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16 Things You Should Probably Stop Saying About Bisexuality, As Told By Two Very Tired Bisexuals

Yeah, I'm gonna go ahead and shut that down right now.

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1. “So, are you more straight or gay?”

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Neither. The answer is neither.

2. “Why can’t you just make up your mind?”

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Fun Fact: Our minds are already made up — it's you that's confused.

3. “Everyone is a little bisexual!”


It's true that there are a lot of us out there — bisexuals make up the largest group of the LGBTQ community! But that doesn't mean everyone is bisexual.

4. “Bisexuals are just greedy. They want the best of both worlds.”


Believe it or not, we don't choose who we're attracted to. It's not about being greedy. Besides, dating is hard no matter what.

5. “Bisexuals are just quirky straight people who want to be oppressed.”


Nope, nope, and nope. Nobody is trying to be oppressed. I just don't want my identity erased.

6. “So you have a boyfriend and a girlfriend at the same time?”


Sir, that's called polyamory. And if you're into that, cool, but being bisexual doesn't mean we have more than one relationship going on at once.

7. “Bisexuality is a stepping stone to admitting you’re gay.”

Tristan from "Degrassi": "Miles is firmly on boys now"

There's totally nothing wrong with realizing a different label suits you better, but that doesn't mean bisexuality is a "stepping stone" of any sort. Still bisexual!

8. “It’s just a phase. You’ll grow out of it.”


What does it feel like being loud and wrong?

9. “Does that mean you’re down for a threesome?”


Seriously, just stop asking us this.

10. “You haven’t even been with a girl, so how do you know you like them?”


People aren't food. You don't have to taste them to know you like them.

11. “Bisexuals are more likely to cheat — it’s just common sense.”

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No, we're really not. If someone cheats on you, it's because they're a jerk — not because they're bisexual!

12. “If you’re bisexual, why are you dating someone of a different gender?”

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Yeah, the bi part means we're attracted to more than one gender. That's...kind of how bisexuality works?

13. “Men can’t be bisexual.”


Sounds like a double standard, don't you think?

14. “Most are just faking it for attention — they just use people to experiment and then go back to being straight.”


Yeah, absolutely NOT. The moon has phases — bisexuality does not!

(We know David Rose is pansexual! We just love the quote.)

15. “You’re only bi because you haven’t met a real man. I bet I can make you straight.”


Eww, David!

16. “Which one is better in bed?”


Really, that's what you're worried about?

We say all that to say: If you don't understand bisexuality, that's fine, but can you cool it on the creepy comments and questions? Please and thank you!