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Bartenders Are Sharing Their Unspoken Rules That They're Tired Of Everyone Breaking

They're fed up...

Last month, Reddit user u/SnowmanINC asked, "Bartenders of Reddit, what are the unspoken rules that [people] need to learn again?" Bartenders answered with examples that people — especially in 2022 — need to stop doing.

a bartender straining a drink into a coup glass

Here's what they said to teach the newbies what is and isn't ok!

1. "Have your order ready when I get to you — don't start asking people what they want! It just takes up unnecessary time that I don't have."

u/SnowmanINC

2. "Speak up! There’s loud music and screaming all around me!"

u/skyphoenyx

a group of young drinkers crowding the bar

3. "'Ummm, what beers do you have?' Look at the taps. I'm making a cocktail right now and I need to focus on what else this guy is ordering."

u/Suddenly_Anxious17

4. "Don't wave your hand. Even with money — still don’t. We know you are thirsty — that’s why you are there."

u/SnowmanINC

bar goers waving cards and cash to the bartenders

5. "Don't touch my shit (shakers and whatever)!"

u/Reasonable-Grand-167

6. "Don’t stand in front of my service well. Servers need their drinks and you’re in the way."

u/Sechrest26

7. "Don’t ask me — the service bartender, who makes servers' drinks — questions when I’m making drinks for servers. There are other bartenders behind the bar for this very reason."

u/Sechrest26

someone looking over a drink menu

8. "Chain ordering is a sin. Like when they say, 'Can I get a____? Wait, I also need a ___. And a ____. Sorry!"

u/skyphoenyx

9. "If you're a friend or know me, don't pressure me for free drinks. I'll try to give you what I can."

u/qwertylaura123

a bartending serving the bar

10. "I’m coming! Stop slapping the bar, telling me your order as I walk past, or waving!"

u/skyphoenyx

11. "Do not pick up or help yourself to my bitters. And don't pick them up just to read what they are. Those are my tools, hands off."

u/Sechrest26

12. "Don't fucking eat out of the fucking fruit tray. That fruit is meant for drinks, not for your grubby fingers!"

u/RaoulZDuke

a person taking inventory of their fruit tray and bar top

13. "Don't be on the phone when you're ordering a drink. It prolongs the whole process."

—Anonymous 

14. "Don't be like one of those people who tries to negotiate. Seriously, I don't own the bar, and I'm not in any position to give you discounts without taking it from my tips."

u/Phr4gG3r

cash next to a glass of whiskey

15. "People always send back the drink for not being strong enough. I, the bartender, know exactly how much I poured in your drink. You got 2.25 oz. altogether of spirit. If your face doesn't scrunch up in disgust, that's because it's a FUCKING COCKTAIL and it's SUPPOSED to taste good."

u/cmosa

16. "When they ask for another drink after closing time. I can't."

wagamamalullaby

And lastly:

17. "TIP OR STAY HOME!"

u/skyphoenyx

Fellow bartenders, did they miss any? Let me know in the comments below!

Responses/prompt edited for length/clarity.