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Did you know that September is Neonatal Intensive Care Awareness (NICA) Month?

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1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage, and over 500,000 children every year will be admitted to the NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit). While this is often talked about, the grief faced by mothers who experience this pain is rarely discussed.

This is something that Kate Woolley, of The Noble Paperie, and her husband soon faced once they decided they were ready for a baby.Kate says: "It took months of planning, deciding we were ready, coming off birth control and waiting, and then months of trying before we were actually pregnant. And then I was like everyone else - I had this preconceived notion that since I had a positive pregnancy test, in 9 months I would be holding out little bundle of joy. There was no trace of doubt, no concern in my mind."But Kate soon learned that wasn't the case. At her 8-week appointment she found out her baby had no heartbeat. It was a devastating moment. A Kate carried the grief from the experience inside of her for months before she was ready to address it.
Kate Woolley / Via thenoblepaperie.com

This is something that Kate Woolley, of The Noble Paperie, and her husband soon faced once they decided they were ready for a baby.

Kate says: "It took months of planning, deciding we were ready, coming off birth control and waiting, and then months of trying before we were actually pregnant. And then I was like everyone else - I had this preconceived notion that since I had a positive pregnancy test, in 9 months I would be holding out little bundle of joy. There was no trace of doubt, no concern in my mind."

But Kate soon learned that wasn't the case. At her 8-week appointment she found out her baby had no heartbeat. It was a devastating moment. A Kate carried the grief from the experience inside of her for months before she was ready to address it.

Kate Woolley / Via thenoblepaperie.com

1 in 4 Pregnancies End In A Miscarriage

Kate isn't alone in this experience though - 1 in 4 pregnancies end in a miscarriage. Many, many women go through this, and many don't talk about it. Or can't talk about it.

After the miscarriage, Kate was able to get pregnant again, but had an extremely difficult and high-risk pregnancy. She spent 40 days in the hospital on bedrest, delivered her son 2 months early via emergency C-section, and then spent 34 days in NICU with her son before they were able to come home.

These trials made Kate acutely aware of HOW difficult is can be to bring a baby into this world - and how it was a topic rarely talked about, and how difficult it was to bring up. She knew she didn't want other women suffering the same pain and confusion she did, and questions came to her mind on how to help: How do you support someone in this much pain? What can you do to help communicate your empathy?


So, she created a highly-specific line of greeting cards. Just for women like her.

One-of-a-kind creations, each unique in their own way, like the experiences that brought them into this world.

Some are based around sayings that need to stop being said to grieving moms:

Kate Woolley / Via thenoblepaperie.com

Some are comedic:

Kate Woolley / Via thenoblepaperie.com

Some help you say what needs to be said:

Kate Woolley / Via thenoblepaperie.com

Some help celebrate the baby that arrives after a miscarriage:

Kate Woolley / Via thenoblepaperie.com

And cards for moms who find their babies in the NICU:

Kate Woolley / Via thenoblepaperie.com

And there are even cards to thank the nurses, doctors, and others who support moms on their NICU journey:

Kate Woolley / Via thenoblepaperie.com

500,000 Children Are Admitted To The NICU Every Year

Chances are, you know someone who has gone through these same experiences. September is NICU awareness month, and hopefully you can find a way to help these moms express their pain and help them understand that they MATTER, these experiences don't define them, and most importantly - they are not alone.

Kate's adorable baby boy. Finally home.
Kate Woolley / Via thenoblepaperie.com

Kate's adorable baby boy. Finally home.

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