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    Men Are Revealing The Last Time They Cried And Why, And This Is An Important Conversation About Masculinity

    "I think for me, it all came crashing down emotionally."

    If you've been on Twitter as of late, you may have seen the speech that Jonathan Majors gave about Michael B. Jordan during Michael's Hollywood Walk of Fame ceremony, where a lot of fans took notice of Jonathan's vulnerability.

    Jonathan Majors and Michael B. Jordan speak during the Hollywood Walk Of Fame Star Ceremony

    And since their friendship has been bringing up a lot of discussions about masculinity and how important it is for men to express support and love to one another in vulnerable ways, I thought it would be important to share this Reddit thread where user u/xeowa asked: "Men of Reddit, when did you last cry and why?" to highlight more stories like the above. The answers and responses to them are incredibly sincere and unguarded. Here's what they had to say:

    1. "Last night, I sent my girlfriend the basic 'good night' message. She replied back with 'I love you.' I sat there and started crying over the fact that she is the most important person in my life, and that I'm so lucky that this woman loves me."

    a man smiling while looking at phone

    2. "I was laying on the couch staring at the ceiling, and my eye teared up from being open too long, and I was like, 'I forget how this feels,' so I let them keep going, wasn't sobbing but multiple tears running down. Felt good."

    a man lying on the couch

    3. "I don't remember. I feel so sad and lonely sometimes, but I still can't cry. I wish I could cry like a kid again."

    a man with his hands to his face inside a home

    4. "May 2021. My wife had a cerebral stroke. I thought that I would lose her. I felt like a log at sea, purposeless, aimless. We have a daughter, and I knew that I should remain strong for her, but my wife give me purpose. ... Without her, I'm incomplete. I'm less. Just for God's grace she survived with almost no side effects."

    a man in the hospital hallway

    5. "Last night, just thinking about my mum."

    a man hugging his mom with flowers

    6. "Everyone seems to be posting serious stuff, but actually the last I cried was a few weeks ago when I watched Episode 3 of The Last Of Us."

    A scene from The last of us

    7. "December of last year, my wife shared with me that we are pregnant. It’s something we have both wanted for such a long time. When she showed me the test, I was so happy, I just burst into tears right in front of her."

    a man and pregnant woman inside their home

    8. "I have a cat; one day he got sick, and when the vet checked on him, he said he needed to go to surgery right away. The chances of survival were low. Came back home that day bawling my eyes out thinking it was all over. He was so happy and normal one day, and the next, he was at risk of dying. Luckily, the two surgeries went great, and he survived."

    man with cat

    9. "A month ago when speaking about the possibility of having to do a long-distance relationship if I get sent to a different state for residency after medical school. I did a LDR with my last girlfriend for three years and have a lot of trauma from it. I swore I’d never do it again. Now, I’m in love with someone new, and I am working on breaking down barriers that I’ve put up to protect myself. I think during the conversation, it all came crashing down emotionally."

    a man talking on the phone

    10. "The end of Marley & Me. It reminded me of my doggo. I had to put him down at 6 years old due to aggressive cancer."

    a man with dog inside kitchen

    11. "Six months in the NICU will break anybody."

    a man holding a baby's foot

    12. "Two weeks ago. When it really hit me how much I let my managers abuse me. I quit a few days later, and I start my new job on the 27th."

    man upset at job

    13. "Recent breakup. Everything was going great, and then one day, she just said she wasn't attracted to me. Really hurts one's self-image."

    a man and a woman looking sad inside home

    14. "It's been a while since I last cried. But that's not because I'm trying to be tough or anything, I just haven't been in a situation where I felt like crying. I think it's important for guys to recognize that it's okay to cry and show emotions. The last time I cried was when my grandpa passed away a few years ago. It was really tough to say goodbye to him, and I couldn't hold back the tears. It felt good to let it all out, though, and I think it helped me to process my emotions and come to terms with his passing. So, guys, don't be afraid to cry when you need to. It's a sign of strength, not weakness."

    two men hugging at a funeral

    Men, do you remember the last time you cried? If so, tell us when and why in the comments below.

    The National Alliance on Mental Illness helpline is 1-888-950-6264 (NAMI) and provides information and referral services; is an association of mental health professionals from more than 25 countries who support efforts to reduce harm in therapy.