Been Ghosted? Ghosted Someone? Take Our Survey!

We’re working on a story about ghosting and online dating and would love to hear about your experiences.

This is a survey about ghosting for an upcoming BuzzFeed News story. The answers you submit may be used in an interactive graphic about the subject and published on BuzzFeed’s website.

Please note that in regard to this story, we will define “ghosting” as the act of cutting off all contact with someone without telling them why, and which is usually associated with the “ghostee” feeling some degree of confusion and pain.

Feel free to get in touch with any questions: [e-mail]

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How do you define ghosting?
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Tell us about the most memorable time you were ghosted.
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What did you feel the person who ghosted you owed you?
For instance, what would you have wanted them to do instead of ghosting you?
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At what point does someone owe you some form of closure?
	Yes	No	It depends
After messaging with you
After going on one date
After going on more than one date
After having sex
After meeting your friends
After meeting your family
Please enter one response per row
My answer isn't listed above. I think someone owes me some form of closure when:
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How did you meet the person who ghosted you?
• Through friends
• At a bar or restaurant
• In elementary school, high school, or college
• At a religious institution (church, mosque, temple, etc.)
• Online
• Other:
Tell us about the most memorable time you ghosted someone.
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What were your reasons for ghosting them?
	Yes	No
I wasn’t into them.
I was angry at them.
They did something I disliked.
I was afraid of them.
I was in a bad emotional state (independent from them).
Please enter one response per row
My answer isn't listed above. I ghosted them because:
How did you meet the person you ghosted?
• At a bar or restaurant
• Online
• In elementary school, high school, or college
• At a religious institution (church, mosque, temple, etc.)
• Through friends
• Other:
What’s the one piece of advice you would give someone who has been ghosted and feels hurt by it?

About you

(These questions are optional.)
Where are you based?
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What is your gender?
• Male
• Female
• Nonbinary / genderqueer
• Prefer not to say
What is your sexual orientation?
• Straight
• Gay or Lesbian
• Bisexual
• Queer
• Prefer not to say
What is your age range?
• 17 and younger
• 18–24
• 25–34
• 35–44
• 45–54
• 55–64
• 65 and older
Anything else you want to tell us?
Feel free to share other thoughts with us and/or your contact information if you're open to talking with us more about this story.
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