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    17 Refreshingly Honest Realities Of Raising A Kid With ADHD

    Finding your zen will help them find theirs.

    1. When you blame yourself and think: It's all my fault my child with ADHD is struggling. / Via

    No one is to blame. Repeat: No one is to blame. Challenges are opportunities for growth if we choose to see them that way. Choose to see them that way.

    2. When you feel stuck in an endless loop of school meetings and conferences for your ADHD kid. / Via

    You are wise. Ask yourself how to best assist your child and listen to your own intuition. Reach out to people who can truly support you.

    3. When you constantly get the stink-eye from other parents.

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    Your child’s behavior is triggering other parents. They make judgments about you/your kid. Choose inner peace over upset. You will be happier!

    4. When your ADHD child feels terrible because she is not invited to birthday parties.

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    As a parent, we want to spare our children any pain. But we can't. What we can do is love and support them while they struggle.

    5. When other parents are phonies who smile at your face and talk about you/your kid behind your back.

    What other people say about you/your child is none of your business. It has more to do with them than it ever has to do with you. You can let this go.

    6. When you feel like your life is a mess.

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    Place hand over heart and repeat this mantra: “I forgive myself for judging my life as a mess. The truth is that I am doing the best I can. That is enough." Amen.

    7. When you feel like you suck at the parenting thing. / Via

    Place hand over heart and repeat this mantra: “I forgive myself for judging myself as a bad parent. The truth is parenting is not what I expected it to be. I am a work in progress. So is my child.” YES.

    8. When you and your spouse are at each other's throats when it comes to parenting. / Via

    Raising kids is hard. Raising kids with ADHD is the advanced course! You and Hubby (or Wifey) need some wine, date-nights, and relationship-attention time.

    9. When you don't take time to care for yourself because your child is struggling and that would be 'selfish.' / Via

    No. Just no. Filling up your own tank is not selfish; it's self-honoring! You are the fuel for your family. No one's is going anywhere if your tank is empty!

    10. When you think the school hates you because you're always asking for something for your ADHD child. / Via

    It is not your job for other people to like you. It is your job to advocate for your child. You like you. Enough said.

    11. When you believe it's a deep, dark secret that your child has ADHD.


    Challenges are part of the human condition. Your child has nothing to be ashamed of. Neither do you. Hold your head up high!

    12. When you can't sleep because you're freaking out over your ADHD kid's future. / Via

    Fear is simply "Future Events Appearing Real" but they're not. There are zillions of successful adults with ADHD. Stay in The Now.

    13. When you feel guilty because your ADHD kid gets way more attention than your other children. / Via

    Place hand over heart and repeat this mantra: "I forgive myself for judging myself because I don't pay equal attention to my children. I am doing the best I can in a tough situation." Can I get an amen?

    14. When you don't know what to do and are getting desperate. / Via

    Overwhelm is fear hiding under a mountain of to-do's. Reach out for support.

    15. When you think: This is not my Fantasy Family. If only things were different. / Via

    Compare = Despair. Rest assured, everybody's got their struggles.

    16. When you think: A good parent could 'fix' her child's ADHD. / Via

    It is not your job to “fix" your children. It is your job to love and support them while they struggle. Super-Advanced Truth: There is nothing to fix. No one is broken!

    17. When you embrace your kids exactly as they are and love them with all your heart. / Via

    Hell to the yes! By accepting your children with their challenges, you teach them to accept themselves. What's more important than that?

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