Health·Posted on Mar 1, 201619 Things People With Depression Want You To Know When You're Dating ThemBe present.by Lara ParkerBuzzFeed StaffFacebookPinterestTwitterMailLink We asked the BuzzFeed Community to share their best advice when dating someone with depression. Here are the thoughtful responses. 1. Don't force them to talk about it. Bravo / Via giphy.com Submitted by Amanda Baker, Facebook 2. Don't try to be the "fix" for their depression. They probably aren't looking for a fix... just support and understanding. NBC Submitted by Katie Holzhause, Facebook 3. Remember that just because you are dating them does not mean they will automatically be happier or "cured." CW A relationship (even a loving, healthy one) is not a cure for someone's depression and/or anxiety.Submitted by Amy Joyce, Facebook 4. And keep in mind that someone who is depressed can be happy at times, and feel helpless at other times. Walt Disney Productions / Via gif-database.tumblr.com Submitted by Katie Holzhause, Facebook 5. Let them know that it's OK to feel sad, down, and anything else. Just allow them to feel. Paramount Pictures Submitted by Ariane Bruno, Facebook 6. Try not to offer up "easy solutions" like exercising more, or appreciating what they have. Logo TV / Via blog.djcronut.com Chances are, they might feel like you assume they aren't trying to get better at all, which isn't usually the case.Submitted by Katie Holzhause, Facebook 7. Don't let their depression walk all over you. Set boundaries and stick to them and know when to throw in the towel. The WB Submitted by Azure Adams, Facebook 8. Know that the state of their mental health is not indicative of the state of your relationship. Via booky-gifs.tumblr.com Submitted by Melissa Jackson, Facebook 9. Be patient. 20th Century Fox / Via imgur.com Submitted by libbyjohnson 10. Give them their alone time, and give yourself alone time, too. Logo TV / Via realitytvgifs.tumblr.com Submitted by William Sheldon Smith, Facebook 11. For every negative thought they have, challenge them to think of a real, positive thought. Bravo / Via realitytvgifs.tumblr.com Submitted by Ali Beeblebrox, Facebook 12. And if they prefer to talk to someone else, or a therapist over you, don't take it personally. Warner Bros. Movies / Via 8ast.tumblr.com It probably makes them feel guilty to talk to you... like they're burdening you.Submitted by Amanda Baker, Facebook 13. Try to redirect their focus. NBC Have them play with the pet, watch a movie, go for a walk, play 20 questions, or ask each other silly questions about the world and debate for hours.Submitted by Krystal Watanabe, Facebook 14. If they're seeing a therapist, go to a session together. Universal Pictures It will allow for more open and honest conversation and understanding.Submitted by Miranda Kramlich, Facebook 15. Remember to take care of yourself first. Seriously. You can only be strong for them, after you're strong for yourself first. NBC Submitted by Wynne Baker, Facebook 16. Urge them to seek professional help if they are not receiving any. Lionsgate Films It may seem harsh, but sometimes it just takes some extra encouragement.Submitted by Claire Sparks, Facebook 17. Find a group, either in person or online, of others battling depression with their partners. NBC You may learn coping mechanisms, or draw strength and hope from all those who've successfully fought a shared enemy, or are currently in the trenches with you.Submitted by Justin Coffey, Facebook 18. Create a code word for when they really need you to be understanding, or need to remove yourself from a social situation. CBS Submitted by emzillaj 19. And don't feel like you always have to say something. Just be there. FOX Submitted by mollyc4dc773567 Want to be featured on BuzzFeed? Follow the BuzzFeed Community on Facebook and Twitter!