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    People Are Sharing Powerful Stories About What It's Like When A Male Loved One Kills Himself

    They're using the hashtag #SuicideAndMe after the BBC documentary of the same name aired earlier this week.

    Since Professor Green's documentary Suicide and Me aired earlier this week, people have been tweeting photos and stories of their experiences of male suicide.

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    Naomi Carter's brother Ian died five years ago.

    .@professorgreen: "want to clear a room, bring up suicide". remember those in our pictures & hearts #SuicideAndMe

    Carter told BuzzFeed News that she wanted to help stop other families losing friends through the stigma and awkwardness that familial suicides can cause.

    "He took his own life in 2011 aged 35 after a long and very private battle with depression," she said. "I never knew of the mental struggles he faced – to me he was just a gentle giant. We've all lost friends through people finding suicide so difficult to talk about."

    6yrs ago I got a phone call from a friend. 1hr later I was too late #SuicideAndMe @TimetoChange thank you for raising awareness. I miss him.

    Paula, who requested BuzzFeed News not publish her last name, said she's been battling with her former partner's suicide for 10 years now.


    Paula's ex, who was 27 at the time, killed himself 10 years ago after a long battle with alcoholism. Professor Green's programme reopened questions for her over his death.

    "It happened 10 years ago, when my son was just 3 years old," she said. "He had a drink problem but I don't know whether depression made him drink or if the drink made him depressed."

    @professorgreen just like to say thank you for your documentary on #SuicideAndMe My brother killed himself in 2007 and still hurts today

    Hannah Thomas's boyfriend killed himself the day after his 26th birthday.

    We won't ever get the answer we so desperately want but we can help others by spreading awareness #SuicideAndMe πŸ’”

    Thomas said the programme helped her realise that she wasn't alone in how she was dealing with her boyfriend's death.

    "He had everything going for him, we had a good relationship, he had an amazing family and was loved by many friends, but sadly he was depressed," she said. "We knew this but there were times when he hid it very well."

    @professorgreen thank you. Great to get the word out on #mentalhealth #suicide with #SuicideAndMe. Lost my brother 3 years ago to this.

    Debbie Wickens told BuzzFeed News that her husband sent her a text before he died saying he felt he had no choice but to kill himself.

    #SuicideAndMe. Moving & resonant. Kudos for fighting the taboo. Lost John to suicide in 2008. Still loved & missed

    John died on 29 December 2008 at the age of 46.

    "There's this reluctance to admit to feelings that are considered weak – my husband was from a working-class northern background, which is considered higher risk for suicide," Wickens said. "He sent me a text before he died saying he felt he had no choice but to kill himself."

    @professorgreen I wish my pal Junior could've talked about his problems, he might still be here. Keep raising awareness πŸ‘ŠπŸ» #SuicideAndMe

    Alan Place said that for him it was a matter of coming to terms with accepting his own suicide attempt.

    #SuicideAndMe In my college days, and twice since, I have attempted to end my life

    Suicide at universities has long been a problem in the UK, with male deaths growing by over 35% between 2007 and 2011. Place said he had had a number of incidents both at college and in more recent times, which he subsequently put into a story.

    "Mental health is still a taboo subject, regardless of gender – nobody wants to admit to having a problem that is seen as being weak," he said. "Yet, to those who do suffer, the admittance is often because we coped too long and hid it too well."

    If you need to talk to someone, contact the Samaritans on 116 123, available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. You can also email them or find out how to visit them on their website.

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