Parents·Posted on May 24, 201517 Ways To Help Someone Through The First Year Of WidowhoodThey need your love to survive such a crushing loss.by Melissa GouldBuzzFeed ContributorFacebookPinterestTwitterMailLink 1. Drop Off a Meal Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF E! Not having to worry about what to cook, and opening the fridge to find ready-made meals is a godsend. Especially when there are little mouths to feed. 2. Help With the Small Stuff Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Paramount Whether it’s a trip to the post office, emptying the dishwasher, or changing a lightbulb, offer to do it. Your friend is dealing with so much; helping with the seemingly minor stuff is pretty major. 3. Pack With Care Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF NBC / Via giphy.com Dropping by with a little care package — a handwritten note, a bottle of booze, a healing candle — goes a long way...and lets your friend know that you're thinking of them. 4. Be Their Uber Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF CBS When their kid(s) need to get to and from soccer practice, a birthday party, or even the school bus, graciously offer a ride. The small ways in which a spouse is missing — like sharing chauffeur duty — hits hard. Extra points for making the car ride fun! 5. Be a Good Listener Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF CW / Via giphy.com There will be tears. Lots of them. Sometimes, having a friend close by — listening, validating, and supplying tissues — helps take the edge off. 6. Sort Through the Chaos Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF gph.is / JackNicholson #Mail #actor / Via giphy.com There is usually a ton of paperwork when a loved one dies. Helping your friend sort through medical bills, insurance claims, even day-to-day mail, helps! 7. Kindly Suggest Therapy Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Showtime / Via huffingtonpost.com Spending an hour crying, cursing, and screaming is par for the course, but in the hands of a grief specialist or support group, your friend will realize that their feelings are perfectly valid…and that they aren't the only one to experience such a major loss. 8. Share Some Mindless Entertainment Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF #RHONY#Bethenny Frankel#Bethenny#Real Housewives#Real Housewives of New YorkREBLOG2229 / Via realitytvgifs.tumblr.com From reality TV to the trashy mags in the supermarket checkout line, mindless entertainment offers a reprieve from the surreal reality your friend is now living. 9. Happy Holidays! Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Peanuts Worldwide It's not just the November/December holidays that can be devastating. Valentine's Day, Father's/Mother's Day, the Fourth of July…they are all soul-crushing. Reach out to your friend, tell them the time and place and not to bring anything but themselves. 10. Don't Hold Back Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF NBC / Via i.giphy.com Your friend still wants to hear about your mean boss, what you had for dinner last night, and the vacation you have planned. Hearing the details of your life helps them get on with theirs. 11. Get Them Moving Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Warner Bros / Via 10uhclock.tumblr.com Show up with your sneakers or a yoga mat, an extra bottle of water, and get moving! Exercise helps curb the overwhelming thoughts and feelings of their day-to-day. 12. Gift Little Luxuries Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF NBC / Via giphy.com Whether it's a massage at the mall or someone polishing their toes, little luxuries can do wonders for a new widow. 13. Be Present Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF giphy.com Events around their kids are particularly difficult as they alone make up the cheering section. Offer to join them at that parent-teacher conference, school play, or baseball tournament. 14. Routine’s Rule Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF USA Films / Via gph.is Once the shock wears off, helping your friend get back to their routine helps them get back to living their life. Even if it's just the morning walk around the block with the dog — starting small is a big step! 15. Getting Away Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Paramount A visit to the nearest outlet mall, a walk on the beach, or simply a ride to the next city over, can do wonders for their weary soul. 16. Support Sometimes Means Space Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF galaxy animated gif / Via giphy.com Sometimes being there for your friend means giving them some space, and don't take it personally when they ask for it. Some days, checking in via phone or text may be all the support they need. 17. Long Haul Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF NBC Three months, six months, one year later...grief has a way of sticking around. Let your friend know you're still there, and still care.