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    What Trans Women Are Actually Thinking When We Take Selfies

    "Fuck. I am a cutie. Estrogen is fantastic!"

    When people take selfies they usually try to present their best selves. It's even more pressure for trans women because how we look often makes a huge difference in how we're treated, so taking selfies can be a big deal for us.

    I asked some trans women to join me in being totally honest about what we're thinking when we pick up our phones to snap a selfie, and also how it makes us feel. Here's what's on our minds:

    "I'm me and I'm ok with me. People who are unhappy with trans people can get over themselves!" –Liz

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    "I just got felt up by the TSA and I have no idea what gender they perceived me to be so now I feel icky... I wonder if what I see is what they saw." –Maira

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    "I'm a trans woman who loves my hair. All of it." –Annie

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    "If my eyebrows aren't plucked does that mean I'm not 'really' a woman? Do I care?" –Meredith

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    "Totally over it." –Persephone

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    "I always think I'll look horrible but in the end things turn out alright." –Daphne

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    "Good to have warpaint (aka makeup) on so I don't get read as trans and attacked." –Lilith

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    "They say I'm not woman enough because l don't always wear make-up and often get misgendered. Who cares what they think? I am a woman and I love who I am." –Michelle

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    "Fuck. I am a cutie. Estrogen is fantastic!" –Julia

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