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    39 Gifts For Your Significant Other That Are Secretly For You, Too

    Two for the price of one.

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    1. A question per day journal with lines for both you and your SO, leading to interesting discussion on topics like "Where would you like to travel together?", "What does your partner's laugh sound like?" and "What's the softest thing you're wearing today?"

    Potter Style

    Get it from Amazon for $14.02 or from Bookshop for $15.59 (to support local bookstores).

    2. An Amazon Echo Dot that'll be a a time- and space-saving way to settle all your arguments (and prove you're right, of course).


    In addition to proving YES, that actor WAS in that movie you saw last week, the Dot (powered by Alexa) will tell you the news, weather, play Jeopardy with you, play music, power any connected lights or appliances, and so much more. Google searches? I don't know her.

    Get it from Amazon for $18.99 (originally $49.99; available in four colors). It's 53% off right now!

    Promising review: "Ordered this product, & absolutely love it. It’s amazing seeing and hearing what is really is capable of. Gives me weather updates, traffic updates, etc. One of my favorite things about this product is that I can go into my Alexa app on my cellphone and make reminders. If I have a reminder for my boyfriend, Alexa will let him know what the reminder is. That’s awesome!! Only con to this product is it has to stay plugged in at all times. Originally this product was $59.99 & I got mine for $24.99! It is definitely worth the $59.99! My speaker is fantastic! I couldn’t ask for a better product!" —Onna

    3. A contoured memory foam pillow designed to keep snorers in a ~quieter~ sleeping position — helping them (and you, duh) sleep better every night.

    The curved pillow with five stars and text "this pillow may have saved my marriage!"

    Get it from Amazon for $49.99 (available in six colors).

    Promising review: "I got this to see if it would help with snoring. My snoring isn't in my nose, but rather in the back of the throat/nose. The pillow straightens out my neck and works to prevent snoring when laying on it from back, sides and belly, by apparently straightening and opening up the air passage. Once at night, I was squishing the pillow and had my neck bent and was caught snoring, but 90% of snoring has been gone over the first several days. Super happy with it. Only negative to report is that there is one place to put your head, so I can't flip to the cool side of the pillow if I'm hot. I'm 6'3" too... I think if I was any taller, the pillow wouldn't be thick enough for me." —Rob Lentini

    4. A bottle of odor-busting Poo-Pourri, because their deuces make you want to say ✌️ to your home for the rest of the day.

    Two bottles of original citrus poopourri on the toilet

    Get it from Amazon for $9.95 (available in eight bottle sizes and 19 scents).

    Promising review: "For some horrible reason the airflow in my house moves from the bathroom (even with closed doors) right into both the living room and the master bedroom. This is evil!! Everything that happens in there is shared. It isn't so bad when the smell is body wash; but, when it is air spray, BM, or a combination of the two.......I make my husband use the basement toilet. Cloying air spray is almost as bad as toilet stink and together they are unbearable. Then there was you, Poo-Pourri. 😍 Thank you. I don’t know how this manages to only lightly sent the air while Completely eliminating toilet odor. It is magical. I’m ashamed to admit it; but, this has definitely improved my relationship with my husband. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you." —Alexandra P.

    5. A subscription to Shaker and Spoon, a monthly box delivered right to your door to bring you all the ingredients you need to whip up three tasty cocktail recipes each month. You both need a good happy hour in 2020.

    An example box with lemons and lives, mixers, and recipe cards

    Each recipe comes with all the ingredients you need (minus the actual main booze) to make four of each drink. Each box is themed around one kind of alcohol, so if one month doesn't sound good to you, you can just skip it.

    Subscribe at CrateJoy for $40+ per month.

    Promising review: "This is a great subscription box. It's chock full of fresh, high-quality ingredients. Makes playing home-bartender so much fun! Super easy to follow recipes that look and taste like a pro made them. I highly recommend to the person looking to get out of the rum & coke rut." —Nicki

    6. A shrunk-down tabletop game to make your home feel like a date night out to an arcade. Love means never having to leave the house to play air hockey.

    A hand playing the mini game
    Urban Outfitters

    Get it from Urban Outfitters for $35.

    7. A velvety matte liquid lipstick that'll never transfer onto your skin, whether they're pecking you on the cheek or opting for an entire makeout sesh.

    Lips with different skin tones all wearing the red lipstick

    Get the true red shade pictured above from Amazon for $20 (and check out all the colors available in the Velvetine liquid lipstick here).

    Promising review: "'Soft and velvety,' is what my fiancé says. He says the shade of red is the perfect color. Definitely not drying once it sets. Leaves my lips super soft and matte. Does not transfer while drinking coffee or giving your loved one a kiss on the cheek!! Love, love, love it!!!" —Mandolinsara

    8. An all natural beard balm made with vegan, organic ingredients like argan and avocado oils, plus shea butter and aloe to nourish skin and soften coarse hairs. You're tired of their beard being the scratchiest!

    It has over 14,000 five-star reviews from other beard-havers!

    Get it from Amazon for $11.43.

    Promising review: "RARRRH! I just want to get ALL UP IN THERE with my face and hands when my hubby puts this on!! And I do. LOL! After reading the reviews about the scent I was hesitant because I don't like most colognes and licorice scents make me nauseated but it doesn't smell like that at all to me, in the can or on my man. It's hard to pinpoint but smells so masculine, clean woodsy, and just wonderful manliness to this sensitive schnoz! Much to my chagrin, it fades progressively after a couple of hours. My hubby keeps his beard and 'stache to a trimmed medium/shorter length but I have noticed a big difference in shine and softness with his twice a day use. He also has sensitive skin prone to breakouts and has not had any trouble with this product clogging his pores...or mine. :) He's promo'ed Honest Amish to his bearded buddies as I have to my girlfriends with bearded menfolk. No one product is perfect for 100% of users but we highly recommend you try this stuff. Best stocking stuffer I've ever bought him!" —KCKENDRICK

    9. An Amazon Fire TV stick you can simply plug into your existing TV and stream all the shows, movies, and music you want. Enjoy it with your partner for an at-home date night, or by yourself when you simply can't wait for them to watch that next episode of Riverdale.

    The HDMI stick and remote

    You can use the voice button to find shows, launch apps, search for type of movie ("Alexa find suspense thrillers") OR EVEN ORDER A PIZZA from Dominos!

    Get it from Amazon for $39.99.

    Promising review: "Let's begin with this: I had roku before I moved. I decided to try something different. I bought fire stick and have no regrets.

    First of all, very easy in use. Secondly, voice control is much better. Then, menu is simple. And finally you don't have an additional piece that you are trying to place somewhere and always trying to head your remote in that direction. I put away my regular Remote at all. I just need a firestick Remote from now on. So simple, smart, and easy. My best buy in 2020!" —Anastasiia

    10. A suggestive mug that, when they use it on a Saturday morning, will inadvertently trick them into inviting you to do your favorite activity.

    the mug that says "true crime & chill"

    Get it from Brittany Garner Design on Etsy for $24+ (available in two sizes).

    Brittany Garner Design is a mom-owned Etsy shop based in California making items designed to be giftable and fun.

    11. Read This if You Want to Take Great Photographs, a useful and pretty photography guide so they can develop their burgeoning interest... and also so they'll take pics guaranteed to up your 'gram followers.

    The book
    Lawrence King

    It has tips from over 50 famous photographers, and guides across five sections: composition, exposure, light, lenses and the "art of seeing."

    Get it from Amazon for $9.99, Target for $9.99, or Bookshop for $16.55 (to support local bookstores).

    12. A sampler kit of aperitifs so they'll make *both* of you a happy hour drink on a regular basis. These are perfect for sipping on the rocks or making into cocktails or spritzes, because everyday bubbly celebrations are a gift unto themselves.

    The four bottles

    It comes with two 200-ml bottles of the following flavors: citrus flower, rose rosé, bitter clove, and lemon lavener.

    Get the sampler from Haus for $40.

    Promising review: "I love the opportunity to try all the flavors prior to investing in the large bottle, although my first large bottle clove was fantastic! I can see where some flavors might be more delightful based on season. I also like the idea of a taste test, comparing all four side by side. The sampler bottle size is generous; small but gets the job done. I love the opportunity to try all then gift by mail or as a hostess gift." —Cindi O.

    13. A Hello Fresh gift subscription, because they've expressed an interest in learning to cook, but you're expressed NO interest in tasting their weird experiments.

    The recipe card and completed steak and couscous dinner
    Hello Fresh

    Choose between the two-person plan or the family plan, and you'll get 2-4 recipes each week with every step mapped out. It's delivered right to your door with fresh, locally sourced ingredients— in just the right amounts you need.

    Get a Hello Fresh gift card in any amount from $65+ (they suggest different amounts and tell you how many meals for how many people it covers!).

    14. A beautiful blank genealogy chart so you can trace your family trees together for display on your wall.


    Get it from Amazon for $16.99. Also available in a colorful version.

    Promising review: "Chart is nice quality. I filled it out, put it in a nice frame and hung it in the hallway. It looks great, and is a nice conversation piece. I love seeing my husband's and my lineage at a glance!" —Shizarla13

    If you're interested in learning even more about your family history, you can also give a 23andMe DNA testing kit. Just mail in a saliva sample, and you'll get results delivered in 6-8 weeks!

    15. A pair of stylish slim-fit joggers if you're tired of seeing them in those ratty, holes-everywhere sweatpants. Now you won't be embarrassed to be seen with them on last-minute grocery runs.


    Get them from Amazon for $21.90+ (available in men's sizes S–2X and nine colors).

    Promising review: "These are my new favorite joggers. Then are definitely a slim fit, not baggy like traditional jogging pants. For the price they are good quality. Overall, I am happy with the purchase. Don't eye 'em, buy 'em." —Watkins3

    16. A scratch off map of the world you can fill out to encourage future trips together. Any place that's still gold? Plan a vacation! Plus it comes with a separate U.S. map for scratching off individual states.

    A family scratching off the gold map on a black background

    It has flags printed on the bottom you can scratch off too! It even comes with stickers so you can document your adventures each place.

    Get it from Amazon for $19.98.

    Promising review: "This scratch map is so much fun! I’ve been scratching off the states and countries and realizing how much I’ve seen and how much more I want to see! The scratch-off portion is easy to remove, and two different scratchers are provided (metal for detail work, plastic for larger areas). They also include a magnifying glass for the tiny places. I also like that the travel map has the country flags to scratch off as well. I am giving the US map to my daughter to track her travels as she grows up." —Alexandra

    17. A stovetop espresso maker that'll brew two cups at once — meaning they basically have no excuse not to make one for you at the same time.

    The green pot with two espresso cups

    Get it from the MoMA store for $48.

    18. Or a half-gallon cold brew maker, because mornings will go much more smoothly when there's enough delicious iced coffee to go around. Just twist the lid and pour — and be on your way.

    The three steps for making cold brew: fill with grounds, brew, then enjoy

    It comes with a removable filter for easy brewing (it works best with a coarser, French press–style grind). And it stores airtight to keep any ~fridge smells~ from making their way into your brew.

    Get it from Amazon for $28.99 (also available in a smaller one-quart size).

    Promising review: "We use this all the time in my house. A little less than when I initially bought it, as there's less call for cold brew in the winter, but it still gets some use. I generally prefer glass to plastic in my kitchen, but the body of it seems to have held up well despite extensive and extended use. I certainly recommend it if you're looking tired of making cold brew at home with the mason jar method, but still don't want to spill the cash for a fancier-than-necessary alternative." —Matthew Baird

    I have the smaller version of this and I LOVE IT! Check out my full review for all the deets.

    19. A Prime membership to give the gift of free two-day shipping, streaming movies, TV, and music, exclusive products and deals, and a selection of Kindle e-books. It's not like you're going to use it too.... or will you?

    The Prime Membership banner

    Get a three-month gift membership for $39 and a 12-month membership for $119.

    20. A super slim Anker portable battery with two USB ports so ~both~ of your devices can be charging at the same time. Oh, and by the way, it has over 32,000 FIVE-STAR REVIEWS!

    The charging capacities

    Its capacity charges the iPhone 8 almost seven times, the Galaxy S8 five times or the iPad mini 4 twice.

    Get it from Amazon for $33.99.

    Promising review: "I travel for a living, and have always needed a portable charger. Finding plug ins at airports or on planes can be a hit or miss. Having long days of work then directly hitting a travel day can not always allow time for charging. This thing literally never dies. Longest lasting charger I have ever had. I was out in London all day, phone nearly dead and had to go straight to the airport. for a 9 hour flight back to the USA. This charger charged my phone the ENTIRE flight, then on my service car my coworker needed to charge his phone. I had meetings all day and then a dead phone and I charged my phone to a full 100% again! This is a MUST HAVE PRODUCT." —Kyle G.

    21. A three-inch memory foam mattress topper so *your* sleep will never be interrupted when *they* toss and turn. Maybe a mattress topper seems like a weird present, but honestly the gift of a good night's sleep is the best gift of all.

    The swirly blue topper on a bed

    Plus it's infused with heat-absorbing gel so you both stay cool (and sweat-free) all night.

    Get a queen size from Amazon for $85.99 (for a queen; available in sizes twin–king).

    Promising review: "Best night of sleep I've had in my bed in a long time. I'm a side and stomach sleeper, and this provides plenty of support for that. I used to not sleep that well on my back, but it's EXTREMELY comfortable. No more tossing and turning for me." —Megan

    22. A Kindle Paperwhite (discounted for Cyber Week!) with a glare-free backlit screen that looks like an actual book page, so they won't keep you up when they can't put their book down. Turn the lamp off, once and for all!

    The glare-free tablet

    Being able to read in a completely dark room?? 🎶 Miracles happen, once in a while. 🎶

    Get it from Amazon for $84.99+. It's currently $45 off, originally $129.99+

    Promising review: "My new kindle is great! My last kindle didn’t have the backlight and my new one does. This is a great feature, especially for those of us that like to read in bed at night while our spouse is sleeping. The light is also adjustable so your eyes don’t tired. This is truly my favorite way to read!" —Shannon Lewis

    23. Or a hands-free book light that'll simply hang around their neck and focus all the glow on the page — not on your sleeping face. Plus, they won't have to keep adjusting it from page to page, creating less noise.


    Get it from Amazon for $13.29.

    Promising review: "Love this book light. I use it when everyone in the house is asleep and I don't want to keep the lights on. I still want to read something until it's time for my sleep so this small light is perfect. It has a bright LED light and because it's flexible I can shine it directly on what I read. This is the second time I order this. I've even ordered this to give as a gift. Perfect for what I use it for." —Hula maiden

    24. A hilarious yet useful cuddling pillow so they can feel the joy of being the little spoon... without your arm falling asleep.

    A model being spooned by the pillow shaped like a torso with an arm

    Get it from Amazon for $37.95+ (available in five colors).

    Promising review: "Was not for me, bought this pillow for my girlfriend and told me she sleeps very comfortable now. Might even replace me. Thanks a lot. ):" —John Medina

    25. A nifty notepad perfect for sending little love letters to each other. You can fill out the top one when you give it to them — and the rest of the pad? Guess they'll be sent to you! 😍

    the "what I love about you" notepad with suggestions of what to say

    Get it from Amazon for $10.02 (available in 13 other notepad styles).

    Promising review: "With this pad, it is incredibly easy to be both romantic and efficient. I've been using this consistently for a few months now — filling out a sheet when I feel especially enamored with my partner and sending it to his apartment. This way, he gets a delayed but genuine affirmation of my appreciation for him, which makes him feel appreciated and woo-ed. It's a really fun and easy way to do that, because what's easier than checking off a few boxes? My roommates and I use the Knock Knock pads for a variety of things--especially this one and the one for grocery shopping lists." —Rachel F.

    26. BuzzFeed Tasty Ultimate cookbook, a collection of 150 recipes, kitchen hacks, and the best techniques, because you've watched the videos like a bajillion times together, and you want them to cook one for you, dangit!

    The cover of the book
    BuzzFeed Tasty

    Get it from Amazon for $16.23, Target for $29.99, or from Bookshop for $22.30.

    27. Or an Instant Pot for whipping up press-the-button-and-watch-the-magic-happen dishes and meals — maybe they'll finally ~get cooking~ on all those recipes they have saved.

    Use it to make low-effort rice, pressure cooked dishes, slow cooked dishes, and so so so so so much more.

    Get a three-quart Instant Pot from Amazon for $59 (also available in six-quart and eight-quart sizes).

    Promising review: "I can't believe that I love this thing. All my friends were getting them and raving about it. But I absolutely hate my slow cooker, and I figured this device would be much the same. I finally decided to get one when my friend posted that she had made amazing carnitas in it. My husband is Mexican and carnitas are his favorite food, so I thought I'd get one to try it out and hope everyone was right. The first thing I made (after the water test) was the carnitas and they KNOCKED OUR SOCKS OFF. Then I made rice and it came out better than my old rice cooker. Tonight I made ribs and the entire family went wild. I've had this Instant Pot for roughly 48 hours and I'm already using it for a fourth time right now to make oatmeal. Get one. You will not be sorry." —Regina Croskey-Corcoran

    Still wondering if this is right for you? Check out I Tried The Instant Pot That Everyone's Obsessed With for an in-depth look.

    28. A straight-up closet doubling hanging rack to help organize their stuff... and also give YOU significantly more closet room.

    The bar with shirts on hung below a closet rod

    Get one from Amazon for $16.52.

    Promising review: "Well, I ordered this one, after listening to my husband complain about how much clothing my girls have and how cluttered the closet looks. He advised me to get rid of some of the clothes, so I ordered this product to see if we could organize it better. Wow, it is just amazing how much space this little thing can create. The closet does not look messy or bulky anymore, it definitely doubled the space in the closet. One thing I really like is that you can move the bottom bar as you need it, and the clothing in the bottom has enough space. Those little hooks to hang purses and hats —wow, great idea. I got another to organize my closet, and I am so excited to see the end result." —Amazon Customer

    29. A plush corgi they'll fall in love with so hard, they'll finally acquiesce to your wish to finally get a pupper of your own.


    Get it from Amazon for $14.99 (available in three colors and two sizes).

    30. A sushi-making kit so you can both save money by whipping up rolls at home rather than frequenting Seamless a little too often.


    The set includes a training frame, non-stick paddle, and the SushiQuik Roll Cutter.

    Get the kit from Amazon for $29.99.

    Promising review: "Made sushi for the first time last night and it was awesome!!! This thing is so easy!! I was able to make rolls with rice on the outside with no problem — just added a little water to the roll mat and voila! I purchased eel sauce and made spicy mayo and put them in squirt bottles to give the platter that restaurant look. I also added black sesame seeds to the outside of one and a very inexpensive black caviar to another. My guests and husband were all amazed!" —Beach Mom

    31. A reversible sequin pillow you can run your hands over to reveal the hidden face beneath. Surprise your S.O. with a cute sequin pillow, and watch their face when they realize there's ~something else~ beneath. It's Keanu!

    The pillow in four photos showing the sequence from solid gold to keanu's face

    Get it from Amazon for $10.99 (available in four colors).

    32. Queer Eye: Love Yourself. Love Your Life., so you can reap all the rewards of a Fab Five makeover, complete with tips and tricks & dos and don'ts for fashion, food, decor, style, and even self-branding help.

    The cover of the book
    Clarkson Potter Publishers

    Get it from Amazon for $19.36 or from Bookshop for $27.59 (to support local bookstores)

    33. A pair of Han and Leia pillowcases to express your love on the daily — with the added bonus of never getting your pillows mixed up again.

    The two pillowcases: one that says I love you with princess leia's hairstyle, the other with "I know" and a blaster

    Get them from Amazon for $14.99 (also available in two other styles).

    Promising review: "Perfect for both a Star Wars fan and a low-key second wedding anniversary gift. Plus now I know when hubby tried to steal 'my' pillow." —Kristen in Florida

    34. A crepe-making set complete with 12-inch nonstick griddle, wooden spreader, and spatula to ensure the lightest, thinnest crepes outside of Paris.

    The round griddle with two wooden tools

    One reviewer used it to make jianbing too — YUM.

    Get it from Amazon for $46.87.

    Promising review: "I bought this crepe maker because it was inexpensive and I wasn't sure how easy to would be to do crepes. I can't say enough how pleased I am with the product. The crepes come out consistently good every time. It is extremely easy to clean by just wiping it down after every use. I made dessert crepes for my daughter's party with friends and it was a complete hit!!! No trouble, and I was able to cook them to right there and then. it's that easy! the temperature is very precise and no hot spots. Cooks evenly." —Amazon Customer

    35. And a stylish tray with raised edges so those crepes can be delivered for breakfast in bed without making a big ole mess.

    The black tray with dessert, tea, and a laptop

    Get it from Amazon for $27.99 (also available in walnut).

    Promising review: "I bought this tray for my husband, so when he eats on the sofa his food doesn't end up everywhere. Predictably, upon arrival he told me he 'didn't need that,' but started using it right away, and uses it every day now. He also uses it to do his daily crossword puzzle, pay the bills, etc. I have one that is similar but heavier, because it is a different type of wood. Now I want one like his!" —Elizabeth Sisongdeth

    36. A Little Box of Date Nights with 60 cards of activities to ~spice up your life~ so you don't have to resort to "Idk, what do YOU want to do?"

    The box of cards

    Each card lists the ~mood~ of the date, the time level and cost, plus a question to talk about!

    Get it from Flytrap Life on Etsy for $21.

    FlyTrap Life is a woman-owned Etsy shop making fun gifts for couples.

    37. A copy of the Llama Sutra that'll put the ~adult~ in "adult coloring." Talk about an 😉 activity book😉!

    The cover of the book
    Createspace Independent Publishing Platform

    Get it from Amazon for $6.99 or from Bookshop for $6.99 (to support local bookstores).

    38. A glass mug that'll really come in handy when one of you is deciding when to ask a favor early in the morning.

    The mug with lines marking the level of the coffee saying "shhhhh" "almost' and "now you may speak"

    Get it from Amazon for $14.95.

    Promising review: "I ended up giving this mug to an older brother for a gift. He loved it. Knowing that he should never be addressed before his first cup of coffee (he was that way as a teenager too) he still has a sense of humor. He actually guffawed when he read it but then looked meaningfully at my sister-in-law. Ah well — it is a great fit for those of us who can't wake up to conversation first thing in the morning." —North Woods Sally

    39. An elegant cheese board with cracker slots, because your 2021 resolution is more wine-and-cheese dinners just for two — and this board miiiight just have enough room.

    The cheese board with suggested layout

    It's made from environmentally-friendly bamboo, and it even has the names of different cheeses emblazoned on it for a ~fancier~ look.

    Get it from Amazon for $19.97.

    Promising review: "I absolutely love this charcuterie and cheese board! The hubby and I love winding down with some wine, cheese and charcuterie. We have tried other boards, and usually the crackers tumble off the board as I walk from the kitchen to the couch (Yes I am clumsy). The nice thing about this board is that is comes with grooves on each side to hold things like crackers, or olives or nuts, things that usually roll off my other boards haha." —Foreverjaded

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