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Women Are Sharing Examples Of Internalized Misogyny That They Need To Unlearn And It's Super Interesting

Calling people SOBs, viewing women as competition, and more.

On Friday, Reddit user u/horridhollowhead asked women, "What is some internalized misogyny you have to continuously remind yourself to unlearn?" They came through with some spot-on examples.

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Here's what they said:

1. "That other women aren't my competition."

u/natkolbi

2. "The 'not like the other girls' trope. I'm just like other women, and I like most of them."

u/n1b1c000

3. "The hatred of hair armpits in pictures. I don't know if I’ll ever unlearn this one. I just hate how it looks on me."

u/Zahnaynee

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4. "Saying 'son of a bitch' to insult a guy. Like seriously, if I want to hurt him, why I’m insulting his mother? If I say 'bastard,' well, it means that his mom cheated on his father. Crazy how so many slurs are related to women."

u/ChipsCreamOnion

5. "Referring to women in their 20s and 30s (including myself) as 'girls.'"

u/1throwawayor4

6. "Formerly raised Christian woman here: slut-shaming. I'm much better about it now, but basically I had to learn to not judge a promiscuous woman's character."

u/TheCravenRaven7

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7. "That my worth and existence as a woman aren't entirely decided by my appearance. I don't need to achieve a standard of prettiness before I'm worthy of respect, love, and self-confidence."

u/flareon79

8. "That my value as a human being won't suddenly disappear the second I turn 30. Even though on average, women spend 65 years of our lives as an adult, we're only considered 'young enough' for 12 of them."

u/flareon79

9. "That women who do makeup, nails, or pay attention to the way they look are not shallow or self-conceited. 'Girly' should not be an insult."

u/murhemursu

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10. "That I don't need to be 'sweet' all the time. I was always so scared of being perceived as rough or mean. I felt that I needed to be nice all the time, like a Disney princess, and never be bothered by anything ever. And never swear because 'ladies don't do that.'"

u/Mella_20

11. "Women who post sexy stuff on the internet are not necessarily doing it for attention or validation. I'm so judgmental of that sometimes, and I really hate myself for it."

u/serial_heartbreakee

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12. "That sex is not something women give to men, but something BOTH parties should enjoy."

u/daisytre2020

13. "I had to unlearn that when someone talks about a doctor, I shouldn't immediately picture a man."

u/imthelightbringer

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14. "That I don't get along better with men. They get along better with me because they have incentive to do so."

u/punyhumannumber2

And lastly:

15. "Calling people 'pussies' as a sign of weakness. Pussies are actually very resilient and strong."

u/Sweet_N_Vicious

Did they miss any examples of internalized misogyny that need to be unlearned? Let me know in the comments below!

Responses edited for length/clarity.