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    Idris Elba Said He Had "Massive Anger Tantrums" In The Beginning Of His Relationship With Wife Sabrina, And He Told Her To "Leave" If She Didn't Like It

    "I was always the first to say, 'Hey, if you're not happy, leave. Move.'"

    Idris Elba and Sabrina Dhowre Elba have been married since 2019.

    Sabrina Dhowre and Idris Elba at the world premiere of "Cats" at Alice Tully Hall, Lincoln Center, in New York City
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    But apparently their relationship wasn't always as strong as it is now.

    Sabrina Dhowre Elba and Idris Elba at Lucky Cat by Gordon Ramsay  launch party in London
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    In a new episode of their Audible podcast Coupledom, Idris revealed that he used to have trouble controlling his frustration when they first started dating.

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    "Sabrina and I, very early in our relationship, I was very stressed, so I had these massive anger tantrums that were like explosions," Idris said.

    Idris Elba and Sabrina Dhowre Elba hold hands at the premiere of "Fast & Furious Presents: Hobbs & Shaw" in Hollywood
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    "She was like, 'Who are you?'" he said.

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    "I was always the first to say, 'Hey, if you're not happy, leave. Move.' It was kind of like a male instinct," he continued.

    Idris Elba and Sabrina Elba attend the 2019 Met Gala celebrating "Camp: Notes on Fashion" at the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York City
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    "Sabrina and I both have strong personalities, and typically it's Sabrina who says, 'Look, I don't want to fight,'" he said. "I've been getting better at it recently, but when I do it, I get nothing back. When she does it, I go, 'Thank you.'"

    Idris Elba and Sabrina Dhowre hold hands the National Film Awards at Porchester Hall in London
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    As with all good relationships, getting through those trying times has only strengthened their connection.

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    "We're newly business partners, but we're also newlyweds. Idris is my best friend," Sabrina added. "I want to be around this guy every day of my life, so it's really great to be able to see what that morphs into."

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    "I'd say we're in a good place. It was a challenging year, but ultimately, when you look to the side and you've got someone that's been there, ride or die, that's really comforting," Idris added.

    In this screengrab, Idris Elba and Sabrina Elba speak during "One World: Together at Home" presented by Global Citizen
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    "We've been literally inseparable since we met. Inseparable," he said of their partnership.

    Sabrina and Idris at the 76th Annual Golden Globe Awards in Beverly Hills
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    Their love story is a reminder that the growing never stops when you’re in a relationship.

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    You can listen to the full podcast here.

    The National Alliance on Mental Illness is 1-888-950-6264 (NAMI) and provides information and referral services; is an association of mental health professionals from more than 25 countries who support efforts to reduce harm in therapy.

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