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    These 22 BDSM Gifts Are The Next Best Thing Since You Can't Sit Under The Tree

    Forget about dick in a box — I'm cuffing bae to the tree this year. 🎄

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    What a year! The holidays are finally here! And while we’re doing our best to make sure the products we feature will arrive in time, shipping times are especially tricky this year, so we suggest shopping as early as you can.

    Stock and shipping times can vary depending on where you live, which product you purchase, and more. So order earlier than you think you need to and be sure to double-check the retailers’ websites for shipping information to ensure that your gift will arrive in time for when you need it.

    1. A luxury leather collar and chain leash with an ornate thorn design, that offers a glamorous accent to any sub's style.

    2. A vibrating Verge cock ring by We-Vibe designed specifically to stimulate the perineum with eight rumbly vibrations that'll make them wonder, "Is that Santa Claus making all that racket, or me?"

    Models holding dark gray vibrating cock ring on torso
    @wevibe / https://www.instagram.com/p/B01c2xlhTv-/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

    You can control the vibrations of this waterproof wearable manually or from the convenient We-Connect app.

    Promising review: "This thing is the bee's knees. It's strong, has 10 different levels of strength, multiple different vibe modes, just the right amount of weight and does the job, very well at that! It's great for solo and couples. It also comes with an app for long distance fun with a partner! Be aware that you must plan to use it before any kind of stimulation because YOU WILL NOT GET IT ON! Other than that I couldn't be happier with this one!" —JacksonP

    Shipping info: FYI, the shipping address and billing info will be labeled as "Wow Tech" on discreet packaging. Free FedEx standard shipping (3–5 business days) is offered on orders $30+ and FedEx express shipping (2–3 business days) is also available at checkout.

    Get it from We-Vibe for $119.

    3. A uniquely-shaped vibrating cock ring by Fun Factory with rabbit ear attachments to stimulate their clit — it may not be decorated with diamonds, but they'll still appreciate this ring.

    Model holding green cock ring

    4. A luxury silicone ball gag adorned with a delicate rose. Remove the rose to reveal a hole that's perfect for teasing.

    5. A simple ball gag that gets the job done while providing a soft silicone material for them to sink their teeth into — who needs cavities from snacking on gingerbread?

    Reviewer holding pink ball gag

    6. A satin blindfold to deprive their sense of sight and help elevate other senses for some semi-mysterious sensation play. Plus, the red matches their Mx. Claus lingerie!

    7. Or an ultra-soft bondage rope by Emojibator with Funfetti rainbow colors and 26 feet of length.

    8. Don't forget to grab a pair of bondage safety scissors to help them get out of those ropes when the fun ends.

    Purple bondage scissors

    9. A discreet wearable egg vibrator that won't clash with their favorite lingerie and will get them off with seven vibration modes and or personalized patterns using the Bluetooth app.

    Pink egg-shaped vibrator next to cell phone
    gif of egg-shaped vibrator in water to demonstrate strength
    Amazon, Lovense

    The ergonomic egg shape means this discreet vibe stays put, so you can wear it out and about (if that's your thing) and control the vibrations effortlessly from your phone. No one would suspect a thing and with a five-hour battery life...this toy can probably outlast you.

    Promising reviews: "App works great super powerful and quiet. All I had to do was send an invite to my bf and he instantly was able to connect and control this thing. AMAZING!!" —Rachael M.

    "I use mine on Chaturbate mostly. Connects super easily, which was something I was worried about. The app is easy to use and this device works great for me on Chaturbate. Super comfy, sometimes I forget I have it in." —Vallaria

    Shipping info: Available on Amazon Prime with free delivery, non-Prime shipping options will still arrive by Christmas (see Amazon's full shipping information here).

    Get it from Amazon for $129.

    10. Or a pair of luxury leather cuffs that look like a fashion statement from the Tudor Era and meant for things that...Anne Boleyn might have been into, tbh.

    11. Orrr, a set of transparent vinyl cuffs, so it'll appear like they're wearing nothing at all and shine brighter than the decorations.

    Transparent vinyl handcuffs

    12. A versatile bed restraint system that includes four adjustable cuffs and restraint straps that fit underneath the mattress, offering comfy immobilization. Just try to be quiet as a mouse if there are others in the house.

    Model with black ankle cuffs and wrist cuffs

    13. A pair of extra soft and sensual bondage restraints with pre-looped twists, so all they have to do is slip them on and start to play.

    14. A flexible vibrating butt plug that'll sync to the beat of their favorite Xmas playlist — be honest, is it the Justin Bieber Christmas album or the *NSync one?

    Black anal plug spinning
    Small plug next to large plug
    Lovense, @lovensetoys / https://www.instagram.com/p/BinjFJGAozC/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

    There's also an option your own custom patterns, or buzz along to user-created vibration modes already on the app. Supple, body-safe silicone offers a waterproof exterior and the spiralized stem traps lube to help the plug stay put.

    Promising reviews: "Exactly as described, and exceeded expectations. This is a great buy for individual’s who seek self satisfaction. This plug is also a fantastic idea of fun for couples who look to spice things up a bit. Couldn’t get any better. Extremely happy with this purchase, and look forward to purchasing more products by this brand." —William Gardener

    "We have had a great time with this. I bought the largest and it took a bit to get used to it. We are a couple of states away from each other and he has had a great time setting me off while I’m at work or doing things around home. The vibration is very intense at the highest setting and at the lowest just keeps you on edge. Being made of the material that it is, you have to keep it clean and let it air out, so it doesn’t smell if you get any fecal matter on it. Definitely recommend!" —JayyDee

    Shipping info: Available on Amazon Prime with free delivery, non-Prime shipping options will still arrive by Christmas (see Amazon's full shipping information here).

    Get it from Amazon for $94 (available in 1.5" W and 1.75" W).

    15. A 5-inch penis candle by Agreeable Agony created with blacklight wax, so they can enjoy some fluorescent wax play under the mistletoe with your love.

    16. Or a pitcher of UV / blacklight reactive wax in rainbow colors that warms to the touch for a sensual and visually exciting massage or foreplay addition.

    Pitcher of rainbow colored wax with lit candle wick

    17. A chastity cage for their cock, boasting a transparent design that makes sure neither of you miss out on any of the action during your play.

    Reviewer holding transparent chastity cage

    18. A versatile panty vibrator that they'll relish putting on underneath those kitschy matching pajamas that were also in their stocking.

    GIF demonstrating how to wear panty vibrator
    Pink and black panty vibrator inside purse
    Lovense

    Its adjustable vibration modes and speeds can be controlled at close-range or from afar. Unlike most panty vibrators, this one is strictly external and has a magnetic cap to help it stay put as you walk, sit, lounge or whatever else you plan on doing.

    Promising reviews: "This product is amazinggggg for long-distance relationships and even solo play. All different kinds of patterns, or you can make your own. Battery life lasts pretty well and it’s pretty discreet and stays in place well. I’d say that it is just a tad louder than what I expected, but I think that setting can be adjusted in the app. I’d definitely 100% recommend this — especially to long-distance couples." —Leah J.

    "I'm not sure how people say this doesn’t work from afar, because this works. My partner and I live a thousand miles away and we got this and he controls it from a thousand miles apart. You have to learn how to actually use the app. I 10/10 recommend this" —maricelis torres

    Shipping info: Available on Amazon Prime with free delivery, non-Prime shipping options will still arrive by Christmas (see Amazon's full shipping information here).

    Get it from Amazon for $119.

    19. A strappy full-body harness boasting adjustable and stretchy straps that offers inclusive sizing. A perfect gift for the lingerie lovers in your life who prefer leaving nothing up to the imagination.

    Hot pink strappy full body harness view from front and back

    20. An 11-piece bondage set that's perfect for beginners looking to explore BDSM or experienced kink enthusiasts who prefer a one-stop shop option.

    the set in black with chrome accents

    21. An innovative training set to help them ease their way into the world of pegging or anal play with a supple silicone 6" vibrating dildo, a strap-on, a harness, a vibrating anal plug designed specifically for beginners, and two wireless remotes to control the vibrations from afar.

    Fuchsia butt plug with white wireless remote and purple dildo with black wireless remote
    Black harness with pink dildo attached
    B-Vibe

    So, you want to try out pegging, eh? Well this bundle has it all, and both the beginner's anal plug and dildo vibrator can be controlled with wireless remotes. You can choose one of several different dildo options; the various shapes and designs let you pick exactly what kind of pleasure you want to deliver to your partner.

    Shipping info: Orders are processed within one business day and shipped discreetly via UPS. Cutoff dates for holiday shipping are as follows: Dec. 16 for UPS Ground, Dec. 19 for UPS 3-Day Select, Dec. 20 for UPS 2-Day Select Air and Dec. 21 for UPS Next-Day Air.

    Get it from B-Vibe for $179 (valued at $250; available in black and fuchsia with 4 different dildo options).

    B-Vibe is a premium collection of tech-forward anal play products founded by certified sex educator Alicia Sinclair.

    22. An Intro to Kink set by Emojibator that includes a vibrating anal plug, rainbow bondage rope and a choice of water-based or CBD lube.

    Santa honey, one little thing I really need...

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