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    29 Perfect Hoe-Phase Sex Toys That'll Help You Get Started (And Get Off)

    The weather is warming up and so is my libido...

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    First things first, "hoe" is not a bad word. Nor is it a bad thing. Now that that's out of the way, let's talk about a #hoephase. When does it happen? Maybe you're out of your first serious relationships, maybe you are ready to buy your first or second sex toy, maybe you want to explore your sexuality a little bit — anything can be a hoe phase.

    Definition of the term "hoe-phase"
    Urban Dictionary

    Here's how Urban Dictionary explains it. I've doctored it a little to include people on the Ace spectrum (such as myself) who still enjoy a good orgasm and people who are are in committed relationships (monogamous or otherwise) and want to turn up the heat a little bit. There's no age limit to being a hoe.

    Also, I hate spelling this word with an "e" at the end, but it seems that's the popular way to do it, so I will do it.

    I did ask my friends what they thought was most important to have on hand and they said: shibari rope, a wand vibrator, an anal plug and a cock ring (nonvibrating or vibrating). One friend also said she'd call me when she was at her peak hoe phase, and that she had more dicks than sex toys, that journey for her.

    So if you're ready, here are 29 sex toys to add to your arsenal if you're putting yourself out there.

    1. The scintillating Satisfyer Pro 2, boasting 11 intensities of no-contact clitoral stimulation, so you can ride wave after wave of pleasure.

    Gold suction vibrator on blanket
    Rose gold, purple and blue Satisfyer Pro 2, @satisfyercom / Via

    Promising reviews: "Two words: squirt machine! This thing will make you have an endless orgasm with squirting buckets included! Warning: Have extra sheets because after two to five minutes of use, the bed will be wet and after 15 minutes nothing will be dry! Nothing (you, partner, clothes, bed, walls, and floor)!! Awesome device!" —william ross moore

    "Fucking AMAZING. Quiet when *in use* but once you pull away on higher settings, it's a bit louder. Still not as loud as an hitachi though which is very nice. But yes, it works amazing. I can't even make it to the highest setting." —Olivia Welp

    Get it from Amazon for $49.95 (available in rose gold and violet).

    2. A cock ring equipped with a textured vibrating pad to stimulate the clit or balls — your pick.

    reviewer holding black and gold cock ring
    reviewer displaying textured side of cock ring

    The silicone ring stretches to fit a variety of penises (or dildos), and the vibrator has 5 speeds and patterns for up to 25 varying intensities.

    Promising reviews: "This is a great addition to solo or couple's play. The ring is super stretchy and can fit around any of our toys. Loved when she was on top. She was able to grind on it without having to hold a heavy vibrator. Super quick and easy to clean and charges quickly! It's pretty quiet considering how intense the vibration can be." —Howard Martin

    "This vibrating ring is made out of good-quality material. It's soft and stretchy with a nice snug fit but not too tight. It can be worn in a variety of ways and used in different positions. The vibrations are pretty powerful while also being relatively quiet. The battery lasts quite awhile but charges pretty quickly. And best of all, it's super easy to clean because it's waterproof and can even be used underwater. I highly recommend this product. It's not too expensive and was shipped discreetly." —NSFB

    Get it from Amazon for $35.66.

    3. A hands-free Eva vibrator by Dame that can be used alone or with a partner in case clitoral stimulation is a MUST for your guaranteed satisfaction.

    Model holding light pink egg-shaped vibrator held above bellybutton
    @dameproducts / Via

    Formally known as the Eva II, the flexible wings are designed to tuck under your labia to help stay put and out of the way during all kinds of play.

    Promising review: "I was so nervous about trying Eva due to the design and diagrams provided on the website. When I saw there were free returns, I decided, 'Why not?' When Eva arrived, the instructions recommended I try it out without a partner first, so I did, apprehensively. My mind was BLOWN. Not only does Eva make my personal orgasms so much better (and I get to them much quicker), but it has also made reaching simultaneous climax a lot easier to achieve with my husband. I love love love Eva, and can’t recommend this product enough! Even if you are nervous, trust me — you want to try it out." —Louisa C.

    Get it from Dame for $135 or Amazon for $130.21+ (available in quartz or fir).

    4. The BuzzFeed x Bellesa AirVibe, boasting a waterproof design, over 1,500 reviews, and 15 intensity levels of dual stimulation.

    Model holding red dual stimulating vibrator
    @bellesaco / Via

    Uhh...I love this toy? I find myself reaching for it a lot because that dual stimulation does something to me that other toys can't and it's incredible. More importantly, the flexibility of the shaft helped me find the perfect position, and as a bigger person it's really nice to have a toy fit my body without too much effort on my part. I'm still tinkering with the power of the AirVibe and finding the perfect combination of its 10 vibration settings and five delicious suction intensities. 

    Promising review: "This is my go-to for sure! It alwaysss gives me the best O’s and even has made me squirt by myself (which never happened before). I’m pretty sure I performed some type of exorcism on myself one of the first times I used it, it’s that good. If I could give it 12 stars I would. I tell all my friends to buy it too. Love it!" —Julia

    "Highly recommend, hits all the right spots! Lots of settings for a customized experience." —HappyCustomer

    Get it from Bellesa Boutique for $99.

    5. A unique cushion designed with contoured tips for an extra-stimulating sensation, whether you're using it as a dildo base or getting your grind on.

    Blue stimulating cushion with ridges
    Black stimulating cushion with ridges
    Wet For Her

    This toy is made of supple silicone and stretches to fit a variety of dildo bases up to 3.25 inches wide.

    Promising reviews: "Works great with a harness and pretty much any strap-on dildo my partner and I own. Would highly recommend. Easy clean and came exactly as described. Super-soft material. 5/5." —Jacquie

    "This made the base of so many dildos much more pleasurable to me! I use it with and without the harness... Sometimes I will put it on the base of a dildo that I am using manually and then grind against it. Great stimulation!" —Blank

    Get it from Wet for Her for $35.95 (originally $39.95; available in black or blue).

    6. A hand-sculpted artisan dildo, just perfect for play with several design options including gentle curves, a suction cup base, and a girth to make your eyes roll back.

    Model holding assortment of striped dildos and plugs
    Entire Avant collection of dildos with water droplets
    @blushglobal / Via, @blushglobal / Via

    The pictured dildos and plugs are all part of Blush's Avant collection, with several representing the colors of a specific Pride flag for their uber-popular Pride collection. Each dildo is a different length and girth, so you literally can't go wrong.

    Promising reviews: "Beautiful, well-made, perfect size and shape, pretty much the best one ever." —Anonymous (on Sin City)

    "I love sex toys, this one is the newest one in my collection. This brand makes the most soft and sensational sex toys that I've ever used. The feel is wonderful to the skin and if you're looking for something more on the bigger side this is the right one for you. I generally prefer dildos with a more narrow head so if you're like me you may have a hard time (pun intended) getting this one in but I took on the challenge. I just had to get very lubricated and extra turned on in order to fit this big boy, but in the end I had that feeling of fullness that I was looking for accompanied by the amazing texture from the toy and ended up coming super hard and feeling completely satisfied. Highly recommend for that lonely weekend or with some fun with your partner :)" —Satisfied customer (on Summer Fling)

    Get them from Amazon for $39.63+ (General collection) and $19.94+ (Pride collection).

    7. An über-popular boxer brief harness that offers comfort and does away with complicated buckles and straps, so you can focus more on the actual pleasure of the moment.

    Green and white boxers with O-ring harness
    Red and black buffalo check boxers with O-ring
    Gray boxers with o-ring

    These cotton-blend boxers are double layered for dependable support and can accommodate dildos with a 1.5-inch O-ring diameter on the base. Two interior pockets for bullet vibrators are strategically placed around the O-ring to add a little more rumble. Check out the site for more colors and prints!

    Promising review: "When the RodeoH harness hit the scene, the trans guy community was raving about it. I saw it plastered on every tumblr. I saw people gushing about the design and how comfortable it looked. And I couldn’t help myself — I wanted it. So when my boss surprised me with one as a gift, I was ecstatic. I could only wait a few days before trying it out. Now, strap-ons are not a usual part of my sexual repertoire. My dysphoria is such that I’d prefer to use what I have than replace what I lack. But the RodeoH changed that. It is immensely comfortable and the lack of things to fiddle with (straps, buckles, Velcro, ties, etc), was absolutely fabulous. If you’re like me and like your harness to be strapped down tight, I recommend getting a size smaller than you may be sized for. I was concerned about the elasticity of the fabric but it proved remarkably sturdy in practical application. While fucking, it stays in place, didn’t slip, didn’t pinch, and most importantly, I barely noticed it was there. For folks who are looking for a streamlined harness that won’t get in their way, or who are looking for a no fuss harness, the Rodeoh is it." —Addison

    Get it from Rodeoh for $49.99 (available in sizes XXXS–3X).

    Rodeoh is a woman-operated small business based in San Francisco that designs and curates inclusive and gender-affirming sexual wellness products.

    8. A mellow orange curvy vibrator with a unique floral textured bulb to stimulate you internally or externally and share all the good vibes.

    Model holding orange vibrator
    Model smiling with vibrator

    Promising reviews: "Really beautiful design and love how the shaft is thin so it doesn’t hurt when you use it. Personally the G-spot was foreign to me, so took some getting used to. Works for external pleasure too so it caters to all kinds of vibes. I really liked it as an intro to G-spot stimulation and the design is elegant - feels like proper self care." —Stephanie F.

    "This vibrator is such high quality and feels so luxurious. The different speeds and levels make it so much fun to play with and it definitely hits the right spot. The rose detail on the head makes external stimulation so much more intense. Enjoy using both alone and with a partner. This vibrator has it all, different speeds and levels, 100% waterproof and a discreet bag!" —Rebecca H.

    Get it from Vush for $110.

    Vush is an Australia-based sexual wellness brand that’s all about self-love and creating IGworthy sex toys that’ll rock your world and match your aesthetic.

    9. A unique vibrator by Bellesa that's like your finger...but better, with 105 textured rods for extra stimulation and a flickering "tongue" with 10 intensities to deliver that simulated oral feeling.

    Pink finger vibrators stacked
    @bellesaco / your finger, if it could move on double speed.

    Promising review: "Your finger but better? An actual understatement of the year. This toy is AMAZING. Typically I'm not a big fan of direct stimulation and have been leaning more towards the air toys that don't make me numb, but this toy is a game changer. Direct clit stimulation yes but numb? Absolutely not!! Thanks to the soft and sensual tongue moving at amazing speeds, I'm able to have multiple intense orgasms. This toy literally leaves me shaking. My boyfriend loves to use it on me and keep it on till I squirt. 10000000/10 would recommend. And for the price? Blows many luxury $200.00+ toys out of the water!" —Sani

    "So small you can take it anywhere, gets things going right when you feel like being a horn-dog, and the softest, cutest tiny tongue for your cute af clit. Finger-licking good." —Sandi

    Get it from Bellesa Boutique for $59.

    10. A uniquely shaped vibrating cock ring by Fun Factory with rabbit ear attachments to stimulate your lover's clitoris with each stroke during PIV.

    Model holding green cock ring
    Fun Factory

    Or, use it with your fingers to finger your lover or wear it during a blowjob for added stimulation to the perineum during oral. The vibrating component boasts two motors with four settings and a "flirt" mode.

    Promising review: "This is great for amping up intercourse for both the wearer and partner. I definitely need lube to get it on and off, as it is rather tight on me. Once on, it is comfortable and stays in place. We have several Fun Factory toys and while expensive, have always been impressed with their quality and functionality." —Anonymous

    Get it from Lovehoney for $99 (available in teal and black).

    11. A soft, wedge-shaped Pillo by Dame that supports all your favorite positions. Whether getting off alone or with a partner, this pillow will be there when you need it.

    Model stretch on indigo wedge pillow
    Pillow angled on couch for full view
    @dameproducts / Via, @dameproducts / Via

    This wedge-shaped pillow is designed with a machine-washable cotton cover and water-resistant lining in case things get a little messy. A handle on each side offers support no matter your favorite position.

    Promising reviews: "It’s really amazing how much of a difference this makes. We are a gay male couple and I wasn’t sure if the pillow would be good for same sex couples but it definitely is. The firmness is great for ALL positions. It surpassed my standards." —Leonardo D.

    "Quality made and good firmness. A pillow to use for more than good sex positions and support. Washable cover is a plus." —Patrice B.

    Get it from Dame for $95.

    12. An oh-so-convenient Ohnut set constructed with a stretchy, body-safe material to fit your favorite penis or dildo and offer extra cushioning during penetration.

    Model demonstrating use of light green silicone rings
    Model holding four dark green silicone rings in hands
    @ohnutco / Via, @ohnutco / Via

    This unique wearable is designed to help people manage pain and customize penetration depth (depending on the number of rings worn) without sacrificing sensation. Though it's stretchy, Ohnut is designed in two sizes: Classic and Wider, which can be determined based on condom sizing!

    Promising reviews: "At first I thought this was a regular cock ring, but it provides so much more. The material is stretchy and great for those of us that have had circulation cut off from lesser products. It provides an adjustable buffer, which my partner and I can adjust per sexual experience. And it even works for personal masturbation." —B.

    "Due to my size my wife and I couldn’t enjoy doggy style. Enter Ohnut. She is now able to enjoy it again thanks to the buffer stopping me from going too far. Also, I can’t even tell it’s on. We couldn’t be happier with this miracle product. 10/10 would recommend!" —Andrew

    Get it from Ohnut for $65 (available in jade and aloe).

    Ohnut Co. is a women-founded wellness company that believes in ending the cycle of silence and discomfort, so people can rediscover the joy of connection.

    13. A unique, strap-on compatible dildo equipped with an ergonomic base that grinds against the wearer's clit, so you and your lover can both get off no matter which role you like to play.

    Pink dildo
    Dildo in black boxer harness to display ridge on bottom
    Wet For Her

    Promising review: "I've been on both the giving and receiving side with this toy and really enjoyed it. My girlfriend was able to orgasm from topping with a strap-on for the first time with this toy. The texture and firmness of the toy are also great." —Anonymous

    Get it from Wet for Her for $62.95 (originally $69.95; available in three sizes).

    14. A vibrating silicone plug from Unbound that's sure to shake things up with its tapered end and ring handle for easy insertion and removal.

    Model holding purple vibrating anal plug

    The Shimmy plug has five vibrating speeds and five patterns to add a little more rumble to anal-play and is completely waterproof and submersible!

    Promising review: "This was my first plug and I’m very very happy with it! It was a little bigger than I expected so I recommend trying to visualize the dimensions before buying (picture for hand comparison), but I adjusted quickly and found it to be very versatile, easy to use and fun to play with — great for partnered or solo sex. The silicone is soft and flexible on the ring/outer part which makes it easy to move around with. As a sex educator, I was especially pleasantly surprised to see that it comes with a thorough guide on how to use it that includes safety and pleasure information. Yay for informed sex, Unbound! I’m transmasc and vaginal penetration is a no go for me for a couple reasons, so this has really opened up a lot more options in the bedroom for me as well as being very gender-affirming. I appreciate that the marketing isn’t super gendered for that reason. I use it with Jelly and had no problems. The vibe is strong for me so I haven’t needed to go past the first setting — I kind of wish you didn’t have to press it so many times/go through all the higher settings to get to the different patterns, but I love that there are so many options and can’t wait to explore more! The box is also so durable and cute to store it in :). This is my second purchase from Unbound and I’m very happy with it again, I’ll definitely be coming (back) again and again and again if you get my drift…" —Lucy D.

    Get it from Unbound for $61.

    15. A dual cock ring designed with stretchy silicone to help your penis-packing partner stay harder for longer, so you both get yours.

    This versatile ring can be worn in several ways: solely on your dick, one ring wrapped around the D and the other around the balls, or wrap them both around your balls! Pick your poison, it's your pleasure!

    Promising reviews: "Most rings feel too binding after prolonged wearing. This one is comfortable for hours. Also much more durable. Most others that are this thin break after a few uses. I highly recommend this penis ring." —Alan I.

    "I loved the product! Works amazing and is comfortable to use but after a while it becomes bothersome. I would put some lube around the area where it will be on to help with that. It was sort of too tight for me at first but then it let up somewhat. It is very soft and easy to use. I can definitely tell the difference when I use it and it creates more sensation." —BDogg

    Get it from Amazon for $9.99 (available in black and burgundy).

    16. A powerful miniature wand vibrator created with supple silicone for a soft-touch feel and 20 functions to take you right to that blissful, blurry edge.

    Promising reviews: "I was a newbie when I bought this and didn’t know what to expect. But boy, after the first time I used it, I was hooked. It made my whole body quiver. Ladies, it will seriously blow your mind!" —Alyssa Carpinelli

    "I bought it for my husband and me to try out in bed. I didn’t think it would be so powerful to make me squirt within seconds! 🤤 My husband even said his balls are numb from how powerful it is lmao! 🤣 Literally had to place a pillow over my face from screaming out in pleasure and waking the whole neighborhood LOL." —Cheyanne

    Get it from Amazon for $19.95+ (available in seven colors).

    17. A harness and dildo combo kit whether you and your lover are experienced strap-on users and looking for something new or you're a beginner exploring new territory...

    Model wearing black harness and black dildo
    Wet For Her

    The lightweight harness boasts adjustable straps and an O-ring compatible with dildos up to 2.25 inches wide. It is also machine washable, and once you've found your perfect fit, you can simply slip it on and off like a pair of underwear. Meanwhile, the included dildo boasts a gentle curve and is compatible with water-based and hybrid lubricants for a feel-good time. 

    Promising review: "This harness is AMAZING! It is so comfortable to wear and holds the hardware so well and gives me more control than any harness I’ve ever used!! I was always a big fan of the brief style and different harnesses from Rodeoh, but I love the Joque so much I ordered a second one, so we’ll always have one clean. My girlfriend actually said it makes her feel closer than the other harness, and it feels more intimate as well. We are HUGE fans! Thanks for such a great product!" —Jamee S.

    Get it from Wet for Her for $139.92 (originally $174.90; harness available in three colors, sizes XXS-5X and dildo available in three sizes).

    18. A wearable couples' vibrator boasting a flexible design with a thin internal stimulator to go inside you alongside your favorite penis or dildo and a bulbous stimulator specifically for your clit.

    Model holding pink vibrator and pink wireless remote in front of torso
    @bellesaco / Via

    A wireless remote control allows for partner play from a distance. Want to stay close? Here's the version of the same exact toy without the remote.

    Promising reviews: "This cute little toy is so much fun. Small enough to take anywhere and powerful enough to give you and your partner the full experience. We loved it in the doggy-style position the most." —Jane

    "I've been looking for a couples' toy that is affordable and actually stimulates both of us, and this is a great option. It's simple and comfortable to use alone or with a partner. Having the remote is a huge plus because you don't have to pause in the middle of sex to adjust the vibration mode. There's enough vibration modes to choose from, but not so many that it's annoying to find your favorite from the list. The highest power vibration could be a little bit stronger, but it's still enough to get the job done easily. The part that inserts does a nice job stimulating internally and also gently tickling your partner for added sensation. The toy also stays in place quite well; obviously when things are slippery there's a chance for it to get out of place, but after several uses that hasn't been much of an issue. Overall I would highly recommend this toy if you're looking for a couple's toy that doesn't break the bank." —D A

    Get it from Bellesa Boutique for $79.

    19. A discreet wearable egg vibrator that won't clash with your favorite lingerie and will get you off with seven vibration modes and/or patterns you can personalize using the Bluetooth app.

    Pink egg-shaped vibrator next to cell phone
    gif of egg-shaped vibrator in water to demonstrate strength
    Amazon, Lovense

    The ergonomic egg shape means this discreet vibe stays put, so you can wear it out and about (if that's your thing) and control the vibrations effortlessly from your phone. No one would suspect a thing, and with a five-hour battery life...this toy can probably outlast you.

    Promising reviews: "App works great — super powerful and quiet. All I had to do was send an invite to my bf, and he instantly was able to connect and control this thing. AMAZING!!" —Rachael M.

    "I use mine on Chaturbate mostly. Connects super easily, which was something I was worried about. The app is easy to use, and this device works great for me on Chaturbate. Super comfy — sometimes I forget I have it in." —Vallaria

    Get it from Amazon for $129.

    20. The Starsi vibrator, created with supple silicone and a unique star shape that curves and clings all over for out-of-this-world sensations.

    Model holding orange star-shaped vibrator curved in palm
    Pink star-shaped vibrator
    Cute Little Fuckers

    Starsi was designed for all bodies to explore pleasure and can be used with the included removable bullet vibrator or without, in case you are a fan of grinding or just want to stimulate areas with a little less intensity.

    Promising reviews: "My partner and I have had so much fun with this! It's so soft and all the different parts have such different sensations. The bullet is so strong, too, I can only use it on the first setting!! As a nonbinary person I've been so pleased with this toy, it really alleviates any dysphoria I have about playing and it's such a relief! What a lovely toy from an incredible company!" —Kate

    "There is a different feeling from each point of the star, and the center works well too! Another review pointed out that this is not the most powerful vibrator out there, which is true. But I happily contend that it's one of the best vibrators available! It's unassuming, quiet, and easy to use with toys or a partner. And I LOVE that the vibrator motor can be replaced. Big fan. :)" —A L

    Get it from Cute Little Fuckers for $79 (available in coral and rose).

    Cute Little Fuckers is a queer-owned small business that features (some very adorable) creature-inspired sex toys, making them less intimidating and more versatile to everyone’s needs.