So let me guess, you're trying to be a mix of Cinderella, Mary Poppins, and The Boss?
Cinderella Cinderella, night and day you're Cinderella! Ever feel like that? Stuck on repeat? You go to make your coffee before work and realize there are dishes in the sink. Get home from work, and dishes are still in the sink. At work, you go to reach for something in your purse and find yourself digging through toddler sippy cups, pacifiers, snacks, wipes, teethers, and more? Or, do you find yourself sipping your fifth cup of coffee for the day because at this point you're just running on auto-pilot?
I'm just going to say "heck yes!" to all of the above. You're not alone. Being a mom is hard enough, however, adding working a full-time job and being a wife makes it that much harder. Not only are you balancing your day-to-day activities at work, but you come home and try to cram a day full of housework into a couple of hours. Oh, and don't forget about dinner time, bath time, bedtime, and making lunches for the following day. The joys! Am I right?
Go Grab Your Mom Juice, Things Are About To Get Real.
If you're still following along, then I'm assuming you're at the point of needing some new ideas. Well lucky for you, I've got a few. 5 to be exact! While all of these might not be your cup of tea, they might be for someone you know.
Lists Will Be Your New BFF
Santa isn't the only one who makes a list and checks it twice, I do ALL THE TIME! There is something so satisfying about making a list of all the things you need to do that day and crossing them off. It's like with each crossed-off item, your day gets a little brighter, and that weight you've been carrying gets a little lighter. For example, carry a journal around with you and write down absolutely everything. Need to pick up groceries? Cool, write it down. Need to send an important email or order headshots? Great, get to writing. Want to schedule a nice dinner date with your partner? Awesome, jot it down! Trust me, it sounds silly and so simple but it works wonders. Also, seeing your list of to-do's can make what seems overwhelming, actually quite simple. Bonus: create a family calendar. Track bills, doctor appointments, days you work late, kid games, etc. Get everyone on the same page and fast.
Make Your Bed!
Okay, hear me out. While this might not be at the top of everyone's original list, it should definitely be at the top of yours. Why? It's the FIRST task of the day. That small achievement will make you feel much better. Boom! You just nailed the very first opportunity you had that morning. How great does that feel? Also, it makes your bedroom look MUCH cleaner. Anything that helps your house look clean and takes less than 3 minutes is an absolute must. Let's be honest, you probably aren't intensely cleaning your house during the week and that's okay. If you don't have the time to make your house squeaky clean, don't. I can guarantee that the mess in your house will be there tomorrow.
Stop Skipping Date Night!
While we can all agree that we like to be wined and dined, I feel like it gets skipped over so easily. I mean think about it. You have a super hectic week, work was intense, your children were adorable little menaces, and now you have to go plan a date night?! Ugh, as if?! But, no seriously. You shouldn't skip it. Your marriage is an integral part of your life balance. Your entire wheel is going to be out of whack if you let this fall through the cracks. Date night doesn't have to be a fancy night out or doing something extravagant. Date night can be cooking a pizza from scratch together, going on a hike, or doing karaoke night. Whatever your jam is, go do it! Whether date night is once a week, once a month, or somewhere in the middle. It's important to keep it regular and to make sure it's on your schedule.
Let Go Of Any And All Guilt! Seriously, Stop It.
Guilt is a joy killer. It's time to be like Elsa and LET IT GO! When you have to drop your kids off at daycare there are moments that you will tear up. You will miss them. You will hear them say bye-bye mama for the first time and most likely drive away crying and questioning your decision. I'm here to say that's normal and most likely going to happen. The good news is, you're doing nothing wrong. By now, you've taken the time to find a solid, reliable, loving, and caring daycare that will do everything it can to keep your kiddo happy and safe. You found that childcare. You put them in a good position. You're doing everything you can. Wanting a career is not selfish. Needing to work to provide for your family doesn't make you any less caring than a stay-at-home mom. You are doing the best you can and that looks different for everyone. One consistent thing is that you don't need to feel guilty. Ever.
The Moment We've All Been Waiting For: Alone Time
Sounds so... antisocial when it's put that way, but it's true. Those seldom moments where you can focus on yourself are some of the best few minutes of my week. This is a time where you can check in with yourself. Take note of how you're doing, what's going on, and what you need moving forward. Your mama moment can be anything you want. Maybe that's getting an iced coffee or maybe that's going for a run. Whatever it is, do it for you. And well, probably also for the sake of your family, friends, and coworkers. Having your own time each week, or day, whatever works best for you, is so important to creating a healthy, balanced life. If you're not centered, there is no way everything else around you will be. As Cristina Yang would say, you're the sun! Remember that.