Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF @refinery29gifs / Via gph.is Often dismissed as a myth, much like the Easter Bunny or Tooth Fairy, female orgasms are just as important to a woman's health as using dental floss. However, not reaching the big ‘O’ is still an issue for many women. Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist who helps people have way more fun in the bedroom, answered the sometimes-taboo questions within her AMA session. From the existence of the G-spot to the vaginal orgasm VS clitoral discussion... Sit back, relax and read on. G-Spot isn't "top secret" pleasure zone like most people think it is. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF @thevoice / Via gph.is One of the coolest facts about the clitoris is that it's actually far larger than most people think! It extends up into the body and splits off into two legs, called crura. Through the G-spot, you can stimulate the crura. When we expect women to orgasm from intercourse, it's basically like asking men to orgasm from getting their testicles rubbed. huffingtonpost.ca / Via huffingtonpost.ca Women can have orgasms from lots of different kinds of stimulation, including breast play, anal play, breath play, and even fantasizing! BUT, when we're talking about the most likely way to have an orgasm, clitoral stimulation is your best bet. The clitoris has 8-9,000 nerve endings while the vagina has so few there isn't even a proper scientific tally. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF dailyedge.ie / Via dailyedge.ie The bottom line is that the clitoris is the center of the universe for female sexuality. If other types of stimulation feel good to you, or if you want to explore feeling pleasure in certain parts of your body, that's awesome! But don't do that exploration with the intention that having a vaginal or a breast or a breath orgasm is somehow "better" or more "advanced" than a clitoral orgasm. Women are taught to believe that they should orgasm vaginally. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF i.kym-cdn.com / Via i.kym-cdn.com Why? Because that's the way that men are supposed to orgasm. We're taught to believe that having an orgasm in this way is "better" than having a clitoral orgasm. But that's some patriarchal BS in my opinion! Masturbation is the best practice for hitting the highest notes. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF octopussoir-.tumblr.com / Via octopussoir-.tumblr.com Masturbate! Masturbation is, hands-down (pun fully intended :) ) the best way for a woman to learn how to have her first orgasm. Wanna meet Vanessa? AMAfeed / Via sexama.amafeed.com As a sex therapist, Vanessa's goal is to help you acknowledge and understand the particular blockages that have been dumped on your shoulders and help you learn to have more fun in the bedroom. Head on over to her website for more details or simply read her AMA session and enjoy the discussion on the topic of female orgasm.