Okay, yes... I secretly judge people who read self-help books. We all do it. I guess its because my folks taught me all I need to know about taking responsibility for myself in all aspects of life. I don't need some random counting down the ten steps to better sex. I'd much rather prefer doing my own research, thank you very much.
I've always been a strong, independent woman. I know exactly what I want and how I aim to achieve it. Then reality set in... I graduated and sat without a job for a good few months. Going from having a schedule everyday to not even having a plan to get out of bed is a pretty depressing feeling.
I needed some inspiration. I didn't want to become the lazy out-of-work actress who lived off her parents. I went to auditions and castings all the time but had no luck in booking anything. Sure, I had written ideas down for my own work, but my lack of confidence kept those ideas exactly where they started. That was when I discovered Tina Fey's Bossy Pants. Man, oh man, can this lady inspire. Her book was full of anecdotes and hilarious stories about her years as a struggling actress. This was exactly what I needed.
Upon finishing the book, my head was already filled with ideas for one woman shows; improvisation scenes and the hope that one day, I too, would fulfill my dreams, not only in a professional capacity but in my life in general. I set out to find more books like this. Women like Amy Poehler, Lena Dunham and Mindy Kaling had written words that resonated with me."Treat your career like a bad boyfriend" says Poehler. "Your career wont take care of you. It won't call you back or introduce you to its parents. Your career will openly flirt with other people while you are around." She also reminds us that you are not permanently married to this 'bad boyfriend': "If your career is a bad boyfriend, it is healthy to remember you can always leave and go to sleep with somebody else"
Reading these words felt like I was in session with my life coach. These women were my friends. They managed to get me out of bed and take a chance in life. I was no longer in that sheltered environment of college, I was a big girl and needed to do big girl things. Take the plunge.
In doing this, I found myself. I rediscovered my dreams and set out new goals to pursue them. I'm not just a funemployed actress anymore- that doesn't define who i am. I'm an independent woman who knows exactly what I want and nothing and no one will stop me.
Get out there and do your thing- Don't be afraid anymore. And read some self-help books while you're at it.
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