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Gen Z'ers Are Sharing How They'll Parent Differently Than Their Boomer Parents And It's Eye-Opening

Take notes, all generations.

On Saturday, Reddit user u/fluffyman101 asked, "Teenagers, if you ever have kids, what will you do differently compared to your parents?"

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It led to Gen Z'ers sharing how they'll parent differently from their boomer parents. Here's what they said:

Praise and criticize with the same energy:

"I will recognize every good thing they do with the same level of enthusiasm as I lay out consequences for their misdeeds. My parents only ever gave me any sort of attention if I was a) misbehaving or b) hurt." β€” u/musicallykairi

Be aware of addiction cycles that run in the family:

"I would show them that they're loved, and that their emotions and feelings are valid. I also wouldn't drink/let my partner drink alcohol around them on a daily basis. I don't drink any alcohol, because I don't want to continue the addiction cycle that runs in my family." β€” u/KCM__

Tell my child when a pet dies:

"I will tell them immediately if a pet dies. My parents used to hide it away for weeks and go bury them by themselves. It really feels like crap when you don't even realize they're dead, and they're already buried." β€” u/limevillain

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Give them space:

"I will give them space and privacy, and always let them know that I will not judge or yell at them for anything they want to tell me." β€” u/Philosapphocal

Let them join whatever activities THEY want:

"I will let them join in any activities they want. My mom never let me join clubs, take lessons, or bring friends home. I want my kids to have those experiences that I didn’t." β€” u/Philosapphocal

Loosen up control:

"I definitely would not control their life and actions as much as my parents did to me. I would still want to teach them how to be responsible and have good judgement, but I would never control every action of their life." β€” u/SirTheodoreTheIII

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Religious freedom:

"I won't force religion on them." β€” u/fakepopa

Not just say 'no':

"Instead of saying 'Because I say so' or just 'no,' I will try to explain. Communication and honesty are important in any close interaction with someone. If you don't talk, then things will never work." β€” u/chlorineasshole

Won't comment on what they eat:

"I won’t comment on what they eat. I developed an eating disorder because of my parents commenting on what I ate β€” even if my daily intake was around 1,000 calories." β€” u/oriolebot299

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Won't play favorites:

"I won't constantly talk about one child more than the other. Made me feel really shitty when all my parents talked about was my younger brother because he played sports when I was an art kid." β€” u/Informal-Assumption

Hang out with them:

"I'll spend quality time with them." β€” u/ttttnow

Talk about crushes:

"I won’t make having a crush or talking about girls feel like an embarrassing thing. Anytime I would bring up a girl from my class or anything like that, my mom would hit me with 'Oooooh,' and it made me not want to talk about that kind of thing with my parents for the rest of my life." β€” u/ptrue111

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Teach basic skills:

"I will teach them basic life skills like cooking, woodworking, etc." β€” u/Bucky16F

Encourage healthy self-expression:

"I'll allow them to express themselves and encourage self-expression in whatever way they want as long as it's healthy, safe, and respectful of others and to themselves." β€” u/whendidwestop

Admit when I'm wrong:

"I would allow them to calmly argue their case to see who is right and who is wrong. And if I'm in the wrong, I would admit it and say sorry, instead of just walking away without apologizing or still blaming the situation on them." β€” u/Spirited_Otaku4242

What do you think of their responses? Let me know in the comments below!

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