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This Canadian Man Is Trying To "Destroy" His Ex-Wife's Life With A Revenge Site

"He's trying to get me to commit suicide and I won't do it."

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For years, a Burnaby, B.C. man has waged an online campaign to destroy his ex-wife's life. He maintains a website impersonating her and admits he has no moral qualms about killing her. And for years, law enforcement has been unable to stop him.

Patrick Fox has been running the website created to denigrate Desiree Capuano, who lives in Arizona, since January 2014. It calls her a "a drug addict, a child abuser, a white supremist, a narcissist, and just an all around bad person." Among the pages are dozens of photos of Capuano and her boyfriend, as well as detailed personal information.

One section contains emails sent between Capuano and Fox, including some copied to their 15-year-old son. In one of those emails, he says their son asked if Fox would ever shoot Capuano:

I told him that murder is illegal and immoral and can result in spending the rest of one's life in prison. And that the rest of my life in prison is not a risk I'm willing to take. But otherwise, no, I would have no qalms [sic] about it; that that is how much I despise you for the things you've done and continue to do.

Capuano told BuzzFeed Canada that Fox has sent the website in mass email campaigns to colleagues and friends ​of her. He's also taken out Google ads to ensure it shows up in local search results.

In one blog post, he admits that his "primary goal in life, until the day I die, is to do absolutely everything I can (within the confines of the laws of the jurisdiction I happen to be in at the time) to destroy Desiree's life and to cause her to experience as much misery as possible."

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Fox was arrested by the RCMP in 2015 but the Crown declined to press criminal harassment charges because they decided Capuano's physical safety was not threatened.

She says that just emboldened him more.

"When they dropped the charges that's how he took it, that he was completely 100% allowed to do what he was doing," Capuano, 35, told BuzzFeed Canada.

A court order issued in Arizona last year prohibits Fox from emailing her, but the website remains active and Capuano said she can't afford the legal fees to take on Fox in civil court.

Fox, who was deported from the U.S. back to Canada, told CBC News won't stop until Capuano is either dead, homeless, or relinquishes custody of their son.

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Fox and Capuano split up in 2001, when their son was a year and a half old. According to Capuano, he had been emotionally abusive throughout the relationship and says Fox hid their child from her after the separation.

She regained custody in 2011 as Fox served a two-year prison sentence in the U.S. for perjury. That's what started Fox's campaign to "destroy her."

"I made it clear to her that if she returned our son to me, the son that I had custody of his whole life up until this, we would just put everything behind us," Fox told CBC News in a recent interview.

He makes no denials or apologies about what he's done, telling CBC he warned her he would "devote the rest of my life to doing everything that I could — legally of course — to ruin her life and destroy her."

Isabel Grant, a law professor at the University of British Columbia, told BuzzFeed Canada that despite the Crown's decision, she think this is a clear case of criminal harasssment.

"Criminal harassment requires that he knows he’s harassing her. Well, we’ve got proof of that," said Grant.

"It requires that she has fears for her safety or the safety of others. What the Crown is saying is that because she lives far away from him, the reasonable part is not satisfied here. That’s outrageous."

Even if the Crown believes Capuano isn't physically threatened, Grant said harassment includes mental safety.

"Destroying her in this way is just as harmful as if he is hitting her," said Grant, especially "in light of him going on national TV and boasting that he will stop at nothing until she’s dead."

Grant says the law has yet to catch up to the realities of intimate partner violence and harassment that now includes social media and other electronic communication.

"He's trying to get me to commit suicide and I won't do it," she said.

Desiree Capuano

"I know what he wants to do is make me hide and try to control everything in my life and make it so I don’t have anything," she added. "So I figured I would go public because as awful as it is at least I’m in control of it."

In the mean time the website has impacted her ability to find a job and she lives with the fear that anyone she comes into contact with could be pulled into the website.

"I can’t have social media, everything that I do is watched, every move I make is watched. I can’t let anything happen for fear that he will find out," she said.

"It’s like being raped and having to give people the video of it over and over and over and having them watch it and having to explain it over and over and over."

According to CBC, the Crown says the case is not closed and "it would look at it again if police obtained new evidence."

Lauren Strapagiel is Managing Editor for BuzzFeed News and is based in Toronto, Canada.

Contact Lauren Strapagiel at lauren.strapagiel@buzzfeed.com.

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