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My Phone Teaches Me To Be A Better Conversationalist

A lesson in communication learned via text message history.

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Now that example may seem obvious. But I think examining text patterns is even more useful for those I talk to most - where the balance is complex.

For instance, when I scrolled through days of texts with my girlfriend, I saw great fluctuation. Some days we alternated. Some days she had more to say, some days I did. And sometimes neither of us had much to say.


I've found that visualizing our conversations this way helps me to identify what mode we're in at any given moment, and what role I could play to best serve our communication needs - listener, talker, one-who-leaves-her-alone.

In time, I hope to see all of these glowing clues in real life as well as I do on my phone.