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So, "The Bachelorette" Semi-Started Last Night And...Woof

"Once you go black..." LEMME STOP YOU RIGHT THERE, DEAN.

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The big reveal? That — UNBEKNOWNST TO HER — Rachel's season of The Bachelorette was starting RIGHT NOW ON LIVE TELEVISION.


Not only was it shitty that Rachel won't get her own, special normal first episode to meet all of her suitors, but what followed was...uncomfortable. On a lot of levels.


After meeting the second suitor, Blake (who was so boring/unprepared, it hurt), Rachel said to Chris Harrison, "They're great! I mean, we could stop there..."


(Raise your hand if you've ever said, "I mean, we could stop!" while grimacing because you're not comfortable saying, "Holy shit, let's definitely stop.")

And how did he respond? With this: "You want to stop there? I mean, we can stop there." *takes two steps closer to Rachel* "We should probably keep going."

And because The Bachelorette wasn't done giving me college frat-party flashbacks, the next thing they did was bring out Dean, who introduced himself by saying, "I'm ready to go black...and I'm never gonna go back."


My face watching all of this unfold:


And, look, I don't want to speak for Rachel but I will say this: Yeah, she claps and laughs and says, "I love it!" to Dean (and throughout the segment)...but as a black woman who has had a lot of smarmy white dudes say fucked-up things that made me uncomfortable — and as a woman who has struggled to find nice ways to say "no" many, many times, especially in public settings — there's a power dynamic here that put Rachel in a very tough position. This was live television, and as the new Bachelorette, Rachel is supposed to be America's sweetheart — which means, in part, making white people feel comfortable.

So even if she was uncomfortable or unhappy, reacting negatively could have had real consequences. Her options were to either roll with it or risk being labeled "difficult." Quite frankly, I wouldn't expect her to do anything but laugh it off.

Rachel handled every cringeworthy moment with total grace, but I'm really hoping that ABC and Chris Harrison will chill out with the "surprises" in Rachel's upcoming ~epic~, ~historic~ season.

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