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Why Men Shouldn't Be Afraid To Cry In Front Of Their Sons

Real men do cry.

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We’re told this because it’s our job to be a strong role model for our boys — to quite literally model strength — and if we were to cry in front of them we’d be showing weakness.

Is it weak when the leader of the free world cries in the aftermath of devastation and tragedy?

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Like when President Obama cried while addressing the nation after Sandy Hook.


The reality is that the simple act of crying doesn’t make you weak.

If you've been a strong role model for your sons day in and day out, you’re not going to suddenly negate all of that by crying in front of them. You might, however, teach them other lessons. Things like...empathy.

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When you cry for other people you teach your sons that other people matter, and that we're all in it together in life.


The ability to give themselves a break.

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Being strong is a wonderful thing, but sometimes it's OK not to be strong. Sometimes you need to ask for the help of others. And there's nothing wrong with that.