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    Women Who Consider Themselves Unattractive Are Sharing Lesser-Known Problems They Face, And It's Heartbreaking

    "When I was fat, they would hit on my significant other right in front of me."

    On Friday, Reddit user u/BaymaxTheBot asked, "What are the lesser-known problems of being an 'ugly' or unattractive woman?" Women who consider themselves unattractive shared struggles, problems, and negative experiences that people may not realize they have to endure.

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    Here's what people said:

    1. "Being invisible next to your friends. They're all having fun, and you just sit there, and no one is talking to you."


    2. "People thinking that you don't have the right to like yourself or thinking that your confidence is 'brave.' Fuck off."


    3. "As a fat woman: not being able to go to 90% of my doctor's visits without my weight being brought up. I mean, that's fine in a checkup or physical, but if I go in because I have a sinus infection, I don't really feel the need to discuss how fat I am right at that moment unless it's somehow going to clear up my sinus infection."


    4. "I hate when people comment or say, 'I wanna have your self-esteem/confidence!' as if it was a compliment. It isn't — they're just using other words to call the person ugly."


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    5. "Fewer job opportunities. Attractiveness plays a part in getting hired."


    6. "Unsolicited weight loss/health advice (that is often wrong and does not consider my health at all) and unsolicited advice on how to be attractive to men."


    7. "If a skinny, pretty girl dresses super casual with no effort, it’s cute and trendy, but if I do it I’m lazy and don’t care about my looks."


    8. "The intense anxiety that arises during family events when it’s photo time. My cousins are all very beautiful and love posting to Instagram and all that. My family is big on photos. I’m the only one who isn’t photogenic at all. I have a lazy eye, and my face is just generally asymmetrical."


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    9. "Most men assumed that I was going to be easy — as in easy to have sex with — because they think I have no self-esteem and seek validation with sex."


    10. "People constantly trying to fix me. My aunty asked me how I was going to get a man with a body like mine and my dressing style. Mind you, she is pushing 50 with no man, but OK."


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    11. "When I was fat, 99% of the rare attention I received was from dudes who clearly saw me this way. I was frequently fetishized."


    12. "When I was fat, they would hit on my significant other right in front of me. When I’m slim, they look at him and immediately look at the floor and walk away."


    13. "I was treated differently than my attractive friends. People were less helpful to me, left me out of everything (especially photos), and only wanted me around when it suited them."


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    14. "Spending ages trying to dress up nicely only to go outside and realize that everyone else is still a million times more attractive than you."


    15. "That no matter how often your significant other tells you that you’re beautiful, you constantly compare yourself to more attractive women and feel that you’ll never be enough."


    16. "People being rude to you, especially men. If they’re not attracted to you, then you don't deserve respect nor decency."


    What do y'all think? If you think of yourself similarly, let me know your thoughts in the comments below!

    Note: Responses edited for length and/or clarity.