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Why Bro-Dal Showers Are The Next Big Thing In Weddings

Because grooms deserve to be celebrated too.

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The editors at BuzzFeed Life recently threw wedding showers for two of our male co-workers.

Because we love them. And because wedding traditions deserve to be fucked with. We called these parties for the grooms-to-be "bro-dal showers."
Lauren Zaser / Justine Zwiebel / BuzzFeed Life

Because we love them. And because wedding traditions deserve to be fucked with. We called these parties for the grooms-to-be "bro-dal showers."

Our first bro-dal shower was a casual afternoon party for Ahmed Akbar, who will marry his fiancé Salimah in July 2016.

Since this was a guys-only party that included several Brooklyn residents, the masculine ~lumbersexual~ theme felt appropriate. But! This theme would work just as well for a "Lumberjill" bridal shower, a couples shower, or any gathering of lumbersexuals.
Lauren Zaser / Justine Zwiebel / BuzzFeed Life

Since this was a guys-only party that included several Brooklyn residents, the masculine ~lumbersexual~ theme felt appropriate. But! This theme would work just as well for a "Lumberjill" bridal shower, a couples shower, or any gathering of lumbersexuals.

There was a meat and cheese board piled high:

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Beer and bacon trail mix:

It's SO DELICIOUS. Learn how to make it here.
Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life

It's SO DELICIOUS. Learn how to make it here.

Beer brat sliders:

Get the recipe here.
Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life

Get the recipe here.

Campfire corn:

See the instructions here.
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See the instructions here.

Skillet s'mores dip:

Get the recipe here.
Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life

Get the recipe here.

Whiskey shots with moonshine-soaked cherries:

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And, of course, a cake:

See how we made it here.
Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life

See how we made it here.

This Tumblr-inspired beard-decorating game was made for Instagram-worthy photos.

(Which guys do care about, even if some of them pretend they don't.)
Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life

(Which guys do care about, even if some of them pretend they don't.)

We got fake beards from a Halloween shop and set out a bunch of DIY supplies.

Guests were paired off and had five minutes to create a fancy beard.
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Guests were paired off and had five minutes to create a fancy beard.

Even though some of our guests had real ink, everyone had fun with the temporary tattoo station.

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Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life
Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life

The moonshine may have helped the guests unleash their inner lumbersexuals.

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And — because it's a wedding shower tradition — the fiancé came by at the end.

Lumberjack & Lumberjill 4ever.
Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life

Lumberjack & Lumberjill 4ever.

The second bro-dal shower was for Tommy Wesely, who will marry his fiancé Matt in October.

There's long been a connection between gay men, comic book superheroes, and camp, and we wanted to show how to turn comic books (or any geeky love) into a more elegant affair. (Turns out: lots of metallics and matte gold spray paint.) This sophisticated theme would work just as easily for a birthday party, engagement party, or swanky dinner party.
Lauren Zaser / Justine Zwiebel / BuzzFeed Life

There's long been a connection between gay men, comic book superheroes, and camp, and we wanted to show how to turn comic books (or any geeky love) into a more elegant affair. (Turns out: lots of metallics and matte gold spray paint.) This sophisticated theme would work just as easily for a birthday party, engagement party, or swanky dinner party.

Use of the phrase "tablescape" was encouraged. As in "Wow, that Gotham-inspired tablescape looks great."

The buildings are inexpensive 3D puzzles with a couple coats of matte black spray paint added.
Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life

The buildings are inexpensive 3D puzzles with a couple coats of matte black spray paint added.

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Pro tip: All desserts look better when they're stacked.

(The macarons were not given a coat of matte black spray paint; we had them custom-made.)
Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life

(The macarons were not given a coat of matte black spray paint; we had them custom-made.)

Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life

There was a tasting menu of seven cocktails, all inspired by different Batman characters.

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Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life
Like the Bruce Wayne and the Boy Wonder. See all of them and get the recipes here.
Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life

Like the Bruce Wayne and the Boy Wonder. See all of them and get the recipes here.

A seven-cocktail tasting menu = everyone had a pretty great time.

Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed
Lauren Zaser / BuzzFeed Life

The guests played classic shower games (like answering trivia questions about the couple) while getting increasingly drunk and therefore bad at playing them.

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Also, the fancy black macarons turned everyone's tongues black.

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Go forth and bro-dal!

Styled by: John Gara, Lauren Zaser, Rachel Wilkerson Miller, Jess Probus, Matt Ortile

Photography: Lauren Zaser

Lumberjack recipe development and styling: Christine Byrne

Batman cocktail recipe development and styling: Rachel Sanders

Invitations, menus, and games: Justine Zwiebel

Lumberjack party products: Black disposable dishes; round galvanized charger; galvanized tray; moss; vintage copper shot glasses; moonshine and cherries; mini chalkboard sign; wooden utensils; tin planters; succulents; wooden ax; photo booth backdrop; photo booth props; camping tattoos; bear tattoos; bear pillow; beard oil; beard comb; napkins; moss table runner; tablecloth; lanterns; tiny trees.

Batman party products: Flowers; black macarons; silver geometric vases; long black planters; Chrysler Building puzzle; Empire State Building puzzle; gold flatware; napkins; place mats; tablecloth; gold confetti glasses; gold candle holders; Batmobile; candelabras; photo booth props; photo booth backdrop; black geometric votive holders; silver chargers.

Some of the props and decor were loaned to BuzzFeed Life or given to us free of charge.

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