Parents·Posted on Jan 9, 201629 Tried And True Tips Every Brand New Parent NeedsWelcome to baby boot camp.by Mike SpohrBuzzFeed StaffFacebookPinterestTwitterMailLink Jenny Chang/BuzzFeed We recently asked the members of BuzzFeed Community to share their best tips for surviving those crazy early days with a baby: 1. "Feel confident to refuse visitors." Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF 20th Century Fox "Yes, it's wonderful to share your new bundle of joy, but you don't want to entertain and talk about your birthing process when you're sleep deprived. It was the biggest mistake I made — too many visitors the first two weeks!"— monicas42e498e87 2. "If you're getting angry or very upset with your baby, put them down in a safe space and take a breather." kieferpix / Via ThinkStock "If a time comes when you're at the end of your tether, it's better to take a step back than to be angry at your baby."— Nicole Kelly Reynolds, Facebook 3. "When changing a diaper, put the clean one under the dirty one before you take it off." Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF youtube.com "It makes it easier to avoid being pooped on, and if you have a boy, it makes it easier to prevent them from peeing all over the place."— brycehuebnerg 4. "If you aren't a fan of the newborn stage that's ok." Flickr: 31302707@N07 / Via Creative Commons "It doesn't make you a bad parent or mean you love your baby any less."— Jennifer Witman Turley, Facebook 5. "Make freezer meals." Flickr: aprilandrandy / Via Creative Commons Make them not only for in the beginning when you're recovering, but also for the days when the baby is extra fussy or when they're sick and you have to spend all day at the doctor." — Amber Coffman, Facebook 6. "Snuggle your baby." Flickr: juanedc / Via Creative Commons "Too many parents are worried about creating bad habits. You cannot spoil a baby. Love them. Hold them. Snuggle them. It goes by way too fast."— Kimberly Brooks, Facebook 7. "Don't get caught up in the mommy wars." Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Similac US / youtube.com "Work or stay at home, formula or breast, cry it out or comfort, cribs or co-sleep. It doesn't matter — do what works best for you and your family."— shoehater 8. "Whatever you do, don't forget about yourself." Flickr: pedrosimoes7 / Via Creative Commons "Take a bath, read a book, go on a walk, just do something without the baby. Your baby is an amazing, beautiful thing, but so are you! Find somebody to watch them for an hour and go."— l45ff66e10 9. "When you have to administer oral medication, just gently blow on your baby's face." Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF youtube.com "It causes an involuntary swallow. It was the most amazing trick. My daughter was never a problem to medicate thanks to that."— jcl2323 10. "If you're overwhelmed with how hard the first year is, remember it's only one year out of your life that your baby needs you so much." Flickr: saradipity / Via Creative Commons "It's a tiny fraction of our life that they depend on us for everything and watching them grow up is so bittersweet!"— Elizabeth Walters, Facebook 11. "Set realistic goals for breastfeeding." Flickr: kongharald / Via Creative Commons "It's really convenient and amazing once you get the hang of it, but the first few weeks can be extremely difficult." — rachelm47be0a339 12. "Nipple shields are a godsend for nursing." amazon.com "They help your baby latch. Without them, I would not have been able to breastfeed. If you're struggling with latching, try them."— shwartz37 13. "Don't let people make you feel bad about how you feed your baby." Lars Plougmann / Via Flickr: criminalintent "As long as the baby gets nourishment you're doing your job. Do what works for you and the baby."— Jennifer Witman Turley, Facebook 14. "Invest in a comfortable piece of furniture for nursing/bottle feeding." Flickr: easement / Via Creative Commons "You will be nursing/bottle feeding the baby every three hours — day and night — for about two months, so having a sweet place to 'park it' is great!"— Erika Renee Holleran, Facebook 15. "Take the baby out into the world." Flickr: amira_a / Via Creative Commons "Going for a walk to get a coffee with the baby in the stroller can be just as needed as a nap. The change of environment is really helpful and at this stage babies are so easy to get out of the house." — brodiep3 16. "Stay off the mom chat rooms." Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF MTV "There you will only find judgment, criticism, and bad advice."— Kelsey Worstel, Facebook 17. "Remember that people don't always post about the difficult stuff." Flickr: squant / Via Creative Commons "Don't assume you're failing because no one else seems to be struggling. You're viewing other people's parenting through the picture-perfect eyes of social media. They have their bad days too."— sarahannelily 18. "Sleep when your baby sleeps." Flickr: footloosiety / Via Creative Commons "That tip saved my life the first month."— Jackie Hawkins, Facebook 19. "Double wrap the crib mattress (protector, sheet, protector, sheet) so that if there's a middle of the night diaper blow out or spit up issue you can easily rip off the tainted layers." Peggy Wang/BuzzFeed "This way you don't have to remake the crib at 3 am."— tajmahollie 20. "Postpartum depression can be deceiving but there is help out there." Flickr: pennajoe / Via Creative Commons "If you're concerned in the slightest that it might be happening to you don't be afraid to seek help."— mirandat77 21. "The small stuff can wait.'" Valueline / Getty Images "So you haven't showered in a couple of days, your house is a mess, and you've had take out five days in a row… Who cares! As long as you and your baby are healthy and enjoying your time together the small stuff can wait. You will fall into a routine eventually."— maggiec442c9e406 22. "ALWAYS bring an extra set of clothes for you and your baby in the car." Flickr: potashman / Via Creative Commons "Nothing is more embarrassing than being in public and you and your child are covered in vomit and/or poop."— lornac4248b1b26 23. "Remember that before you were parents you were simply a couple." Flickr: picmatt / Via Creative Commons "Never forget to take couple time outs. Date each other. Even if it means just cuddling up with a glass of wine and talking about your dreams."— tammieb4e7a9252a 24. "Let people help." Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF TriStar Pictures "If someone's offering to help out with the baby, clean, bring you a dinner, or pop in for a chat — accept it. It can get lonely trying to do it all yourself."— lornac4248b1b26 25. "Remember nothing that goes wrong is the baby's fault." Kamilla Oliveira / Via Flickr: milla_oliiveira "If your baby is crying a lot or won't nap or is just driving you bonkers, she's not doing it to be an asshole. She's trying to figure out this new world and it's pretty scary."— meredithp4c7f8c00f 26. "You don't need all the latest and greatest gadgets." Bakharev / Getty Images "Your baby WILL survive without a $500 stroller." — Leslie Mendoza Andre, Facebook 27. "Know that none of us know what we're doing or have a clue." Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Fox "Seriously, I still don't know how parents ever did it without Google."— stephanietoynem 28. "Learn to be flexible." Flickr: merille / Via Creative Commons "Everything from your birth plan to how you raise your baby will go differently than you thought so learn to be ok with that and adjust accordingly. If you try to plan and control every situation, it'll only stress you out when it doesn't go your way." — ennymcgrathv 29. "You can do this." Flickr: makelessnoise / Via Creative Commons — nicoleg4f735ed27 Make sure to follow the BuzzFeed Community on Facebook and Twitter for your chance to be featured in similar BuzzFeed posts!