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    People Are Confessing Things They Secretly Hate About Their Partner, And Honestly, Yikes

    "Sometimes, I feel like I have to be his mother just to get him to be a responsible adult."

    Recently Reddit user Familiar_Stranger936 asked, "What do you hate about your partner, but can’t tell them?" and people shared lighthearted and serious pet peeves about their partner that they feel they could never, ever share with them.

    Here are some of the top-voted responses:

    1. "How low her patience is and how fast she can get irritated. I know how she is, and I know she doesn’t mean it 99% of the time, but sometimes, it has me overthinking, and I feel like she just hates me."


    2. "His snoring. It's not something he can necessarily control, but he snores SO loud that it disrupts my sleep."


    3. "He disappears every night, rather than spending time with me and the kids. Doesn’t help with cleaning up after dinner, even though I always cook. Complains about being tired when I am the only one getting up with our baby for the night feed."

    A mom looks overwhelmed, while caring for her baby alone

    4. "How indecisive she can be. We've talked, and she's doing better. But it is extremely exhausting to plan nearly every single date/event/thing we do."


    5. "That when a responsibility becomes too hard, he just doesn't do it and allows things to fester and become worse. I have no clue why he does this, and I feel like I have to be his mother sometimes just to get him to be a responsible adult."

    "Our storage that was lost, a tooth abscess that caused him intense pain I'm forcing him to deal with, and him not paying the registration on our car, and it almost getting repossessed."


    6. "He’s a bad kisser. I tried hard to communicate and help in the beginning of the relationship, but nothing worked or stuck. It’s been a lot of years. I gave up."

    A couple about to kiss

    7. "That any time I upset him, an apology isn't enough. I have to do some sort of action, but he won't tell me what and gets mad that I can't read his mind to figure it out."


    8. "He’s really, really bad at taking criticism. Really bad. And I can’t tell him this because feedback loop, etc."


    9. "That they expect an apology for every hurt feeling, but almost never take accountability or apologize for their own actions when they hurt other people."

    Someone sits alone looking at a wall, deep in thought

    10. "He's not very intellectual. He’s a sweet, caring guy and incredible otherwise, but sometimes I get frustrated with our conversations and the lack of mental stimulation."


    11. "My wife took singing lessons as a kid. She is certain that she has a great singing voice — she does not. It’s so hard to be in the same house when she’s singing, but I love her dearly and would never ask her to stop."


    12. "We’re completely different regarding physical affection."

    A couple holding hands in bed

    13. "Neither of our families are perfect, but his is just awful. Always drama. Always making things so personal and so difficult. His family is the only reason I do not want to have a wedding ceremony."


    14. "I hate how she’s a bad listener. Never wants to know about my day, never takes my advice, never wants to know what’s wrong with me."


    15. "She's a slob. Piles dishes on, clothes go on the floor, cups left everywhere. You wouldn't think it if you were company."

    A bunch of clothes messily stuffed in a laundry basket and laying on the floor

    16. "Sometimes, he just won’t stop talking. He has terrible awareness of when someone’s trying to leave a conversation. I’ll be trying to watch a movie or something, and he’ll just be chatting away at me. And when he drinks, it gets worse. I just want to say, 'I love you, but please shut the hell up,' but I don’t want to hurt his feelings."

    "He’s still really cute though."


    17. "Everything else about her is perfect. But I could say something, and she just gets quiet and passive for days at a time. Like, what the f**k did I do? I genuinely don’t know, and I can’t apologize if I don’t know what I did."


    18. "That he’s an angry person who lacks empathy, but if I try to tell him, that just makes him even angrier. Walking on eggshells is not cool."

    Someone sits alone in a dark room, head in hands as if they're overwhelmed

    19. "Her brothers are a-holes. I totally dislike them."


    20. "We don't fight a lot. We've been together for three and a half years, and maybe fought five times ever? But when we do, he goes SILENT. Goes to bed, won't talk, and freaks out if I even dare get near him. Maybe he'll talk the next day, but even then, it can't be a conversation. He says his piece, and that's all he allows. It's such an unhealthy way of resolving issues."


    And finally...

    21. "That I feel loved but not wanted."

    Someone nervously adjusts their wedding ring on her finger nervously while sitting in a coffee shop

    Do you have something you secretly "hate" about your partner but never opened up about it? Let us know in the comments below.

    Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.