It is truly disheartening that we think some violence is dismissible— even entertaining— while other violence is not. If we have the power to recognize abuse in all its forms, I hope we will have the courage to stand up against it when faced with it, as these spectators were. That said, I would like to draw attention to something else happening here on the comment board. A handful of people have shared their experiences of abuse at the hands of women— for that I thank you for sharing and shedding light on this reality— but have ended their stories by calling their aggressor a “psycho.” I want to draw attention to this because I think that kind of summation of character detracts from the seriousness of the situation. It is as if to say someone cannot be abusive without also being mentally ill. Someone can be abusive and be perfectly sane. That is what makes the problem so frightening— you do not have to be “psycho” to be cruel. For the sake of making the frequency of abuse more visible, let’s no longer summarize it as an act by a “psycho—” a person whose mental health is so aberrant as to be unusual, when abuse, in fact, far more common than many realize.