38 BDSM Accessories To Bring You And Your Partner Closer
Hunker down with bae and explore new kinks and BDSM.
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1. A luxury leather collar and chain leash with an ornate thorn design, that offers a glamorous accent to any sub's style.
The leash is 42.5 inches long and the collar can adjust to 15.5 inches in width. Not to mention, you can remove the leash and wear this tulle and leather collar just as a fashion statement.
Get it from Zalo for $140.
2. A very discreet submission collar that can also be worn as a chic necklace or choker.
This discreet and delicate collar is created with sterling silver and also available in gold and rose gold finishes.
Promising review: "I LOVE this necklace. I've been wearing it nonstop the last few days. Collared myself and it feels so good! I love how dainty and discreet it is." —Sarah
Get it from Collar Amor on Etsy for $59.99 (originally $79.99; available in four lengths and three finishes).
Collar Amor is based in Rhode Island and designs discreet BDSM collars.
3. An adjustable nipple clamp that'll tease and please you or your lover with a gentle bite sensation.
Promising reviews: "I love these clamps! Oh my god! The give me the feeling of my nipples being pierced w/o being pierced! So well made, and the packaging was nice! They come with a little red pouch! So cute!" —Presley Hays
"I actually love these more than I thought I would. The bite feels amazing and you can adjust it!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️" —Teena
Get it from Homemade Sex Toys on Etsy for $18.
Homemade Sex Toys is a small business that specializes in metal BDSM accessories and gear.
4. A sterling silver O-ring necklace that descends into discreet nipple clamps that can be worn underneath your favorite tops, day or night.
Promising reviews: "I so love this. Whats more important is that my Sir loves it on me. I can’t wait for him to come home again (he’s a trucker) so we can both enjoy it together. It was definitely worth the money shipping was fast. I highly recommend this item and the shop. Thank you for making us happy 🔒💜💜🔒" —Judith Phoenix
"I love this so much. Comfortable enough to wear all day — with enough pressure to keep the secret exciting as long as I have it on. And it looks beautiful 😍" —Julienne
Get it from New Format Things on Etsy for $33.90+ (available in four styles, three sizes each and five clamp options).
New Format Things is a family-owned, Ukraine-based small business that specializes in erotic body jewelry and underwear.
5. Orrrr a 24-karat gold-plated nipple clamp that follows the happiest of trails down to the clitoris for an extra-stimulating squeeze.
Promising review: "I am just starting to experiment with nipple clamps, but I think I found my favorite. Honestly, other clamps looked a little intimidating but these look like a beautiful piece of jewelry. They're so easy to customize pressure (especially for a novice) and it's nice having the versatility to choose whether or not you want to use the clit clamp. I did notice that the clamp guard did stick to my skin when taking them off, but next time I will try using a little lube beforehand. Overall, I would definitely recommend. I am buying a second pair to give to my sex therapist so she can show them in her practice, especially for newbies exploring pleasure. :)" —L J.
Get it from Unbound for $34.
6. A vibrating Verge cock ring by We-Vibe designed specifically to stimulate the perineum with eight rumbly vibrations.
You can control the vibrations of this waterproof wearable manually or from the convenient We-Connect app.
Promising review: "This thing is the bee's knees. It's strong, has 10 different levels of strength, multiple different vibe modes, just the right amount of weight and does the job, very well at that! It's great for solo and couples. It also comes with an app for long distance fun with a partner! Be aware that you must plan to use it before any kind of stimulation because YOU WILL NOT GET IT ON! Other than that I couldn't be happier with this one!" —JacksonP
Get it from We-Vibe for $119.
7. A uniquely-shaped vibrating cock ring by Fun Factory with rabbit ear attachments to stimulate your lover's clitoris with each stroke during PIV.
Or, use it with your fingers to finger your lover or wear it during a blowjob for added stimulation to the perineum during oral. The vibrating component boasts two motors with four settings and a "flirt" mode.
Promising review: "This is great for amping up intercourse for both the wearer and his partner. I definitely need lube to get it on and off as It is rather tight on me. Once on, it is comfortable and stays in place. We have several Fun Factory toys and while expensive, have always been impressed with their quality and functionality." —Anonymous
Get it from Lovehoney for $99.
8. A luxury silicone ball gag adorned with a delicate rose. Remove the rose to reveal a hole that's perfect for teasing.
Promising review: "This is such a beautiful gag for personal play. It’s super comfortable and I love that the rose is removable." —Savannah P.
Get it from Zalo for $65.
9. A simple ball gag that gets the job done while providing a soft silicone material for you or your partner to sink your teeth in.
Promising reviews: "I’m currently wearing this thing. I always want to try things out before sharing. I can’t say a word. Can’t scream. Nothing! I do seem to be drooling a lot though." —Bob
"I love this gag! It's not hard like other gags but still firm enough. I like that the silicone extends to the sides of the mouth/connect to the straps, as ones I've had prior have the straps continue through a slit in the ball and skin often gets pinched by those designs...This one, however is phenomenal! Super comfy, the straps are good, quality, leather and strong buckles. The only con I have when cleaning it is trying not to get the soft suede on the interior of the straps wet, as it starts to damage them if not dried quickly." —Keg
Get it from Amazon for $8.99+ (available in two sizes and three colors).
10. A breathable ball-gag designed with adjustable straps for comfort and...um, "communication" between partners.
Promising review: "It’s a present sent by my boyfriend. I really like its size and function. Good quality overall! 5-star rated! Will consider purchasing it next time." —Pattie Z.
Get it from Honey Play Box for $11 (originally $13; available in black and pink).
Honey Play Box is a sexual wellness company in California run by a group of sex educators and self-proclaimed lesbian meme queens who are passionate about all things pleasure being positive, inclusive and accessible.
11. A unique, soft and silicone gag designed to make you drool...literally. 🤤
Promising reviews: "This gag blew me away. It is the perfect size, so beautiful and comfortable, and does exactly what it says it does :) I'm so thrilled with this and all of my purchases from this shop, will definitely order again!" —Hannah O' Connor
"This drool gag is so beautiful, both the gag itself and the leather strap. it feels so nice in your mouth and honestly can be worn as a cute accessory as well." —ramonasaurus rex
Get it from Godemiche on Etsy for $40.02 (available in 19 colors).
Godemiche is a UK-based, family-owned small business that specializes in vibrant handcrafted sex toys and BDSM products.
12. A satin blindfold to deprive your sense of sight and help elevate your other senses for some semi-mysterious sensation play.
Promising reviews: "Surprised my OH with this one date night. Haven't really tried bondage and stuff like that so this and some nipple clamps we got were a good start. Made the sensations more intense and the fact she didn't know what I was going to do drove her crazy. Fun, easy way to spice it up some!" —Colorado C.
"I love a blindfold so much but some let you down it are uncomfortable. This one is so comfy to wear and when positioned right neither me or my husband could see a thing when wearing it. We both love to be blindfolded because it heightens the pleasure, I would always recommend using one." —TheaD
Get it from Lovehoney (available in three colors) or Amazon (only available in black) for $7.99.
13. A Shibari rope for tying down your lover as temperatures cool off. This rope is made of 100% natural jute and enhanced with aroma oils for a special touch.
While you can buy just the rope you need, this listing also offers sets that include other bondage accessories.
Promising review: "The rope is so nice and the color is so pretty. The shipping was fast as well. I forgot to mark my color choices and the seller was super kind and responsive. The rope has a rougher texture which is nice. It does shed a little bit" —Holly Robinson
Get it from Bliss BDSM on Etsy for $14.10+ (available in nine colors).
Bliss BDSM is a small-business based in Ukraine that creates handcrafted BDSM leather gear and accessories, Shibari jute ropes and wax candles.
14. An ultra-soft bondage rope by Emojibator with Funfetti rainbow colors and 26 feet of length.
This rope is made of hypoallergenic and sustainable bamboo silk, so it's safe for anyone with allergies to jute or hemp. While this rope is sturdy and supportive...it's not recommended for suspension use.
Get it from Emojibator for $35 (also available in Unicorn).
Emojibator products are designed with love in Philadelphia and include novelty sex toys inspired by veggies and emojis.
15. Don't forget to grab a pair of bondage safety scissors to help you get out of those ropes when you need to.
Get it from Emojibator for $9.
16. A 75-foot roll of bondage tape to help you immobilize or restrain your lover — and the best part is that it only sticks to itself.
Promising reviews: "Only have used it once but was very fun when I did. I like that it only sticks to itself, so no pain if it touches hair. The bright color makes for nice photos if that's something you are interested in." —Stephanie
"This tape is a lot of fun. It adheres to itself but not to skin so you don't have to worry about having a bunch of tape residue stuck to your skin. Since you have to make sure the tape comes in contact with itself to stick, taping sometimes requires a few wraps. It could easily be used in place of a blindfold for example or to tie hands." —Sky Etkin
Get it from Amazon for $8.57+ (available in three colors).
17. A discreet wearable egg vibrator that won't clash with your favorite lingerie and will get you off with seven vibration modes and or personalized patterns using the Bluetooth app.
The ergonomic egg shape means this discreet vibe stays put, so you can wear it out and about (if that's your thing) and control the vibrations effortlessly from your phone. No one would suspect a thing and with a five-hour battery life...this toy can probably outlast you.
Promising reviews: "App works great super powerful and quiet. All I had to do was send an invite to my bf and he instantly was able to connect and control this thing. AMAZING!!" —Rachael M.
"I use mine on Chaturbate mostly. Connects super easily, which was something I was worried about. The app is easy to use and this device works great for me on Chaturbate. Super comfy, sometimes I forget I have it in." —Vallaria
Get it from Amazon for $129.
18. A pair of luxury leather cuffs that look like a fashion statement from the Tudor Era and meant for things that...Anne Boleyn might have been into, tbh.
Get it from Zalo for $74.99 (originally $119.99).
19. Orrr, a set of transparent vinyl cuffs, so it'll appear like you're wearing nothing at all.
These lightweight cuffs are adjustable up to an 8.5" circumference and there's also a matching collar and leash.
Get them from Spectrum Boutique for $44.
Spectrum Boutique is a sex-positive retailer run by self-proclaimed "Dildo Duchess" Zoe Ligon to provide customers with curated collections and resources.
20. A versatile bed restraint system that includes four adjustable cuffs and restraint straps that fit underneath your mattress, so you can be immobilized by your lover with comfort.
Promising reviews: "I absolutely cannot say enough great things about these straps. They are versatile, discreet, convenient, extremely durable, well-made, and a ton of fun. Highly recommended for anyone who loves to spice things up in the bedroom." —AB
"These are very good. Wasn't sure if the velcro would be strong enough, but it was! She loved them and I loved them. If you are looking for a great addition to fun in the bedroom I highly recommend getting these." —N. W.
Get it from Amazon for $47.91.
21. A pair of extra soft and sensual bondage restraints with pre-looped twists, so all you or your lover have to do is slip them on and start to play.
Promising reviews: "Bought these a while ago for tying up, obviously. They do the job well and can be used on both ankles and wrists as well as tying to other things.... like a bed. The perfect thing about these is that they are no clinky like cuffs and don't have noisy Velcro that could give away any goings-on..." —Explorer1
"I was hesitant to be tied up and was pleasantly surprised by these. We just tied my wrists to the bedposts on the headboard, and they worked well. They’re soft and satiny enough that they are comfortable to have on and don’t leave rough marks on your skin. Our bedpost is thicker which didn’t work the best with them as they are kind of short. This wouldn’t be an issue with a thinner post to tie them to though! Definitely a basic must have for the price." —Tayls
Get it from Lovehoney for $9.99 (available in three colors).
22. A faux fox tail butt plug designed for tugging and teasing, with the option of having a silicone or metal plug for added weight.
The fluffy tail is removable, so you can change butt plugs and sizes for training or texture, whatever you need.
Promising reviews: "It took a while to ship which I knew from the onset. Well worth the weight beautiful lush and plush tail. Inexpensive for the quality. My new favorite tail, thanks." —Diana
"Oh my god I love ❤️ so much it stays in and this fox tail feels amazing" —Jon Wright
Get it from Vuzara on Etsy for $39.99+ (available in three sizes and silicone or metal).
Vuzara is a Michigan-based small business that creates realistic faux tails with detachable butt plugs that help fantasy become reality.
23. A flexible vibrating butt plug that'll sync to the beat of your favorite songs, mimic your own custom patterns, or buzz along to user-created vibration modes already on the app.
Supple, body-safe silicone offers a waterproof exterior and the spiralized stem traps lube to help the plug stay put.
Promising reviews: "Exactly as described, and exceeded expectations. This is a great buy for individual’s who seek self satisfaction. This (Multi Pattern Vibrating) plug is also a fantastic idea of fun for couples who look to spice things up a bit. Personal Care Products couldn’t get any better. Extremely happy with this purchase, and look forward to purchasing more products by this brand." —William Gardener
"We have had a great time with this. I bought the largest and it took a bit to get used to it. We are a couple of states away from each other and he has had a great time setting me off while I’m at work or doing things around home. The vibration is very intense at the highest setting and at the lowest just keeps you on edge. Being made of the material that it is, you have to keep it clean and let it air out, so it doesn’t smell if you get any fecal matter on it. Definitely recommend!" —JayyDee
Get it from Amazon for $94 (available in 1.5" W and 1.75" W).
24. A faux leather paddle with "inappropriate" words mirrored on it, so when you spank your lover or sub with a love tap it leaves a readable impression.
Options for words include "XOXO," "Slave," "Love," "Slut," and "Ouch."
Promising reviews: "I absolutely LOVE it. I got the ‘love’ paddle and I can say it works perfectly 🥵 plus the item quality is great! Thanks again x" —Kaytee Louise
"Great product. Well made. The wife and I love it. It leaves xoxo imprints on the skin." —Kristopher
Get it from Pretty Inappropriate on Etsy for $18.99+.
Pretty Inappropriate is a family- and woman-owned small business based in Illinois that creates naughty keepsakes and gifts.
25. A fluorescent penis-shaped candle in case you don't mind a little messiness delivered with your sensation kink.
26. Or a pitcher of UV / blacklight reactive wax in rainbow colors that warm to your touch for a sensual and visually exciting massage or foreplay addition.
This wax melts at 124-126 degrees F and it's recommended to increase or decrease the distance you pour from. A pour spout offers easy application, and pro-tip: let the wax melt and pool before blowing the candle out and then drip.
Get them from Spectrum Boutique for $30.
27. A premium leather strap-on harness because your taste for luxury and your love of kink shouldn't have to be enjoyed separately.
Promising review: "Beautiful item and fits well." —Katie Garrihy
Get it from Anoeses on Etsy for $144.50 (available in 10 colors and sizes XS-3XL).
Anoeses is a Ukraine-based small business that creates premium leather accessories and BDSM gear inspired by the human body and natural materials such as leather, steel, latex and wood.
28. A chastity cage for your cock, boasting a transparent design that makes sure neither you or your lover miss out on any of the action during your play.
This lightweight cage is made of medical-grade polycarbonate and includes five U-rings, a brass lock with two keys, and five plastic locks...just in case you need to get it through TSA.
Promising reviews: "Good product overall. Make sure you order the correct shaft size. The ball collars are tight. The biggest size being what most men would be able to tolerate. Some lube may be necessary for sliding into the shaft. It’s a fun dirty secret." —Bilbo
"Pretty sturdy cage. The rings have a lot of different diameters to choose from. They are thicker plastic than I've seen in other cages. There's a lot of pieces to it, so it's a little more complicated than other cages I've seen. Be aware the sheath part is somewhat narrow and curved. We got the largest size and had to work a bit to stuff him into it. (Granted we are newer at this)" —C
Get it from Amazon for $26.49+ (available in two sizes).
29. A wearable vibrator with a wireless remote that works using haptic technology that increases the vibration intensity based on the pressure of your squeeze.
I've used the Divvy alone and the haptic technology is truly out of this world! There's a little bit of a lag between the squeeze and increase-in-vibration technology, but it definitely works and I'm excited to try it out with a partner. If you choose to not use the remote, there are three vibration intensities and two patterns to explore. All you need to experiment with is getting the vibrator in the right position and then you're off to new sensations.
Promising reviews: "My wife loves her new Divvy. We get excited just talking about using it. Even more exciting when we actually do. My wife allows me to control her sensations as I please. Enough settings for every feeling." —Chile M.
"I bought this for my boyfriend and I to try after he loved using my wand with me. Divvy is really fun because it provides a hands-free (mostly) way for him to tease me that I love and that lets the moment feel really intimate. I was worried it wouldn’t be powerful enough, but it’s more than enough with the heightened arousal during sex. Fun for couples!" —sarah
30. A versatile panty vibrator that'll stay put while your lover controls its adjustable vibration modes and speeds at close-range or from afar.
Unlike most panty vibrators, this one is strictly external and has a magnetic cap to help it stay put as you walk, sit, lounge or whatever else you plan on doing.
Promising reviews: "This product is amazinggggg for long-distance relationships and even solo play. All different kinds of patterns, or you can make your own. Battery life lasts pretty well and it’s pretty discreet and stays in place well. I’d say that it is just a tad louder than what I expected, but I think that setting can be adjusted in the app. I’d definitely 100% recommend this — especially to long-distance couples." —Leah J.
"I'm not sure how people say this doesn’t work from afar, because this works. My partner and I live a thousand miles away and we got this and he controls it from a thousand miles apart. You have to learn how to actually use the app. I 10/10 recommend this" —maricelis torres
Get it from Amazon for $119.
31. A vibrant vegan leather harness designed with a strap that attaches to your favorite cock ring for a full-body style.
This harness has adjustable straps that offer a customized and comfortable fit.
Promising reviews: "I have been wearing this all day. It is very comfortable. I wore it under my clothes and walked 5 miles without any chafing. It works great with a 2.25 inch stainless steel cock ring. Love the way it looks and feels!" —Dan
"Super high quality harness!!!! Finally something that is gonna hold up to the stress!" —Clay Wallace
Get it from Play Vegan on Etsy for $86 (available in 10 colors and sizes S-3X).
Play Vegan is a queer-owned small business based in Tel Aviv that creates handcrafted, vegan harnesses and BDSM gear.
32. A strappy full-body harness boasting adjustable and stretchy straps that offers inclusive sizing, in case you've been looking for some risqué lingerie that leaves nothing up to your lover's imagination.
Promising reviews: "Sexy and fun! Thick yet comfortable straps and many points of adjustment leading to a custom fit. A beautiful piece at a great price. You can easily wear whatever bra and panties you like underneath or go naked if that’s more your speed. A nice piece for those of us who are a little more busty as theres nothing in the harness that will squish larger breasts and make them look deformed. Only quibble is that it can be hard to unhook the straps when it’s time to take off the piece but it’s so sexy and comfortable, you may just want to leave it on!" —K. Taylor
"I’m 5’0" and two hundred and something pounds, and not gonna lie, it’s surprisingly comfortable. It’s more stretchy and adjustable than it looks. I was worried I was going to look like a roasted ham in it but nah it’s just fine. Totally worth the money" —Alexa dejulian
Get it from Amazon for $35.50+ (available in 14 colors).
33. A premium leather hogtie that ups the ante on your restraint play by allowing you to explore the kinkiest corners of your imagination.
You can buy just the leather hogtie and attach it to your own cuffs, or get more bang for your buck by including add-ons such as handcuffs, thigh cuffs or splurge on the entire set.
Promising review: "The second time I ordered at ANOESES, I am just as impressed as the first time :). The craftsmanship is amazing! The restraints are tight where they need to be and feel wonderful!" —Tamara
Get it from Anoeses on Etsy for $63+ (available in eight colors and various set options).
34. A must-have bondage kit with a little bit of this and a little bit of that, so you can play out all your Dom/sub fantasies whenever and wherever.
This little kit includes a pair of wrist cuffs, a pair of ankle cuffs, one blindfold and one four-point hogtie base (without ropes), so you can up the ante on your partner play without breaking the budget. And all of the pieces are uniform with a unique textured vinyl design!
Get it from Honey Play Box for $49 (available in pink and black).
35. An 11-piece bondage set that's perfect for beginners looking to explore BDSM or experienced kink enthusiasts who prefer a one-stop shop option.
This bondage set boasts various items made of leather and nylon, including one pair of handcuffs, one pair of ankle cuffs, one pair of nipple clamps, a whip, a rope, a ball gag, a feather tickler, a collar, a hogtie, a blindfold and a paddle.
Promising reviews: "I was surprised how many pieces came with this set. The fur lining makes the cuffs and collars very comfortable, and uses buckles rather than velcro. The set is shown on women but I used it on a man. Some of the chain link could probably be broken through, if they wanted to. Impact play items work well, and the variety of items give this set a lot of options. I used the cuffs with a bed strap system I already had." —Anonymous
"I am in no way a beginner. But I did pick this set up to introduce my husband to some new things. The quality is really nice and the faux fur lining on the collar and restraints is awesome. Only downside is the gagball is breathable but great for beginners. Very pleased with my purchase and would order again!" —Julie
Get it from Amazon for $25.99.
Or, if you prefer your kink in pink, get a very similar set from Provacateur Creations on Etsy for $41.99 (originally $59.99; it doesn't contain the hogtie or the paddle).
Provocateur Creations is based in Ireland and specializes in hand-crafting adult products.
36. An innovative training set to help you ease your way into the world of pegging or anal play with a supple silicone 6" vibrating dildo, a strap-on, a harness, a vibrating anal plug designed specifically for beginners, and two wireless remotes to control the vibrations from afar.
So, you want to try out pegging, eh? Well this bundle has it all, and both the beginner's anal plug and dildo vibrator can be controlled with wireless remotes. You can choose one of several different dildo options; the various shapes and designs let you pick exactly what kind of pleasure you want to deliver to your partner.
Get it from B-Vibe for $179 (valued at $250; available in black and fuchsia with 4 different dildo options).
B-Vibe is a premium collection of tech-forward anal play products founded by certified sex educator Alicia Sinclair.
37. An Intro to Kink set by Emojibator that includes a vibrating anal plug, rainbow bondage rope and your pick of water-based or CBD lube.
The waterproof anal vibrator has 10 vibration modes and a convenient pull-out ring for effortless removal. The colorful Unicorn bondage rope measures 26.25 feet long for multipurpose use, and you make the choice on whether you want to purchase this kit with water-based lube or CBD lube.
Get it from Emojibator for $69+ (originally $100+).
38. The Cum Together Set by Unbound that includes their Orion cuffs, a remote-controlled couples' vibrator, water-based lube and Truth or Dare cards.
This set includes a remote-controlled couples' vibrator (Divvy), water-based lubricant (Jelly), adjustable cuffs that can be used over the door with the extra strap (Orion Cuffs) and a deck of truth or dare cards, which include pass cards to make sure things stay consensual and sexy.
Promising reviews: "Beautiful. Other than how they look, they are also comfortable. My first time finding restraints that are both stylish and comfortable." —Syn (on Orion Cuffs)
"HOLY f*ck. I absolutely love this and it might be my favorite toy at the moment. Sometimes the grip on the remote controller is a bit tricky because my hand is injured atm and it takes a bit to squeeze / the feedback on how hard you squeeze vs how much it vibrates is not always exact, but overall I love this toy for both personal use and use with my partner. So much fun to use, it makes me feel great, and would definitely recommend this!" —Alicia R. (on Divvy)
"Fun and sexy game! Love it. Definitely for couples getting to know each other." —mollie m. (on Truth or Dare cards)
Get it from Unbound for $114 (originally $142).
Cuffing season is on, so now it's time to get freaky with bae.
The reviews for this post have been edited for length and clarity.
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