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Women Are Sharing Their Experiences Being Body-Shamed And It'll Make You Feel Angry But Heard

"Strength in solidarity. We're not alone."

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Last month, Oiselle CEO Sally Bergesen tweeted an example of body-shaming she experienced from her father when she 12, using the hashtag #TheySaid. Turns out, people face body-shaming from just about everyone.

"Keep eating like that and you're going to be a butterball." My Dad when I was 12. Pls RT and share a body shaming comment. #TheySaid

Mothers:

"Boys don't want fat girls" " you need to lower your standards, because you will be lucky if a boy will even like you" My mom. #theysaid

Brothers:

"You'd be so popular if you just stop eating." -My brother, when I was 13 #TheySaid

Sisters:

#TheySaid you could stand to lose a few pounds. My sister to me when I was 16 and had just begun binging and purging.

Aunts:

My aunt, walks up, slaps my thighs "how's it going, thunder thighs?" (I was about 13/14) #TheySaid

Uncles:

Grandpa-"You're beautiful, you should be a model!" Uncle looking directly at me-"she can't be a model! She's too fat!" I was 13 #theysaid

Cousins:

"At your height and with your foot size no boy will ever want to date you" -My 20 y/o cousin when I was 12.… https://t.co/nuZNokAAi0

Grandfathers:

"I'll pay you $1 if you lose five pounds"- my grandpa "You wouldn't look so bad if you really tried to get that weight off" #Theysaid

Grandmothers:

"Don't you look fat today? It's a disgrace" said my Nan in front of my family as I was about to eat. I didn't eat. #theysaid

Classmates:

"Werewolf" & "She'll need a lawnmower for those sideburns" - kids at school #Theysaid

Multiple relatives:

#TheySaid "You should stop eating", "Being slim is the best body type", "no one likes fat girls" my mom and my grandma say this a lot πŸ’”

Adults:

#TheySaid "Suck in that gut!" I was three.

Best friends:

Me at around 10 years old- I'm not cold My 'best friend'- that's because not all of us have a layer of blubber Me anorexic at 14 #theysaid

Schoolmates:

A strange kid I didn't know from my school followed me around making pig noises after school closed. I was 8 yrs old. #TheySaid

Coaches:

"Look at that fat body! What a waste of a pretty face!" My PE coach to 8yo me in front of the class. Thanks Coach Robinson! #theysaid

Coworkers:

"Did you cut the diet? It WAS working" -a male coworker #TheySaid

Bosses:

'Is that pizza such a good idea for you?' Ex boss, 10 years ago. #TheySaid https://t.co/Vlgc9alynx

Strangers:

'Muscles on a woman aren't attractive. You shouldn't look like you can kick my ass' - a man in the grocery store, l… https://t.co/NuH2f5ZTkq

#TheySaid what to not to wear:

#TheySaid don't wear a bikini because you're fat. lol. i think i look like a dayum snack.

And what not to do:

"U don't have the right body type 4 bouldering" #theysaid #shereplied

Bergesen told BuzzFeed she decided to do this hashtag because so many women have experienced body-shaming. "Most women I know, myself included, have been body-shamed. And typically, we carry that shame silently. Maybe because we want to will it away, not accept that it affects us, or are embarrassed"

"It's crucial to note that almost all of the hurtful, wounding #TheySaid comments, that we now see women carry for a LIFETIME."
Twitter: @oiselle_sally

"It's crucial to note that almost all of the hurtful, wounding #TheySaid comments, that we now see women carry for a LIFETIME."

Moving forward, parents can prepare their kids. "Positivity is paramount. Encouraging healthy eating and exercise is fantastic, and teaching skills that last a lifetime. As parents, leading by example. Encouraging kids with 'you look so strong!' Or 'that was really brave!' And finally, a huge heads-up to parents. Please, please talk with your kids about how they will encounter people who say these things."

And although the #TheySaid tweets are sad to read, there is strength in solidarity. πŸ’ͺ

#TheySaid now flooding my feed. TBH, it's deeply saddening and cathartic. Thank you for sharing. Strength in solidarity. We're not alone. πŸ‘Š

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