9 Things All People Who Grew Up With Divorced Parents Will Understand

Growing up with divorced parents sometimes sucked, but there were its benefits.

1. Two Houses

Living in two houses meant you had twice the space (and twice the chance you had of losing your stuff). Whenever you wanted to invite a friend over, you always had a choice of which house to invite them to, even though there was always a favorite house tbh.

2. The Custody Arangement

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There was never an arrangement that you were perfectly happy with. Your parents did what worked best for themselves and sometimes you felt a bit like a doll or an object that they were forced to share.

3. When One Parent Says No, Go Ask The Other

You want to go out but one parent said no? Go ask the other. The only drawback is when your dad asks what your mom said.

4. Twice The Gifts

Birthdays and holidays were far better when you had two families to celebrate with. Whenever you were jealous of the kids whose parents' marriages worked out, you just thought back to how jealous they were after you got twice the amount of gifts they did for the holidays.

5. The Step-Family

With step-families, you never know what you're going to get. If you're lucky, they don't bother you and respect your space, but often having a step-family can make you feel left out, especially if you're an only child and they have multiple children.

6. The Struggle of Losing Things

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Living in two households makes it far easier for you to lose things or accidentally leave something behind. If your custody was something weird, like you see one parent once a month and you forgot the book you're reading there, then it's especially annoying.

7. Not Having Certain Clothes

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Similar to leaving your stuff at the other house, leaving your favorite clothes is far worse. If you suddenly need a fancy outfit while you're with your mom and all of your fancy clothes are at your dad's house, it's such a hassle trying to get to your clothes in time.

8. Making Plans in Advance

Making plans a few weeks in advance is much harder for kids with divorced parents than kids with married ones. You either have a calendar marking which parent you're with that you have to pull out, or you have to text a parent which always leads to "I need to check with your mother/father".

9. The Sympathy From People Who Don't Understand

When people are like "Oh you have divorced parents? I'm so sorry!" but they don't actually understand how awesome it can be. While there are certainly some undesirable aspects to growing up with divorced parents, you wouldn't give it up if you could.