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This Viral Tweet Is Calling Out Why Splitting Bills Evenly Can Actually Be Unfair

"I know this won't be a hot take for people with sense but..."

When it comes to money and relationships, there's definitely no one "right way" to do things. But this viral tweet is calling out the important distinction between splitting all the bills evenly and sharing costs equitably — and it's starting a really interesting conversation.

I know this won’t be a hot take for people with sense but: The division of financial responsibility in a relationship should be equitable not equal. If you make 3x what your partner does, you should pay more because you can. Do a 2:1 split, and cover 70% of the bills.

Twitter: @MxKantEven

The user wrote, "I know this won't be a hot take for people with sense but: The division of financial responsibility in a relationship should be equitable, not equal. If you make 3x what your partner does, you should pay more because you can. Do a 2:1 split, and cover 70% of the bills."

Some people are totally on board with this idea and shared how they handle money with partners and in friendships.

@MxKantEven With the besties, any time 1 of us was down bad the other 3 would make sure the 4th was good for any outing. And we were always conscious about the itinerary. Every👏🏾one👏🏾of👏🏾us👏🏾 had a season on the low rung. Ride for ya peoples 💯

@MxKantEven This is so important. When I could, I paid for the car, my rent, groceries, and most of the dinners out/things like that. Then I got laid off and my partner stepped in and immediately started covering the bills. It’s hard but I’m so grateful for someone who thinks like this.

Twitter: @DezireeBrock

@MxKantEven I always tell people if I make plans and it’s above your price range, just let me know and it will be covered. Growing up dirt poor, there were so many things I never got to do because of money being scarce. If I really want or need you there, I’ll make sure it happens.

Twitter: @DPB0101

Other folks got out their spreadsheets to show a more concrete example of what an equitable split might look like in a relationship.

@MxKantEven @astrophisacist Super basic example, but both partners paying the same percentage of income, even though one is paying ~85% of the total, they're still contributing the same relative amount. Same with a 'going out' account. Both contribute same %, then no fighting or such over who pays the bill.

And some pointed out that when there is a wide inequality in your wages, insisting on splitting bills right down the middle can be a form of financial abuse.

@MxKantEven By demanding equal is how my ex husband financially abused me.

And one user even shared the super-handy calculator they made to help people with the tricky math involved in splitting costs more fairly.

@MxKantEven I made a thing a while back to help calculate this: https://t.co/QZizJbVck7

But not everyone agreed with this idea.

@MxKantEven Absolutely disagree with you. If you are co living with someone, especially in a relationship, you split it equally. You both make a decision to live together, then you are equally responsible for said bills.

Some people worried that it could lead to resentment.

@MxKantEven Sounds like a recipe for resentment. The person paying for more will want more control. This is why ones financial situation is an important factor at the beginning of relationships

Twitter: @ill_loumnotti

And others were surprised by how many couples don't just share all their cash.

@MxKantEven Pretty blown away by the number of long-term/married folks with their spreadsheets out. Like apparently not just sharing everything is a big thing now? Someone referred to it as "being like our grandparents did" so I guess I'm just old beyond my years (like my hairline I guess).

And the conversation is going on elsewhere in other ways, too, like in the conversation surrounding a viral Reddit post about a couple paying for an expensive vacation.

AITA for inviting my (29M) Girlfriend (28F) on an expensive vacation and expecting her to pay all of her share? (I make a lot more than her) https://t.co/bFad8kfOIV

Twitter: @AITA_reddit
  1. So now I'm super curious: What do you think is the best way to split bills with friends and partners?

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So now I'm super curious: What do you think is the best way to split bills with friends and partners?
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    Right down the middle.
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    According to our income.
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    Another way I'll share in the comments.

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