Buzz·Posted on 24 Sept 201519 Silly Assumptions About Singles In Their ThirtiesPlease don't bring up "The One."by Rachel SpencerBuzzFeed ContributorFacebookPinterestTwitterMailLink 1. "You're just like Samantha on Sex And The City." View this photo on Instagram instagram.com She may be the Patron Saint of Singles, but some of us are more Liz Lemon or Mindy Lahiri in our dating lives, so can't you just call us strong and independent and leave it at that? 2. “I’ve got the perfect person for you.” View this photo on Instagram instagram.com Since when were being single and having a pulse the only qualifications for perfection??? 3. "Tell everyone the one about ... *fills in blank with your worst dating fail*." Fox Fact: Reliving our disasters is not actually fun for us. 4. "I love living my life vicariously through your stories." View this photo on Instagram instagram.com Everything's funny 'til it happens to you, right? 5. "Why are you on your own?" NBC This conversation is going nowhere. Either we don't know the answer ourselves, or we have our own good reasons that aren't really anyone else's business. Plus, there's really no way to ask this question without the "what's wrong with you subtext," so let's just not go there, okay? 6. "You mustn’t be trying hard enough!" View this photo on Instagram instagram.com Annoyingly, unlike many things in life, the amount of effort you put into dating doesn't guarantee success. No matter how many times you chat up a dateable looking dog-walker, if the chemistry's not there, it's not there. 7. "It’s because you’re too picky." View this photo on Instagram instagram.com Just because some people are 30 and settled down doesn't make that THE expiration date for the rest of us. 8. "You need to have children before you’re 40." View this photo on Instagram instagram.com We know it’s easier to conceive when you’re younger, but thankfully, science and celebs like J Lo, Halle Berry and Madonna have proved you can have kids past 40. Plus, we're way too young for all that! 9. "You need to put yourself out there!" View this photo on Instagram instagram.com We are out there! How can you not be? We haven't spent the last 30 odd years living under a rock! 10. "Have you tried internet dating?" View this photo on Instagram instagram.com As if we hadn't already thought of that! You'd struggle to find a single thirtysomething who hasn't, but let's be honest here, the internet dating world is just as much of a lottery as IRL dating. 11. "It doesn’t matter how many knock backs you get, as long as you find ‘The One.’" View this photo on Instagram instagram.com Rejection is hard, and sometimes we need a break from the knock backs to focus on the components of your life that we can actually control. 12. “You need to ‘tone yourself down’ a bit.” View this photo on Instagram instagram.com Honestly, if we're "too much to handle" for a date, they're the ones missing out, not us. 13. "Why don’t you get back with your ex?" View this photo on Instagram instagram.com OR, why don't we just do our own thing until somebody who doesn't make us miserable comes along? 14. "Your time will come one day." View this photo on Instagram instagram.com Our time is now! Being single doesn't mean we're missing out or have some terrible affliction, and life doesn't start when you meet someone. 15. "You should freeze your eggs/sperm." View this photo on Instagram instagram.com If there was ever a thing that would send any potential suitor running to the hills it would be announcing you’d already frozen your baby-making equipment before you’d even clapped eyes on each other. How about just thinking what will be will be? 16. "One day you’ll look back and laugh about this." View this photo on Instagram instagram.com LOL, ok. For now we'll carry on our search for love safe in the knowledge that it’s better to be on the shelf than in the wrong cupboard. 17. "After all you've been through, meeting 'The One' will be SO amazing." View this photo on Instagram instagram.com We’d hope so, but at the very least, we won’t have to put up with them for as long! 18. "I don't know how you stay positive." View this photo on Instagram instagram.com It's easy: we know there's plenty in life to be happy about, and a relationship doesn't make or break it! 19. "It just hasn’t happened yet." View this photo on Instagram instagram.com YES! The one sensible line you can come out with to a long-term singleton. It really is as simple as that. Psychologist Karin Anderson even wrote the book It Just Hasn't Happened Yet. A must for all unlucky-in-love thirtysomethings. And their friends!