1.If you have a problem with someone, you spend ages planning what you're going to say to them.
2.You might even pre-emptively write down bullet points of what you're going to say, like planning a really aggressive essay.
3.Those bullet points are always rational, reasoned and cover everything you want and have to say.
4.But the moment you actually have to say any of it, you start blubbering.
5.And immediately forget everything you were going to say.
6.Actually, you probably start crying just in anticipation of the confrontation.
7.And only after the argument is over do you realise you never actually got to say all the stuff you wanted to say because you were TOO BUSY TRYING TO STOP CRYING.
8.That's if you can even get any words out at all, rather than blubbering and squeaking sounds instead.
9.When you go to complain about something, no one actually takes your complaint seriously.
10.People think you're upset rather than angry, which is annoying because it diminishes your anger.
11.And then crying when you're REALLY upset seems less significant.
12.It makes being professional basically impossible.
13.It also makes being intimidating impossible.
14.Your angry crying makes people feel awkward, which makes you feel angrier, which makes you cry more.
15.You can never keep your cool if someone confronts you unexpectedly.
16.But it's actually worse if you have been expecting it.
17.On the plus side, you know that if you do win an argument, even through your tears, it's because you're so clearly in the right.
18.You're also always prepared for a meltdown.
19.And you know that if someone can't handle your angry crying, they don't deserve your happy crying.
