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    Understanding Family Gatherings

    Celebrating the holidays can be one of those things that you either love more than anything or come to loathe thanks to family gatherings you don’t want to be at. I tend to lean far more on the loving side of things, but I completely understand why any of you out there would find yourself avoiding the holidays like the plague.

    In fact, this is a topic I often give thought to. I feel bad that not everyone out there can have the same experience I do with holiday gatherings and finding excuses to see old friends. I know that I tend to overextend with plans, and my fiancee can attest to me trying to do too much regarding hanging out with people, but I wouldn’t have it any other way, especially if it meant not seeing people I enjoy hanging out with.

    So, I just wish that there was more contentedness in the world, more understanding between families and friends so that everyone could make an excuse to see one another a few times a year and actually enjoy it. While a lot of people will still come to family gatherings, they dread the time there and try to get in and out as quickly as possible. Me? Well, I try to see it from the perspective of the family members who don’t do as much as me and have as many plans on a weekly basis as me. They’re the ones who enjoy seeing me a lot more than I realize, so I can only hope to please them with my presence and give them the time of day they deserve.

    In fact, I’m looking forward to the 4th of July plans my wife and I have made for this weekend. Everyone is responsible for bringing something, whether it’s food or drinks or shipping supplies (think tape and cardboard boxes) for the fireworks. I think we’ll end up bringing a few different varieties of beer as well as some cheaper shipping supplies, which is a lot easier to me than thinking of a dish to bring and making it while down there.

    Ultimately, though, it’s all about contribution. Contributing your time isn’t always easy if you’re just wanting to relax. Contributing some food or drinks isn’t always fun if you’re not good at thinking of something unique or you don’t like spending your own money on others. But, this is what makes a family a family. Or at least that’s how I like to see it.

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