in the middle of the ocean) made me realize I was crushing on him pretty hard.

    When I got back, after only one month of talking/'dating' we went on a weekend trip out of town. That was the weekend I knew I was falling in love with him. About a month later, we said our first 'I love yous.’ He said he knew even before the weekend trip.

    We’ve talked about buying a house together, marriage, and kids. We share the same values, ideals, and dreams, and I couldn’t have it any other way. There is no doubt in my mind he is the one I want to be with for the rest of my life."

    u/StuffedDino

    27. This extremely weird request:

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    "This guy I matched with asked if he could get a picture of my feet in high heels or my hair tied in a ponytail. I didn't reply and unmatched him. About two weeks later, I matched with another guy, who turned out to be the same person as before, just on a different account. His opening line was,  'Still waiting on those feet pictures ;).' I deleted Tinder after that."

    cumberbabe1395

    28. And this super-like that turned into a real relationship:

    "We matched, and I'm pretty sure he super-liked me. The only thing he sent me was 'I added you on Snapchat.' When I got back, we went on dates and hooked up for almost three months. Anytime you'd ask if we were dating, he'd say, 'Basically.' It became our inside joke. Christmas Eve of 2016, he asked me to be his girlfriend with a cute scavenger hunt around our apartment. Two years later, we moved across the country together, have a dog, and have started shopping for rings. I really feel like he's my best friend." 


    u/poke_thebear

    29. This guy who clearly wasn't new to ghosting people:

    A woman talking to the camera saying "Is he ghosting me?"
    WE TV / Via giphy.com

    "I talked to this guy for weeks before we decided to meet up finally. He was so sweet, and I really enjoyed talking to him. We had a lot in common, and I was really looking forward to meeting him. We had this whole plan to go on a drive and then to dinner for our first date. When the day came, 30 minutes before we were supposed to meet up, he blocked me on every form of social media, unmatched me on Tinder, blocked my number, etc. I still don't know what happened to this day. What an asshole."

    moemoa98

    30. And this Tinder match that seemed more like a match made in heaven.

    Lisa Vandepump saying "It's like a match made in heaven"
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    "My girlfriend and I met on Tinder! We’ve been together for over a year, and it’s the first healthy relationship I’ve ever been in. I’m pretty sure we were created for each other. She’s pretty cool."

    u/myriameg

    31. This guy who used his date to flirt with someone else:

    "I matched with a guy, and we talked for a bit before agreeing to meet for drinks. On the day of, he shows up late, then says he can't find me (after walking by me twice). He finally sits down, and as we order drinks, he starts up a flirtatious conversation with the waitress. Halfway through the first drink, he announces he doesn't think we have any "chemistry" and thinks he should go. I chug the rest of my drink and tell him good luck with the waitress. He smirks and says that he thinks he has a shot with her."  

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    32. And this very obvious connection:

    "We matched, and he sent me a basic 'Hey.' I wouldn't usually respond to such dry chat but was a little tipsy from a night out, so I replied anyway. We had a really basic conversation for the next 15 minutes or so and then agreed to meet up for a drink a couple of nights later. We didn't speak to each other between this period of time other than when he checked we were still good, and we agreed on the logistics of where we were meeting, etc. I wasn't expecting much from our first date since I've been on a couple of uninspiring Tinder dates so far that month. There was barely any awkwardness at all, and we just seemed to chat the night away. It went really well! To my surprise, he texted me the next morning, saying he had a great night and wanted to hang out in a couple of days. 

    We went to a bar that was coincidently both of our local fave bars that play amazing music for our second date. We couldn't stop laughing and talking the whole night, and I knew I fancied him so much at this point. I stood up to tell him a funny story, and he pulls me in by my waist, and we start making out. I was amazing, and when we pulled away, I said, 'Wait, so does that mean that you fancy me then?' He laughed and said, 'Well...obviously yeah!' Ever since then, we've been going out for two months, and I really feel like it's the start of something super magical."

    u/just_brioche

    33. And finally, this guy who messed up way too many times:

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    "I went on a Tinder date with a guy, and he was nice, but it was very obvious that there was no chemistry. As we are getting ready to leave, we had only met for happy hour; he says he will be expensing it to his company. That was the first red flag. (I don't care if you do — just don't tell me!) Fast-forward a few weeks of not talking, and he drunkenly sends me a lovely unsolicited dick pic, which was horrible red flag number two. Finally, the ultimate 'I am blocking you on everything' red flag was that he proceeds to text me a photo of a random naked girl...BOY, BYE!!!" 

    elizabethrs

    Do you have any amazing or terrible online dating stories you need to tell someone about? Feel free to drop them in the comments below!

    Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.

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