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Here's What It's Like For A Woman To Be Told To "Lose Weight" By A Man Online

This conversation is the definition of "Bye Felipe".

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Topacio is an entertainer and marketing director who regularly shares stylish photos of herself with friends and followers on her blog.

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Topacio told BuzzFeed News that she shared the screengrabs to talk about "how damaging relationships like these are".

Being told I need to "fucking lose weight" so much it kills someone and it being the ONLY reason why a man doesn't want me is beyond..

She hoped by sharing the conversation, she could "help cause the change we need to start seeing about how men abuse women in such a way."


Topacio’s original tweet was quickly retweeted hundreds of times, and her Twitter followers were shocked by the body-shaming comments:

@profreshstyle I mean, beside the fact that fat shaming is so lame, as if your date-ability by a man determines your worth as a woman.

I can't believe some weirdo told @profreshstyle to lose weight!? She's gorgeous! If she's fat. God help the rest of us!!!

In case you were struggling with your field identification of a "douchebag", here's one.

This dude is the epitome of BASIC. Get off your computer and go find your happiness. Get out of her life #BYE

Alexandra Tweten, the woman behind Bye Felipe, said she created the account to share messages like Topacio's to show men what it's like to be a woman online.

"Since creating Bye Felipe, it has become apparent that a standard trajectory of discourse with men online is this: Man hits on woman, woman rejects or ignores him, man lashes out with insults or even threats," she said in an article for Ms Magazine.

"Censoring these messages may help in the short term, but the messages featured on Bye Felipe are like an immortalised version of the catcalls and threats women receive on the the street every day, just walking around and existing."


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